Do you think Men really hate gold diggers or just hate the fact that they can't afford them?

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Unit1 · Accepted Answer

Recently i became what i hated for such a long time. Karma literally got to me.
i used to hate gold diggers and rich sugar daddies. I can't say i was jealous because i don't like how it works myself.
but here i am, paying young, beautiful women my money so they'll spend a few hours with me and are giving me erotic massage with happy ending.

i am left with no other choice. Women's love is my favorite drug. So is Trazodone.

loveslongnails · Accepted Answer

My dear friend Coach... the way I figure it is... If a man can afford a gold digger, why bother to get into a "relationship" with one and put yourself at risk of being leveraged? If you know she's into you for the money only, why expose yourself? Just hire great looking call girls to fill the same function, and you can change them up whenever you like !! It will cost less, and you won't be at risk !!

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

Ha ha ha right? I think the haters are the ones who would go for that type if they could afford it. Because if men really hate women like that, why are so many with women like that? And the ones that aren't? Still spend an awful lot of time talking about em instead of the ones that aren't that way.

Sheyhoney · Accepted Answer

If I’m looking at this from a mans perspective, why the FUCK would I want to afford a gold digger when I can find someone that loves me? It makes no sense why they’d get mad at not “affording” one

Investigator · Answer

The premise of female gold diggers is that they are women that demand a high maintenance fee, and they justify their exorbitant demands by being desirable to men--either being by good in bed or just for social validation. Now, the question of "do men hate gold diggers because they can't afford them" invites the cost:benefit analysis: if gold diggers are really only disliked because some men can't afford them while others can, then they are basically walking Veblen objects. Most Veblen objects give the buyer some kind of intrinsic function or utility, independent of the initial cost and--for the people who can afford them--they are typically one-time purchases or maybe they are bought on a lease. A luxury car is still a car, a yacht is still a boat, and a Rolex is still a watch--they are expensive items, but they still possess some innate feature that gives them value apart from just being expensive.

Gold diggers, on the other hand, don't typically come with such benefits. They may be more attractive or "hot" in bed than the average woman, but unless they actually possess some skill that some other woman who doesn't want a king's ransom also has, any woman could fill that role and probably for a lot less. As such, it isn't so much that men can't afford them as the idea of a woman being by your side solely due to the size of your, ahem, bank account, is not a good look. Because that's the thing: gold diggers are supposed to be partners, not just high-priced escorts. Why would I want to spend time with a woman who couldn't give less of a f*ck what I do or who I am, unless she gets to charge by the minute? That's why another point of this topic is important: gold diggers are commonly young woman in relationships with older men, who are typically very wealthy and probably don't have a lot of time left on Earth; the logic probably goes something like "might as well get hitched to a hot chick while I still have life left in me and money in my wallet." If you've got a couple million in the bank, 10 years to live and nothing to spend it on, might as well get yourself a hot date, but for younger men who have the majority of their lives ahead of them, it doesn't make sense financially. No sane person in their 20s and 30s is jealous of the high cost associated with those women, when they are barely managing to make ends meet as it is. They are probably jealous of the wealth of the people who can afford gold diggers, but certainly don't invite those expenses unto themselves readily. Lastly, "young" tends to imply immature, so in addition to being beautiful and attractive, most gold diggers are also rather stupid and vapid, lacking in any real substance or interests besides looking hot and buying expensive crap--hence the ridiculous asking price, because do you really think they spending their money wisely? Last time I checked, a $125 Louis Vuitton purse was just as useful as one that costs 1/2 as much, but guess which one your date is going to buy...

So, do men hate gold diggers? Yes and no. Every woman's company comes with a cost,
gold diggers' fees just cost more--A LOT more--and you probably won't get whole lot in return.

rjroy3 · Answer

I think the vast majority of guys who take issue with gold diggers are like me in that they dislike the idea of gold diggers, rather than taking issue with gold diggers themselves. Like the idea feels gross and there's a fear that you might have a girl who comes around, pretending to like you purely for the lifestyle you can provide her. This isn't based in any experience, but what they've seen around. So they can't really know.

