Is it true men tell women to "calm down" when they are freaking out because the man doesn't know what else to say? (Page 2)
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We say calm down because “will you shut the fu*k up” doesn’t go over well.
Yes. Because we don’t know what else to say, or at least I don’t.
You're right they don't, think about the 47yr old ohshee. He doesn't know. I didn't either, until I had a girlfriend tell me what I was doing wrong, I learned from it, sooo... ...
Well, yeah. We just just don’t understand, we control our emotions, not the other way around
Okay
No i do that meaning no need to over panic I'm here with you and we're going to find a solution and work things out.. And we usually do get there.. If they decide to go with my plan... I have a great third person view on things.. When I get mad at them and don't talk to the women in my family, they always come and say, please come on.. I missed you and I missed talking to you about my problems and the things I got on mind...
Nah, it's actually because we find it obnoxious when women get emotional, irrational and hysterical over completely inconsequential crap.
We know it doesn't help, but we don't intend to help.
We just want you to shut the hell up.
^^ this omfg.
Its because men make decisions from logic and trying to think and be objective about a situation isn't helped by someone contributing who is having an out of control emotional response. This is the perfect time to slap a woman or otherwise physically restrain a woman to get her out of her hysterical mindset.
I don't think any time is the right time to slap a woman
@siegetiming well when your house is on fire and you have a hysterical woman screaming and about ready to run in to save a pet. You tell me its not appropriate to physically enforce logic by all means necessary. There is an appropriate time to restrain slap or otherwise physically take action upon a woman.
pull her back, yell, but not slap. There are very few times in life where you'd have to slap a woman as the only way to get her to listen to you. They're adults.
@siegetiming sure... unless they are acting hysterical and completely irrational.
When you read the responses, overly emotional, freaking out, etc, what does that tell you. If a guy cares about you, he will try to help but don't take things out on him or you start ruining your relationship. Get a grip on your emotions. No one wants drama.
Many times, "calming down" is the exact right thing to do, but you don't want to hear it at that moment. Even if a man knows EXACTLY what else to say, and/or do, you're not going to hear it if you're flying off the handle and emotionally out of control. Some times, they probably don't know what else to say.
I think that he's trying to comfort her...
Personally i'll ask her why she's sad or why she's crying and try to resolve the things that made her cry and at this point i'll tell her to calm down cause i'm going to fix the things that made her feel bad like that...
I don't say that. I'm not one of those that like to cheerlead. It's all about accepting the other person's shadow. We don't become happy and calm by ignoring anxiety and discomfort. I don't remember who said this but I think it was Rumi that said "the way through the pain, is the pain". Tatadada!
Good question :D
Well, if you think about it, when anyone is freaking out, "Calm Down" may be the best response. I agree that the other dangerous phrases are a little condescending
Fair
Most likely. If I am in a state of panic, if he didn’t cause it, I’m sure just saying to calm down and take a few breathers will be enough for me to relax and regroup. If he caused it, ouuuuu. He better have medical coverage.
Why medical coverage? Who said anything regarding violence to solve you're insecuries?
I find that what really works well is to say "I think you're overreacting." 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I'm kidding. Actually, guys, if you value your lives, NEVER say that. 😱😱😱😱😱
Smart
Never ask if it's her time of the month, either. 🤣🤣🤣
"Do you know how bad that irritates us?"
Then how about you calm down and stop being so irritable?
Never
Then stop complaining.
Stop bitching
I maybe on my period but why do you act that way?
what? I don't have periods so I act normal all the time, unlike you.
I disagree you're way too bitchy
Normal is boring thank you
literally you're the irritable one so you're the bitchy one
You got it right man. We don't owe anything to women acting without reason.
I’ve never freaked out where anyone has told me to calm down. I said it once to guy who was wound up tighter than an 8 day clock and he just got worse. After that when someone freaks out I just walk away.
You could remind them where you work and suggest a quiet place to relax. 🙊 (I blame current taste in poor humor on too much chocolate)
I don’t have to take it that far. I did have one guy get furious when I walked off and he yelled “where the ### do you think you’re going?” I told him no worries, I’d be back. With a tranquilizer dart gun.
lol Good for you! I’m normally pretty sensitive when someone is emotional, but yelling for attention deserves to be darted.
Women freaking out over s*** that doesn't matter. Color me shocked. Lol
Common as a housecat.
@spartan55 yep lol
We do and here is why. When a woman is upset she will go into several different fields of what’s going on. For example let say she has a bad day because of something going wrong at work, family matter, and dinner got burned. She’ll throw all of that at her guy at the same time and we will say calm down to get them to stop spewing and have them explain from beginning to end what’s wrong. When a man cares about a woman he’ll want to help her fix her problems but only in a orderly fashion
Probably because we care enough about her to try to calm her down and we know that they get so overly emotional over little nothings.
Men are generally more logical, whereas women are more emotionaly driven. You can't be logical if you're upset and not thinking clearly. So the first step is to calm down.
No, we just don't want to hear it and we don't like being yelled at... all the damn time... just because... Which is why we apologize in advance, but somehow it comes anyway. So calm down, chill, relax. Your problems will still be there.