A guy seems interested in me but he’s married? Or am I delusional?

[Holo900]

I am slightly attracted to this very tall, intense guy who I’m pretty sure is in his early thirties. Im 5’3 and skinny and he’s like around 6ft so he pretty much dwarfs over me. Sometimes he touches my back or shoulder. His hand almost spans my whole back,. I never realized that I would get so turned on over big hands until then lmao. I caught him staring at me multiple times today, and even during a meeting where he got praised publicly,, his eyes quickly shot to mine. I tend to catch on pretty quickly when someone is feeling attracted to me. And I feel bad in knowing that this excites me because I know for sure that he’s married. But also, maybe my brain is making me see stuff that’s not there because I like him lol. What do y’all think

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And just as a disclaimer because some people read this and thought it said “I want to sleep with him/I want him to cheat on his wife with me” this is nothing like that… it’s like a meaningless crush that I would never do anything about. I’ve had these kinds of crushes on professors, professor assistants, even my youth pastor and the dentist that I’m shadowing 😂😂😂 This post was genuinely just made in a moment of speculation which I just can’t help but do when I have a crush on someone

[pickedcrisps]

I know that boat recently myself. And the irony is I'm seeing her again soon for another professional context legitimately. Sigh.

It's tough. But as I'm learning myself after seeing someone ever more attractive than her and closer to my age, who's unmarried and single, versus that love you feel I've felt in this slightly older married woman.

I know in my heart it's best I stop giving any signs and focus solely on the second woman the one I saw after her (her being the married woman).

Similar to you and that married slightly older guy.

So yeah. In my own situation I'm just politely but calmly shutting off the feelings and redirecting them to this left handed redhead who's left handed like me. And that's a nicer ending 🤩😋🙏☮️😈

[pickedcrisps]

Was I helpful @Holo900? @Asker? 😋

[Holo900]

Yes! Thank you

[pickedcrisps]

So what are you gonna do lady? 😯

[pickedcrisps]

@Holo900 are you okay lady? I read your update just now 🤩🙏

[Holo900]

Oh okay ! haha

[pickedcrisps]

@Holo900 sorry if we or I misunderstood... crushes are harmless and natural... making the unnatural look natural 😈😈😜😜☮️

[Holo900]

Thank you! I am okay 👍

[pickedcrisps]

@Hol900 you sound like an awesome woman who's personality is bubbly like mine. I also get crushes from time to time but I'm happy being a single man. Doesn't stop me from appreciating there are many beautiful women in this world...
Don't stress I'm not crushing on you here 😜😜😈

[pickedcrisps]

@Holo900 see above 🤪

[Holo900]

You’re totally fine. You were very polite and kind and sharing with me your own experience so I appreciated that. I updated my post because there were other people who seemed to be severely misunderstanding my post to the point of calling me names. But your response was fine and I appreciate you

[Holo900]

Sorry this keeps glitching and I keep replying a second too late. Your personality does seem super great and bubbly. 😀hoping the best for you always ~

[pickedcrisps]

@Holo900 thanks. You're nickname should be Holly. I like that name. It always makes me think of Christmas or pagan Yule. You know. I love that. Like mistletoe or Pine trees. You're a lovely soul "Hol." Do take care of yourself and bless you. Hey feel free to chat anytime or follow me to be able to message me anytime. You're a great spirit. I love hippy names even though I have not one myself. But on women the hippy names are awesome. They stand out like a hot natural fit redhead woman to me. And some women love fit redhead guys. I'm not redheaded but I have distant ancestors male and female who both were redheaded. Wow. 😈😈☮️☮️ I'm left handed and that's all I got genetically. Hahaha 🙏🙏😋☮️☮️☮️ peace Holly 😜

[tatianamay]

Girl, no, just no. If he's married then you absolutely should NOT pursue him. Even if he makes a move, you should reject him. Do you really want to be the other woman? Why do you want to be someone's side chick when you can be someone else's girlfriend rightfully? How would you feel if your husband cheated on you? That's just wrong. You have not done anything yet, so that's fine, besides, I think its just a crush that'd slowly fade away. Attraction is okay, but that is the farthest you can go, anything more than that, is just a big no no.

It never ends well. Look, that guy just wants to get into your pants. Guess what? He's not mysterious, just a Chad who is an asshole, hiding his true mask. Find someone else who actually cares about you. You will miss out on a lot of good guys if you entertain Mr. Fuckboy's moves.

