Can a player really change his ways?

[Anonymous]

I like this guy. He calls me often and he has always treated me nicely. We have hung out a few times and I've started to like him. The thing is, he has a bad reputation at my school. Last year he hooked up with a lot of trashy girls and did some crazy stuff (typical for college guys). But he has said to me all along that he is using this year to change his reputation. He has told me that he hasn't hooked up with anyone since he met me. At that point I was really surprised because I did not feel like he was taking it that seriously. I had even kissed a few other guys at that point. Since then we haven't really hung out much but he still contacts me often. We're about to see each other a lot again once we go back to school. Am I wasting my time or can players really change when they want to?

[TimB -1-2-3]

Sure.. If he REALLY wants to and if he is disciplined enough to do so.

If either of those are missing, you are wasting your time.

Remember that change can only come from WITHIN someone.

If he says he wants to change, but doesn't have it in his heart, so to say, you are wasting your time.

If he says he can do it, but he is severely lacking in discipline and motivation, you are wasting your time.

The general rule is: let the player go. At some point in his life he will fall flat on his face. It is that time that realization will come up. If you're lucky, he'll see the need to change. If you're not, well...

You wouldn't believe the amount of girls who tried to 'change' a bad boy, a player, a general d***head, or whatever character flaw the person has. It just doesn't work, and the girls themselves get consumed by it.

As long as the change doesn't come from within HIMSELF, get the f*ck out.. For your own good.

So observe. Decide. IS he really changing? Or is he still the same person? Do I take my chances with this guy? Or would it be the smart move to let him go?

Have a nice day, regardless..

Tim

[asdg12]

I recently saw a movie 'Play The Game', cheesy but a cute movie, about almost I feel the same situation. If he sees something in you, that he hasn't seen in other girls it's possible to make him stick around rather then just bounce to another girl. He has to know that you're not just a one time thing and if he really wants you that he'll have to work for you and that after he gets it, it'd be best to stick around. Good Luck

[yixingxu13]

okay, well honestly, I think you're wasting your time. my personal experience: this guy was a complete flirt and player. he said similar things, but they ended up all just being lines and I believed them. I mean, if I was in your position, I'd say "prove it to me.", yah know? I hope that my advice helped, and good luck with everything! ^.^

[emilyzenella]

i think they can but it is just hard for them to lose their reputation so be careful don't give in for a really long time. If you wanna go out with him go ahead but just don't put out for a really long time to see if he actually loves you and isn't just playing games

[Maddygirl]

Just start dating and wait a few months and if he still hasn't pressured you for sex, then believe that he changed

[mebeethree]

Everyone can change..though time is a big factor and whether he's willing to change

[dowser19]

College forced me to drop the whole player act! I found my cocky self face to face with 1 cute face after another trying to be all smooth and ignore it so I could play it off and feed my ego. U can't against them. It's impossible 😕By the count of 3, unable to ignore it my mouth would finally just drop open all the way and I'd be all uhhh😲😲😲😲! I'd find my pride trashed, looking right into a solid poker face every time and I was like ugh! Just finally dropped the act completely... so yeah, we can change, and do! Have to get taught a lesson for it to happen, but I did.

[Lockjawx27]

Either accept being another notch in his belt or move on. Those are your options. He will just add you to the list of women he conquered. You honestly believe you can change a player?

Sandra Bullok couldn't...

Jennifer Aniston couldn't...

No woman can tame a player. Find a nice guy that deserves you. Stop lusting after males that ALREADY HAVE PLENTY OF WOMEN.

[jaycon]

he can change.. I had the same lifestyle till I met my gf.. I haven't looked at another girl twice since then

[eidahl]

How is he a player if he hooked up with a 'lot of trashy girls'? Isn't a player someone who manipulates normal, non-slutty girls? Give him a chance.

[Darkuressento]

In my opinion there is a very low chance that this guy will change his way at the age at he at right now.

[pezzonovante88]

Its bullsh*t, even if he believes it himself. Waste of time unless you want a quick f***.

[TheCheshireCat]

no