For me I genuinely used to have this concern so much so it made me almost not want to make much money. Because right now I've always known the girls in my life are there for me and not for the lifestyle I can provide them. Even when I had a little bit of money there was never an expectation that I would buy them shit or pay for this and that. It was always about the experience. Girls paid for me here and there. For the most part paid for themselves and if I did pay for them they sincerely appreciated it. Because they knew I didn't have to do that.

I've spoken to some guys who do sincerely make a ton of money and they were the ones that put the nail in the coffin of that concern I had. Because they were saying that girls who are gold diggers don't hide it. They don't slither into your life, pretending to like you when they really hate you and leech off of you. Most are very matter of fact with what they want and how they work. If you simply don't entertain the idea they will move on, because there are plenty of other guys out there with money who are willing to pay for their attention.

Some girls do stay with guys they don't really like, because it's easier for their lives. But most of those girls did at one point like the guy at least somewhat and lost attraction over time. Or settled for a relationship they weren't super pleased with but looked at the financial comfort as a plus. Rather than getting with him because they had money. They settled into a relationship with a guy who has money. To me that's the most common situation where a girl is with a guy she doesn't actually like, who happens to have money. She didn't get with him for the money. It just worked out that way. Because girls that do get with guys for money are just trading up as fast as possible for the best situation they can get and they're open with it.

BlackRoseFairy · Answer

People don't like to be used. And that's what gold diggers do. They use (and abuse) you until you're dry and then leave to find the next victim.
That's not love, that's just plain parasitism. Living upon other people's effort and money.
And those people also wouldn't be of family material, because they only care about themselves and their own so called "needs", the insatiable need to feed their ego.
I can understand that some people like luxury and that they are not satisfied unless they have a few thousand dollars to spend on useless stuff each month, but you know what? If you want to spend it you have to earn it. So if you want to spend money, get a proper job, people are not a walking wallets nor frigging banks...

ZackBan · Answer

I believe men hate the idea of being used that's definitely true.
But while men may hate gold diggers they certainly love gold digger pussy. So if one can truly afford them I suppose he'd be down for it. Take guys like public figure Dan Blidzerian for example. The guy literally has a harem, he knows they're all their for the money and parties and drugs but he doesn't care because he has so much money he can afford not to care.
But a normal working man would hate being used without an ounce of love.

MrOracle · Answer

Let's be clear: a golddigger is a woman who pretends to be in love with a man but is really just using him for his money. There's a deception in play - it's not like a Sugar Daddy/Sugar Baby relationship where this exchange is acknowledged and agreed to up front.

Most men don't want and don't like gold diggers - regardless of how much money he has - but there are two main groups of men who do.

The first are the very rich men, for whom the daily expenses of a golddigger are trivial. Often, but not always, he will know what she is, but doesn't care.

The other group are the really desperate guys who are SO desperate that they are in denial about the girl bleeding him dry. Those shows about idiots marrying foreigners way out of their league are a good example - they often spend hundreds of thousands of dollars or more, even taking on debt sometimes, to try to keep the gold digger around. But such people won't listen to reason until they are ruined.

Anonymous · Answer

Rich men looking for a relationship hate them because they masquerade as caring about them when in reality they don't. The same is true of really hot girls (say models) who are always a bit wary in a relationship of whether the guy is only hanging around for their looks.

Not rich men hate them because they don't measure up and so can't get them. Though in reality they are against not ONLY the gold-digger but the fact that women in general are attracted to rich/successful men even if they AREN'T gold diggers. So their problem is even bigger. The best analogy is unattractive girls who are super anti-hot girls because ALL men -- players AND decent partners find physically attractive women irresistible.

So I guess I'd say to summarize: wealthy/successful men are wary of gold-diggers, whereas a lot of poor/resentful men take issue with the concept of wealth and success itself. Similarly, beautiful women are wary of players and users whereas unattractive/resentful women take issue with beauty itself.

