What do men think when they see an attractive women?

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My boyfriend tries really hard not to stare at women. But I catch him when he thinks im either not around or not paying attention. He also changes his personality and deepens his voice when around other women. I ask him about it and he says he has always been told to be a gentleman around a lady. (Yet he is silly and fun around me. But will act cool around other women.)

What do guys REALLY think about when around an attractive women or looking at them?

pajamasam · Accepted Answer

Some of that is unconscious. The lowering of the voice thing is unconscious in most guys we don't even realize we've done it until after the fact. Girls often raise the pitch of their voice around guys they like too.

For me though if I see a girl I like, if im single, im thinking "be a gentleman, dont do anything stupid, and try to say something funny just in case she's kinda interested"

If im in a relationship, I might notice she's attractive and some of those subtle uncontrollable things might happen like pupils dilating or voice lowering. But ultimately im thinking "look but don't touch, take a peek and move on your already in a relationship"

And if an attractive woman fliers with me when im in a relationship its a "im two steps away from stepping in deep shit, keep it cool and get out of this scenario before it gets worse. Make up a reason to leave the conversation"

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

For most guys, it's a lot like when they see an exotic sportscar - they're going to look, and enjoy the beauty and the lines - but they don't really want one for themselves.

As guys, we have an instinct to "spread our seed" - to fuck as many women as we possibly can - but we can suppress that desire when we're in a relationship (and feeling in love with our girlfriend makes that a lot easier than it otherwise would be), but that underlying instinct to at least LOOK is extremely powerful, and we can't really help it. But looking is enough - we see, we appreciate, and then we move on with our day.

jkm1864 · Answer

I really don't notice them when I'm in a committed loving relationship. Also men have different thoughts on what is attractive. I for one like smaller petite women with smaller breasts and if they have that sweet innocent look that gets My heart racing. As far as what I think well it might surprise You that I'm not thinking about sex. If anything I'm thinking about how I would like to get close to Her and get to know her as a person. I might be old fashion though because I do prefer sex when there is love involved and I never cared for flings.

PeterAyre · Answer

Oh look she's attractive. She has a nice bum. My partners bum is better, hmm or is it maybe just different I don't know. Ah no my girlfriend has noticed, why did I let myself do that darn. For me in my head it goes notice attraction, attribute attraction, compare attraction, (evaluate plan of action) which is do nothing 100% of time, either suppress attraction or experience heightened attraction towards my partner.

Eggplant29 · Answer

I would want to get a good look.

I would also try and judge what her personality was. (This is shallow and unbalanced as you shouldn't judge on looks, but here goes)

I would see if she is classy or how enthusiastic she is or what her mood is or listen to her voice.

If she is with another man, you try to suss out if they're a couple and you will likely think LUCKY HIM if you suspect they are.

NarutoUzumaki007 · Answer

they think one of these : 1. I wanna fuck her so bad  2. She is cute , I wanna make her my wife 3. She is so beautiful. Totally out of my league I won't even try

Don-_-Don · Answer

I'd just think, "oh she's cute" and keep going about my business.

spartan55 · Answer

They think, oh shit I hope my crazy girlfriend doesn't say anything. Lol

Anonymous · Answer

We’re thinking stuff like, “I wonder if she does needlepoint” and “what are her views on monster trucks?” Lol

rudramishra · Answer

I try to get friends with her and after some time try my luck  As me being single for life (till now)

MountAverage · Answer

I look at her subtly and enjoy the view and think to myself I wish I could be intimate with her. And if my girlfriend's next to me, I share my thoughts with her.

AmeerX · Answer

I think if I like a girl I would be someone like that too fun and loving with her

Anonymous · Answer

It happens everyday, I'd be like "oooo" and sometimes "wooow" and also maybe when im feeling great I say "ooooo shittt" then scroll through her insta account and her beauty makes me so happy and then I carry on w my day

coffeewithcream · Answer

"My, that's an attractive woman."

TheFlak38 · Answer

how we would bang her.

Anonymous · Answer

Schwiiinnnggg

Anonymous · Answer

Her riding is.

Anonymous · Answer

Damm , she’s hot!

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