He wants to be exclusive right away?

[Alpha09]

Ok so I met this guy and we really hit it off until we both realized our dating styles are way different. Personally I like to get to know someone before taking that first step as a couple, as boyfriend and girlfriend. And I think that's pretty reasonable. BUT he wants to be exclusive from the get go, like "if you're gonna see me you can't see anyone else." And that's without the labels. Immediate Exclusivity without being a real couple. I get that everyones different and he has every right to have his standard's, but does anyone else think this is a strange way of going about a relationship?

No it's not strange.

Yeah it's strange.

[FýrdracaDócincel]

Definitely not natural.
Naturally, you get to know someone first and then commit.

This is really strange.

[Danny_dan92]

https://imgur.com/a/t4lVKgr

[Alpha09]

Yeah that's what I was thinking.

[Danny_dan92]

Boy is acting like covid is making everyone drop like flies and the world is gonna end soon.

Tell him to calm down.

His dick is not gonna fall off or anything extreme like that

[Alpha09]

He's not budging lol so I'm probably gonna end up moving on from this one.

[Danny_dan92]

Lmfao

[silvermoon84]

That sounds like the guys I’m meeting at my age. They meet you, decide they like you and next thing I know it’s halfway through the first cup of coffee on the date they’re bringing up meeting the family and marriage. When the last guy did that we didn’t even know each other’s last names. Of course when you’re single at 36 people try to rush relationships because of that damn biological clock (I’m medically unable to have children so it doesn’t affect me). Trust me, you’re doing the right thing by not rushing anything. If I had only known at your age what I know now about relationships, I wouldn’t have rushed it either (my twenties were full of whirlwind relationships because at that age I wanted so badly to get married, it brought me nothing but heartache).

[Alpha09]

I mean I get he wants something real and not a fling but being exclusive right away is just not smart to me. Though we kinda found a middle ground. We are now just talking and plan time to spend time together. Sex isn't on the table since he isn't comfortable with that but I need to get to know him first so we'll see how it goes.

[Kaneki05]

Strange. But also good.
I think if someone wants to become serious with you it's best not date someone else cause it could get in the way or cause mixed feelings. Such as you may like another guy you just went on a date with.

i've notice it's much easier to make a good realtionship on slow none serious thing first. So your right on always liking to get know someone first. But getting to know 2 people at one time can cause a rift if you so happen to like both normally it just ends up with only likling one and all others guys not been for you but it can be good just incase. Depends on you really.

[Kurαȷ]

I don't think there is anything strange about it.
If you are interested in someone, you shouldn't be seeking romantic prospects with others at the same time, that is, if you are trying to come across as a monogamous person looking for a serious committed relationship.

It's not about exclusivity, it's about common sense and decency, really.

[chriscdi]

well if i was seeing a girl i wouldn't go around and see others until i know what i got going with the previous girl is over, sorta disrespectful if you went on dates with someone and then see others because you are still single, you are single technically but in a situation like this putting a little bit of effort is important, i know what you mean, but ey, the dude is single so there's not much to it that can be said 🤷🏽‍♂️

[chriscdi]

shit i think i read this wrong, im too tired for long paragraphs smh

[Anonymous]

If you date someone once and are even considering dating them again, it's weird you wouldn't be "exclusive."
focus on one person at a time. Real life isn't "the bachelor," where you just date and fuck a bunch of people at once and slowly weed down the ones you don't want to be with.

[Reamer]

I feel its 1 of 3 things, he is the jealous type, he hasn't done a lot of dating so has a high school mindset of what dating is, or he is controlling.

[0112358]

I don't find it strange.

I also don't find it strange to date a few people if you really don't know any of them well yet.

I do find it strange to drag 'talking' for months non-exclusively.

[user66345667]

He is insecure obviously. Dump his pussy ass.

Let's see how many dislikes this comment will get

[alice55]

Sound pretty normal to me but that's because when begin to flirt / date someone we have an untold rule of being exclusive to this person if not the person think we aren't serious.

[AynonOMouse]

Seems normal to me. I figure 3 dates (only dating one person at a time, not multiple) then decide either it is a relationship, or end it and move on. Exclusive from the start seems normal to me.

[colin77]

If u all are friends it will be strange... but if u all really likes each other and want to have a relationship... u don't need other men disturbing yr head... but if u like him and not sure then u are right

[Alpha09]

That's the thing tho. I'm interested but I just met this dude lol

[colin77]

So take yr time... and get to know he truly... but relax with other guys for now until u get to truly know him... because u need a humble guy not a insecure one

[Drumlin2001]

So you want to sleep with other people whilst getting to know him?

[Anonymous]

Sounds totally reasonable to me.

I think it’s super weird if you’re porking and dating other people at the same time.

[Anonymous]

It's not strange. You've just gotten used to being a whure.

[Alpha09]

Well ok then Mr. Anonymous lol

[Alpha09]

WhURe 😂😂😂

[Renagadefl69]

Right from the start no. if you be en on dates with and then he asked I can see his point.

[bklynbadboy1]

No it's not strange there's a lot of people like that. At least he has good taste

[Anonymous]

Has he secretly been removing hair from your hairbrush?

[Browneye57]

So, you're still fucking other guys?

[Alpha09]

Yeah that's definitely an option when you're single.

[Browneye57]

Then decline him. Just be upfront.
Perhaps he needs to find someone more like-minded. Or he's just desperate.

[Alpha09]

I'm not compromising so it's definitely a no.

[Thatsamazing]

Depends-- how hot/pretty are you?

[Alpha09]

Above average. I'm no super model but I've been called an 8/9. Why?

[Thatsamazing]

Well then he wants to snatch you up as soon as possible. Only makes sense.

[Buffed_Dude2020]

He sounds TOO clingy