Interested to hear thoughts on this.

NineBreaker · Answer

I think men generally hate gold diggers whether or not they can afford them. When they can afford them, they still hate them, but they can tolerate them.

Hatred, like a lot of emotions, is a spectrum. I think how much a man hates hold diggers is inversely proportional to his financial ability to support them.

One important note is that a lot of guys consider that almost all women, or the overwhelming majority of them, are gold diggers. Not true. Most women favor men who are financially well-off, and rightfully so. The problem is when a woman's focus is exclusively on a guy's money that makes her a gold digger. It can be bad for a man who is faced with financial hurden, or would be used and abused for his money only, and it can be detrimental to a woman who would get into a relationship, getting tangled up with a wealthy man who also happens to be a truly horrible human being LITERALLY.

rozequarts · Answer

I dont think its that they hate gold diggers. Its that gold diggers are often just taking advantage of the mans wallet - with no real admiration or respect for the man himself. That and of course, they ask for too much, and often show little appreciation for what they have been given. I, a woman, would hate a man who was taking advantage of my goods (whatever they are) without actually cherishing who I was as a person.

Some men are happy to date gold diggers because a) they're too naive to see she is one or b) they dont care about receiving genuine love, and would rather be like a sugar daddy.

sagevalentineee · Answer

I live among the European rich. All of the wives are highly educated, very elegant, beautiful and kind. They are certainly not typical trophy wives, neither are they with their husbands purely for money, however it is important, as I cannot see a single one of these ladies dating someone who is not making at the very least 1m/year.

But gold diggers also manifest in the obviously superficial and surgery abusing girls who hang out with and sleep with men for their money. Those are very obvious and some men know that a girl is like this and still love them, because they can. So I would say men only hate gold diggers when it is inconvenient for them. But then again, we always begin to hate things when it becomes inconvenient so I don't blame them.

SydneySentinel · Answer

If they've got money to blow, men don't seem to mind lavishing high maintenance women in whatever.
But really, who wants a gold digger? That's not a real romantic relationship, that's some sort of business agreement.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

Why would I want a woman in my life that is too lazy to work for money and will in turn jump to the guy who makes more than me?

As much as I like sex, I would rather have a partner who is my equal instead of one going through the motions for the money.

KieranByrne · Answer

Enjoyed reading this question, as will never be able to afford such "Gold digger"
Helps me keep to reality!

Men get bitter when gold diggers go another way; showing whom were 'born into' or worked for who they are as a person or what they earn!

Gold digger shaming 👊, slightly different!

Thank you!

HotMustard · Answer

I think men are jealous of other guys with a lot of money, but I don't really think they're jealous of idiots with a lot of money.
So is the thought process: "Gee, I sure wish I could could afford pay someone to pretend to like me."

I have nothing against hookers, but it must takeaway part of the appeal to know that she'd much rather be watching Netflix than doing you. lol

R_Cakes91 · Answer

They probably hate the fact that it’s not about love for the gold digger. He may love her and find out later she only wanted him for his money. I would feel pretty lousy if that happened to me.

aWes0MeNeSs · Answer

I think men want someone who truly loves them, not someone who uses them for their money and would dump them in a heartbeat if tragedy struck and they lost it all.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I'm a woman and even I dislike gold diggers - they have the most annoying personalities ever and they totally don't respect others at all - not only their lover but also their friends and their family - huge gaps in respect - they are surface only - they aren't beautiful inside

razelove · Answer

So my old friend's dad, he said everyone had a price. He meant it literally. He'd pick a girl up, hot, but not interested in him, and take her to a fancy restaurant.

After dinner he'd just ask if they were going to fuck. If the answer was no he would peel out hundred dollar bills until the answer was yes. He said he only asked once because it made them settle for a much lower price. He also said he never once left alone.

