"The girl that is always alone?"

[Anonymous]

What do guys think if you see a girl and she is always by herself? Do you automatically think she is some weird person? What do you initially think if you see a girl like this? Because I am always by myself, and I was just wondering if people thought I was weird for doing this. Would a guy ever approach a girl that is always by herself, or is this a major turn off? If she is reserved and doesn't talk much. I have been told by family that I am pretty, I believe that I am not "ugly." But I just feel like I am missing something. . . What do you guys think about this type of girl?

[AquaBlue]

Well, I'm on your side of things. If I'm not sitting with my usual group at lunch, I'll sit by myself at a two or three person table. I've had people ask to sit with me (both guys and girls) who have become friends of mine. Other times, nobody has approached me at all.

I think it really depends on the person approaching. They have all been outgoing and friendly in my case. And they understand that talking to somebody, even if they're quiet, usually makes them open up. The majority of my friends are outgoing and I've met a few of them this way.

Also, it depends on what kind of attitude you're giving off. Sometimes, I really just want to be alone and in most cases people won't bother me. Other times, I'm in a good mood but simply couldn't find my group and someone might come sit with me, whether I know them or not.

[Asker]

Yeah, I think that when you give off that vibe that you don't want anyone near you is true. Somedays I feel happy, and I think that people notice it. But they don't talk to me either way. . . but I can just tell? I think that I want people to talk to me, but I secretly don't want anyone to talk to me. Does that make sense?

[Little-Hippie]

It adds a level of mystery to you.

But vast extremes can be assumed.

A guy can either find you intriguing and want to approachable.

Or he can see you as someone who would rather be. . .well. . . left alone. . .

You just have to make yourself approachable.

If you wear a smile or a light smirk most of the time, guys will find you a LOT more approachable.

You won't look like someone who would bitch them out if they tried to talk to you.

And you'll be at a bit of an advantage because you won't have a bitch-squadron of friends around you trolling your perimeter.

[BacktoBasics]

When I see a girl sitting by herself the last thing I think of is to randomly approach here because that's considered weird where I am. Especially if you don't know the person at all.

It dosen't really matter what kind of person you are really, when someone for no reason walks up and starts trying to make a conversation it seems a bit weird, unless there's some sort of reason to start one in the first place.

Regardless of whether you are by yourself or not, just stay happy and optomistic and eventually you'll get an opportunity to not be by yourself haha

[wally]

if she's alone it will make it easy for me to approach her , I don't think its weird because every one are different than other people , I just don't get this why we keep judging on the outside while we don't know what's the inside , anyway try to make friends its for you so you don't feel alone.

[vag1212]

i wouldn't think that she's weird,and it's not a turn-off at all.u must be missing confidence.just smile.it's the best way to make someone have a crush on u

[Anonymous]

I would walk up to that person and say hi, mainly for the reason that she's alone. I don't think it's a turnoff at all.