Why do men cheat with unattractive women? (Page 3)
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Because it's women with low self esteem who mess with a taken man.
She thought he was single.
Ask yourself why your man would prefer this woman over you? As messed up as this chick is she was probably not a nagging, demanding, cunt to him. Think about it.
He literally only talked to her on Snapchat so he wouldn’t know. But I’m not nagging or demanding I just high standards
@Jaaanellie. "High standards" is code for being a pain-in-the-ass.
He is stupid. That's all. But my question is why did you start dating him then? I see that girls are really interested in tall bad boys and then they are shocked if they can not change them.
He’s not a bad boy though. He’s a sweetheart most of the time. He’s very soft and loving compared to most guys. He’s the opposite of violent. That’s why this discovery shocked me so much.
Maybe that's his true self. What are you going to do?
I don't know. He seems to have this bipolarity. But he’s not a stereotypical bad boy.
well i dont know but maybe because its easier? idkk (-_-) ゞ゛
Urine. As in URINE IDIOT.
He fucked her cuz she was DTF.
You? You just complain a lot.
He didn’t fuck her? This is a conversation about why certain guys are attracted to emotionally manipulating and harming weak women mentally. There’s no physical sexual component here. Also that’s the dumbest shit I’ve ever heard. You think women don’t have the right to be upset with unfaithful men?
Don't be a dumbass. You posted a pic and laid out a story.
And you don't think women cheat just as much as men?
And you're STILL complaining.
I don’t cheat. Never have. Never will.
You reckon people should just be allowed to cheat? That’s a toxic society.
You are one dumb bitch aren't you?
Sounds like your boyfriend and that girl are a perfect like, lol
If it was online it’s not much of an affair, more like perverted pen pals.
Yeah true.
You’re absolutely right. Him and the girl deserve each other.
Unattractive women don't try to use sex as a bargaining chip they just put out when you're in the mood.
I never said that I do that. Nice assumptions though.
Well your post did imply a very busy and unaccommodating schedule.
I do make time for him. I’m not a hyper sexual person so I never use sex to manipulate.
You're not hyper sexual? As in he has to work at convincing you to have sex?
Doesn’t have to convince me. But we don’t do it often. Maybe once or twice a week. He has a pretty low sex drive and so do I.
He knows I have trauma associated with it and he knows I’m too classy to do “kinky” stuff. It’s not like he wants to do really out there stuff sexually.
Or because you have trauma he is repressing his drive to placate your ego out of sympathy.
Nah we dated before I got really put off sex and he like hadn’t watched porn and didn’t actually know what a vagina looked like. I portrayed myself as very sexually interested in him because I learned that that’s what you need to do to get a man.
One of the first things we talked about when we started dating was his low sex drive. He preferred beauty features like breasts and faces.
Fair enough. No idea why he used up time effort and money on another woman if you are so flawlessly perfect... must be difficult to be the object of 3 billion men's affection.
@Jaaanellie. You need to look at yourself. Ask yourself why your boyfriend would seek attention from this chick? Your behavior is driving your boyfriend away.
Ur boyfriend kinda looks like a bum. So maybe u're the loser and he's seeking out his own kind in the other chick.
How am I the loser when I’m understanding enough to give him a chance? His “own kind” usually kill themselves before 30. I’ve seen it too many times. All the money spent on drugs, physical abuse, sexual abuse, child neglect, complete loss of sanity, seeing and hearing things that aren’t really there. That’s all involved with that territory.
Yes you're a loser for wasting time and energy on a man who can't be saved. They're tons of men out there who would appreciate that effort and energy, HEALTHY men.
STOP TRYING TO SAVE PEOPLE WHO DON'T WANT TO BE SAVED!!!
So much pain. and kind of relationship need a broad talks is he still love's if not you no know the answer
He loves me a lot. He wants to marry me. Said he could live anymore if I didn’t take him back.
Ok then Put your condetion infront of him tell him what you dislike about this relationship. otherswise it will turn into psychopath
the thing is men as ya put it who cheat even though they shouldn't with less attractive females got game that's smart because females who look better than the main will try to take your dude
But what satisfaction does one get from punching downward?
That was a bit mean but guys tend to leave for girls that are easier not prettier
He didn’t leave though and from what I found in those messages he didn’t plan on it. He wanted to harm this girl mentally.
He’s sick I’d say just forget about him he’s awful
I didn't even finish reading your narcissistic rant. I guess that's the answer. The guy is tired of your entitled attitude.
For a seemingly academically prominent person, you're very slow to realize that the man is a textbook narcissist.
Then again, so are you it seems... crazy people.
I study psychology and neither of us are narcissistic. I know that because my dad is one. Narcissistic people never accept that they have flaws. They never take accountability. There’s a difference between being proud and being a narcissistic person.