So, yeah, with that kind of wealth I think most guys just wouldn't give a damn. It's just difficult to comprehend. Like seeing the sky from the lower reaches of when the vacuum of space starts on something you built. It's tough to think of and really really have in your head all those miles of air above you until you see it.

ToastyTimothy1828 · Answer

"When my husband and I get into a fight because he's so stubborn it pisses me off to the point of throwing things across the room, I ask myself if it's possible for us to peacefully coexist" -- No man in their right mind would want to endure that kind of spoiled, entitled, whiny brat for a lifetime of marriage.

MusicMayhem · Answer

For sure men hate gold diggers. No one likes to be taken advantage of.

Men that can attract many women successfully don't give 2 shits about not being able to afford a gold digger because they're able to attract an abundance of better quality women.

I hear it time and time again, goldiggers go and have expensive dinners and receive gifts from some pathetic guys but later will say their goodbyes to go see and fuck the guys that act like real men. Giving too much to a girl isn't attractive. Many men don't realise the power of saying no because they're scared of losing her when in actual fact she'll respect you more.

Wonderer89 · Answer

Not trying to be rude but the only men I ever see complaining about gold diggers are ones gold diggers never look at...

DorkVader · Answer

Wow the responses!

Nik1hil · Answer

Men hate the fact.. That they cannot afford them..

Men are mentally weak creature and don't see the fact that she might look like this perfect Individual.
But the moment his balls are empty, he is already inside a trap..

Men who don't want to enjoy sending a women in pleasure.. And only care about their own pleasure are primarily tempted by Gold Diggers and easiest prey..

Thing is if you are getting involved with women she will always use some of your financial reserves...

Think is to know that what are your standards and quality requirements in women..
And how much do you needs financially for her..
so that even with your women your finances don't get drained..
So work hard on yourself that you can easily afford her..

A men who makes 100k/year and has a women who spends 78-80k per year who feel like he is being gold dig..
A men making 1M /year with same women will not even notice her expenses

Creepazoid · Answer

Lol nah we hate gold diggers. Or at least I do. I dont like the idea of someone pretending to love me just for my money or material things, I dont want to be fooled and used. I'm just glad I'm not rich enough to be a candidate for a gold digger haha

sp33d · Answer

Not sure if hate is the right word. Dislike, rather. I can afford, but that doesn't mean I'll be wasting my money. Besides, there are plenty of hot women out there. Does she really think she's entitled to shit just because of her good looks? A gold digger is a sociopath. I've heard the "oh I take care of myself" ploy and all I can think of is "no, you pay professionals to do it, you're not doing shit".

So, putting this into perspective, you'd be essentially paying for a prostitute. The difference is that a prostitute does her job well..

Pink2000 · Answer

They hate the fact they can’t afford them. I have met a couple of guys who love to spend money on women... because they can afford to. It gives them an ego boost 🤷🏽‍♀️ Some men like being a “savior”. It’s like knowing if you weren’t giving her money then she wouldn’t have any... which leads to them being controlling.

glutendan · Answer

Gold diggers are pretty much just fancy whores.

You give them money in exchange for them sleeping with you and being attractive.

Men who want to buy fancy whores are jealous. But most men just want a relationship so gold diggers are annoying since they dont present themselves as the whores that they are.

el_Te_de_la_Rosa · Answer

Not all men hate gold diggers. Once they hit midlife crisis and financially stable enough, some actaully want a new young woman to spend their money on. Deeply, they know what attract girls is money, not an old male body.

Once, a man offered me money, claiming he didn't want anything inreturn. How possible? Worse, he's married with kids. I think it's very disrespectful. Both to me and to his family. Now, what is this called... when a man expects to attract a woman with his bling bling?