[Holo900]

You can rest assured that I’m only talking about attraction and that I’d never accept to be anyone’s mistress or side chick. It’s kind of scary how everyone only responds with that assumption in mind, like., I don’t have that sort of ambition okay😂 I don’t even have the energy or mental capacity to be part of something crazy immoral like that … I was just talking about these kind of feelings and I’m sure everyone else has also felt them.. I was kind of looking forward to hearing relatable stories and stuff but damn.. it’s brutal out here 😂

[tatianamay]

I'm sorry lol, I did not intend to come off rude. Attraction is okay, but if he crosses his limits, then kick his ass and don't entertain his moves. Hugs <3

[Holo900]

You weren’t rude at all!! I totally understand everyone’s outrage because cheating/being the other woman and etc is not okay. I was trying to see if I could edit the original post so I could clarify that this is strictly about feelings and nothing more but I don’t see the option for it lol

[tatianamay]

You can update the question. And glad I did not come off as rude :) <3

[Nexus13]

He is obviously into you however I wouldn't recommend showing your interest or attraction because he will continue to do it and the thing is most ( not all) married men that do those things are for two reasons. One they want to feel like they still got it. That even tied down they can still pull someone. And two because there unhappy inside there marriage and are just looking for someone to screw and keep it moving. They'll never leave their wives that would be too easy. Whether it be because of children involved or because of something else. They'll never leave. They'll just continue to sleep behind their partners back until it eventually blows up in there face.

[Holo900]

Yikes 😳 I guess that’s the brutal truth of how things are in the real world. It’s honestly sad and i wish I could go back to when I was a kid. I haven’t showed any sort of signs that I’m attracted to him and I don’t intend to. 🙂

[Vikkrram]

I have been attracted towards a younger girl... although she initiated it, but now from 2 months she started acting in a bit weired way... she kinda keep ghosting me from 1 and a half months, so i also backed off and i also thaught that... it is against morals and ethics.

[Holo900]

You’re only 24, how young was she?

[Vikkrram]

She was i guess 19 ... maybe less... but u can't control ur heart... But now... i have realized my mistake and we both kinda started now ignoring each other... coz I don't want that coz of me anyone... would get uncomfortable...

[Alwayreckles93]

Why aren't you with a 26 year old woman with class who has a degree? Why are you with little girls what are you going to pick her up with a strollers and a pacifier?

[Vikkrram]

@Alwaysreckles93 You can't control ur heart... it's very hard to surpress ur feelings... but still i managed to do many things to control my feelings towards her.

And now she also ignoring me.. coz i haven't seen her from 1 and a half months though we live in same apartment...

[Vikkrram]

You don't need to explain here... i know this can be a regular Crush or more than that... coz u can't control ur feelings that's it.

at least you haven't did anything wrong... yeah it's normal to have crush on elder people that's it

[Holo900]

Thank you ☺️ tbh you’ve given one of the kindness, nonjudgmental responses on here and I really appreciate it! I thought I would see a lot more responses like yours when I first posted my question, about people’s experiences with their feelings and crushes such as these that they can’t control. I was surprised when majority just assumed the worst

[Vikkrram]

It's all about feelings that on which u can't have control on it... i totally understand...

It's simple he is ur Crush... and u are not wrong...

[ZackBan]

You're not the first to fall for a married man that looks all mysterious trust me he's not.

This never ends well, you either torture yourself end miss out on guys who might actually care about you or you end up wrecking his home and marriage which should make you feel even worse.

Just find someone else get your mind off him

[Alwayreckles93]

Seriously 😳 Little girl ! Grow up he is married don't you girls know what respect now a days means? You have to be kidding when I was your age at that time I was having a huge crush on the popular guy football player at that time. What the hell is that old dude thinking why isn't he flirting with a 30 year old lady? I guess this means that I am from a different generation.

[Holo900]

You’re only 2 years older than me? Also, I can’t really help my feelings. I’m not going to do anything about them, but its really not in your control who you feel attracted to

[Alwayreckles93]

Actually I'm 28 years old. I am tired of you younger little girls chasing after older man! Go find yourself a dude your own age you should be ashamed of yourself !