Aaaah, you're studying to become a psychologist - a certified bullshitter; the kind that tells people how to behave normally according to humanities "research" but can't teach people to think on their own or give them value in life. If only the human mind was so easy as to put it into research then we would have made some progress on improving the human psyche over time - yet seemingly over the years, people are going in the opposite direction, not knowing if their penis makes them a man or a woman, or if a vagina makes one a woman or a man. Tell me, how are those psychology studies working out for the development or even the stability of the human psyche, eh?
Look, someone admitting fault does not disqualify them as narcissists; it entirely depends on if they take their faults seriously. But most narcissists don't take their faults seriously when they see an opportunity to change and should take responsibility. It simply comes down to not respecting other people who work and care for them (hence calling one's father a narcissist is highly inappropriate even if it is true that he is prideful). Also, you've been dating this dude for 2 years and he hasn't seemingly changed - so much for psychology and him taking his faults seriously for the sake of your relationship. Face it, the dude cheated on you - he doesn't give a flying fuck about you - if he respects you then he doesn't cheat on you with other women no matter if they are "uglier", he would be with you and not seeking to hurt people. He's a patient for you and he doesn't take you seriously. He's not ready for a relationship. You're being too kind to this man and throwing your time away with him - but this is typical behaviour of naive people, which is common among teenagers, especially teenage women when it comes to men. If there are people that throw pearls to the pigs it is teenage women to abusive men.
Also, pride and narcissism are exactly the same things. Narcissism is a "personality disorder" describing the spiritual aspect of narcissism, which is pride, which is where the problem lies: the belief that "I am good, I am naturally better and more deserving than other people". You'll never manage to hit back and cure a narcissist with modern psychology, it's a spiritual issue and not one you can solve with countless words and a formula in a psychology book - it requires experience and spiritual insight, which cannot be thought, it's a skill.
I never said I was studying TO BE a psychologist. I literally just took the papers for fun because it interests me. No. When someone says narcissist they’re referring to the disorder. There is a narcissistic spectrum that everyone is on. That doesn’t make you a narcissist. You have to within the upper bound to be diagnosed with NPD. People who are too low on the “narcissist spectrum” are usually insecure to a negative point. I didn’t say I’m “naturally better than other people” literally where did I say that? I said I’m a better choice for a girlfriend compared to a literal drug addict. My father is a narcissist. It’s funny how you think you’re so smart. Assuming you know shit about my family is a bit arrogant. He was actually diagnosed by a professional. A true narcissist will only admit guilt if they can use it to gaslight or manipulate. However, they never realise they’re guiltily internally they’ll just say it for their own gain. They usually go back on it. My father is an abusive alcoholic who is currently living overseas as a fugitive. Also tf you talking about transgenders for? I never said I agreed with them at all.
Also I literally don’t agree with a lot of psychological assumptions. I’m actually a very spiritual person bet you didn’t guess that. As for my boyfriend. He actually as improved a lot. He used to randomly snap and start hallucinating. He used to sneak drugs into my house and lie. He’s been clean. His mental health is the best it’s ever been. He did that all for me. He loves me so much that he attempted suicide when we broke up for a few weeks. You don’t know me. You don’t know him. You don’t know my family. This was just a question about whether mean want to overpower weak women. I don't know why you went on some insane self-absorbed tangent when what you’re talking about is literally irrelevant.
Its because their not unattractive to the guy whos cheating. If your so much better then why did you date him in the first place?
I really do like him despite his flaws
He’s a really bad liar. Most men only use these type of women for pussy.
Run from this guy. I highly believe you're too good for him so he wants something at his level or something lower by far to have control on it. Runway before you get more hurt
"Why does my boyfriend cheat with unattractive women?"
There ^^ I fixed it for you.
It’s happened to me before. But yes you’re correct. Not all men.
Not all women either, although before age 30 more women cheat more than men.
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That’s because when women decide to settle down they actually just settle down.
What does that have to do with the fact that women your age cheat more than men?
Regardless, if you look at the graph I posted you'll see that the difference in the rate of infidelity between men and women is only 3% before age 50, 8% before age 70. So that doesn't support your claim at all.
I feel like most women don’t give a shit about relationships until they’re ready to settle down. Women also have lower sex drives after their 30s. I don’t fit into that statistic because I have more conservative values when it comes to relationships so it’s not much of a me problem.
Huh? Women are FAR more interested in relationships in their 20s than men are and typically want to settle down much earlier than men do. It's one of the most common complaints from women about men.
But I don't know why that should matter in this context because when someone cheats they ARE IN a relationship, by definition. Not giving a shit about relationships is no excuse for being in one and cheating. There is no valid excuse for cheating, man or woman.
It is also a well studied and accepted fact that men's sex drive peaks in their early to mid 20s while women's don't peak until their 30s or 40s.
I'm glad to hear you have conservative values and don't cheat. Same here. But I hate the tired old gender stereotypes that some people still perpetuate despite there being sooooo much information available today that shows they bare false.
I think he told you very clearly why he did it with her.
Yeah but he doesn’t understand why he wanted to. It’s very out of character. He’s a very sweet person.
Insight is not easy.