LuvMeSomeBoys · Answer

Remember that gold diggers are not exclusively women.

yeolsb · Answer

They are just F cheap , esp when they call a woman a gold digger just for paying for her coffee 😹😹

DizzyDesii · Answer

The prob with gold diggers is that money is their top priority in the relationship. The moment he run out of money, they ready to dip. And its scary how many guys i came across this year who had the nerve to ask can i be their sugar mama. Like the dudes out here doin the damn thing too. people are really fucked these days

Anonymous · Answer

Oh there's definitely just disgust with gold-diggers there.
It's the essence of the thing that is the problem, doesn't matter how much money you have. If you're a super wealthy guy and can "afford" them, that doesn't suddenly make them the same as women who aren't like that. It just means I can make the most of the situation with her until there's someone worth investing in. Basically, keep her on the pay roll with as low a cost as possible until she's no longer amusing and/or a woman who is girlfriend material comes along.

Sarahr123 · Answer

Nope. Nobody wants a bitch who doesn’t give a toss about them and is only there to bleed them dry. There are better looking girls who make their own money and are nicer.

collegestudent96 · Answer

I don’t think using someone is okay whether you’re male or female. However, I recently learned from someone I know that there is a such thing as “financial domination” or “findom” where men give money or gifts to women. I also don’t think this idea is okay either. But whatever floats their boat I guess.

Kurαȷ · Answer

Most men who "hate" gold diggers probably do really just hate the fact that they can't afford them.

Those men who actually value romance and meaningful relationships don't really feel the need to hate gold diggers, the gold diggers were never really an option for someone like that, why feel resentful about something you never wanted?

hellionthesagereborn · Answer

They hate them because we are biologically wired to not want to be used, it breaks trust so if they only value the money then its fairly obvious that once that is gone they will be gone. No one wants to be used (well at least not the vast majority of people.)

Kida317 · Answer

You kinda miss the point. People don't like being used. And gold-digging is the proxy o that. So if it bothers you - you gonna hate the attitude. But some people just like giving stuff. Like the sense of control the act provides. For each their own I guess

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

I genuinely hate them. They're prostitutes who for some reason don't think of themselves as prostitutes. Dirty. Scuzzy. prostitutes. They're people right? They should stand on their own merit like the rest of us not leach money out of some sad rich sop willing to pay for sex.

I wouldn't touch anyone like that if she paid me!

SexyAshh · Answer

Women who are 10s cost money, our routines and things we put into appearance is nowhere cheap.

So if men actively seek us out and get mad i find it stupid on their part to not realize what their trying to get into.

there's plenty of less attractive, homely types they can get. Go get those and stop complaining

slatyb · Answer

To me, "gold digger" means a woman who accepts goods and services from men with an implicit promise of romantic inclination when there is none. This is a kind of fraud, albeit unprosecutable. It's similar to men who pretend to be interested in a long-term relationship to obtain sex.

I have no problem with straightforward transactions "If I buy you dinner will you sleep with me?". I have no time for people playing deceptive games.

Carbon-12 · Answer

I would be very upset if I found out somone I love was only with me for money. I can only assume it is the same for men.
Same if you want somone, but can't have them because you don't have enough money.

Basically shallow people suck, so I'd assume.

FreyaRed · Answer

From their cognitive reaction I would say they really hate them

Anoniemus · Answer

I think it depends, but I feel like most hate them because they aren't genuine and use them. Wouldn't anyone hate that fact?

Anonymous · Answer

Hating them isn't the same as not want g to give them money. Maybe it's more important for the gold digger to prove she's incapable of earni g anything. Pretty sexist that she would need to resort stealing from the guy who's probably the sucker. FYI domestic violence should be null and void and the unconstitutional rulings overturned. But I guess no one's ever equating domestic violence with what it truly is, insurrection against the govt. Equality is so equal its basically unfair and one sided. Just because she gives you children, it doesn't mean she's owed everything. "no hymen, no diamond,"

funkit46 · Answer

Ones gender does not entitle them to someone else's hard earned money.. They want equal rights but want someone else to carry their financial burdens!

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Reality shows that many men don't mind.
For me personally: I dislike an attitude of some sort of parasite.
I don't mind sharing everything I have with my partner, but that's because of the emotional bond we have - not the material gain 'she' pursues.
If my girl only wants me because of my 'payments' - she's not much better than a prostitute.

Agem123 · Answer

They're just hating that they don't have that much money. Lol

ChiTown33 · Answer

Well i can guarantee you it's not the latter. Because at that point you know her interest in you is dependent on your resources. It's got nothing to do with you as a person. Actually i feel sorry for them. It's one thing if they're just trying to cash in on their good looks while their young to secure their security. Actually there is a small part of me that can respect that lol.

jamesgoldman · Answer

I dislike gold diggers but part of that lies in the term it's self much prefer the term 'to keep a mistress' for the same thing
If I had a lot of money and wanted an extra-maritial fling surely it is better to hire an escort who at least accepts what they do for money rather than hiding or trying to deny the fact like gold diggers tend to do

AdvNewks · Answer

I don’t think hate that they can’t afford a gold digger. They are relieved that they dodged that bullet. Men don’t mind paying for a good woman who can be high maintenance but if she’s just a gold digger meaning only into you for your money then go dig someone else because I work hard for my money and would rather keep it than give it to someone who has no real interest in me.

Ayer93 · Answer

Why would anyone want to be with someone who is only with them because they pay for their time and potentially luxuries (if rich)? Even if I was rich, it would make me feel terrible that my only worth to them is entirely material.

The hardest part sometimes is distinguishing who is a gold digger, especially for those with a generous personality. They just want to give their partner a good time, but still don't want them to be a gold digger.

lucas262 · Answer

Put it this way, I don't hate any one, I dislike shitty people,

Where i rich, idgf who they are or what they look like if I sense a discrepancy im your character its over, most of these types are high maintenance and that isn't what I want. Iv standards few of them would fit.

Daniel3035 · Answer

Well as someone who could afford them I can safely tell you they sure as hell can't afford me and i'm pretty sure that they're not worth the price they're asking. Gold diggers care about money and when its run dry they'll chase the next rich man like that rich men like loyalty a normal relationship not all this fancy gold digging rubbish.

Vesuvius87 · Answer

Well no one likes a user that's for sure. Besides relying on men for money, those golddiggers have no other skills on their own... something they can do earning their own money.

Torari · Answer

I would love to absolutely spoil my wife, buy her anything and everything she could ever want and give her 100000$ per year for spending.

But i wouldn't want that to be the reason she's with me. I want to be loved for me. Not for my cash. So of i ever become a millionaire, you bet your ass i'm hiding it when i date. She gets to know i'm loaded once we're married.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

I'm very wealthy. When i go to the bar i buy vip tables or just order rounds of drinks for my whole crew. But when some pretty girl comes over if she tries to butt in on my generosity i specifically exclude her. I tell her to buy me a drink first. If she won't i tell her to fuck off. I hate being used. I could be a sugar daddy to a few hot girls if i wanted but i find that disgusting. I hate gold diggers and i hate sluts and whores etc.

Snickermarstwix · Answer

Just not my type, I don't hate them though but the mindset gold diggers can inspire is not what I'm looking for. I want a dominant woman, the type who's like : If I want it I get it by myself cause I know I can

PrincessKittyAZN · Answer

I have nothing to say on this but take a look at this gold digging video stuff...

WalterBlack · Answer

Men hate women who are dishonest about their motives for wanting a relationship/marriage. Don't tell me you love ME if what you really love is the lifestyle I can provide.

jss123 · Answer

Had a few. I'm absolutely horrified women still do that. my last girlfriend was in it for what she could get out of it.. She's very religious too. I was shocked when I realised what she was doing... Afterwards I found out she has a reputation for using people to get ahead. Especially where she works. Pure Hypocrisy.
Just because someone prays multiple times a day does not make them a good person.

Guanfei · Answer

Why would we like those whores?
Because that's what it is, nothing more than prostitution. And I have at least respect for prostitutes, because they're honest about what they do, unlike gold diggers who lie use people and play with their feelings for money.

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