[Holo900]

Why are you 20 on here tho? That’s a little sus itself. Also, I was never chasing after him. I haven’t done anything that I should be ashamed about and I don’t intend to in the future. From seeing some of your replies to other commenters, you seem hella unhinged

[Alwayreckles93]

Yeah right chasing after an older married dude. I bet his wife looks way better than you.

[Holo900]

Alright ma’am m. Good day

[Alwayreckles93]

Well by just thinking that the married dude is hot and having feelings that is consider adultery. I know a good friend of mine that can teach you a lesson on a scripture about adultery. Evwm if you haven't slept with him by just you thinking oh that married d dude is hot that right there is adultery.

[Holo900]

Lmao you’re literally the person that makes everyone think Christians are nuts. Have a nice day, ma’am

[Adam1978]

Even if he does your not alone, he is going to have his eyes on multiple young girls in his lectures. You are better of ignoring whatever this is. Nothing good will come out of it.

[Holo900]

Thank you for not attacking me. I wasn’t going to do anything with him or pursue any sort of relationship but even if I was, your response is very nonjudgmental and kind. and I think the post made him look like some horrible man who cheats on his wife with young girls., when I think it was just my brain tricking me into seeing all that lol.

[Adam1978]

He might just look but not touch. Nothing says he is a cheater.

[Holo900]

No like people who’s replying are assuming he’s a cheater

[Dchrls78104]

If you think that you have anything to offer to this married man other than sex, you are clearly delusional. "Leave people man and find your own man..."

[Holo900]

Well I’m def not thinking about doing anything with him. But even so, having a crush on him and wondering if he even slightly reciprocates the attraction does make me feel guilty as Ik he’s married.

[Holo900]

Also,. That quote is.. very inspiring lmao

[Gwenhwyfar]

Girl, no matter how good his fingers might feel on your pussy, he’s married! Not gonna work out.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Do if he hit on you you wouldn’t say yes?

[Gwenhwyfar]

* So

[Danny_dan92]

He’s a typical chad and you’re the typical female.


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[Holo900]

So you’ve felt like this before too?

[Danny_dan92]

What do you mean? I’m not a female

[Holo900]

Lol you could have felt like this about a married woman, if that is your sexual orientation as a male. Ig this is the first real setting I’ve been in where it’s not just other students around the same age as me. So to confront feelings like this is very new to me

[Danny_dan92]

I would never fuck a married woman. That’s against my moral ethics

[Holo900]

No one said anything about fucking lmao 🤣 but have you ever felt attracted to a married woman?

[Danny_dan92]

Yeah but that’s the farthest it went

[Holo900]

That’s literally all I was asking for lol

[Danny_dan92]

Good girl

[Alwayreckles93]

Oh really like for example last year the lady put you in charge to keep an eye on a package and your eyeballs went off to check out her tits. GROW UP you aren't 18 and young anymore face it you are an old grown ass 30 year old man with wrinkles on your forehead. YOU ARE NOT YOUNG , YOU ARE OLD!

[Holo900]

@Alwayreckles93 what is wrong with you., you sound so crazy lmao

[Danny_dan92]

She loves me

[Danny_dan92]

She’e low key obsessed with me

[Alwayreckles93]

I am not! I can't stand man your age need to stop flirting with younger woman!😡😡😡😡😡

[Danny_dan92]

You mean men?

I’m not flirting at all here…

[Alwayreckles93]

People always tell me I look younger 19 but I am actually 28 but I look better then this 18 year old.

[Danny_dan92]

There are no pictures of her so how could you know?

[Alwayreckles93]

Oh sure what about the girl from your job from last year your eyeballs went straight into her boobs? How old was she? Please tell me she was year same age range.

[Danny_dan92]

She’s older.

And why are you still on that? How’s your cheating husband by the way?

[Alwayreckles93]

Seriously are you kidding me right now? How dare you post my personal life on social media! Grow up act like an adult! Oh I do look better trust me people always assume I am 18 or 20 .

[Danny_dan92]

I’m just doing what you’re doing to me cupcake.

[Danny_dan92]

Why are you coming into this conversation all pissed off trying to make yourself seem hotter than this 18 year old woman?

Nobody asked for your input. And tbh it sounds like you’re just coming off arrogant and jealous

[Alwayreckles93]

Um Sir, No actually you did ask a question in regards of checking out a coworkers boobs. I didn't put my business in a question in this site. Their is a difference. And this girl is being a total Karen trying sleep with her boss.

[Danny_dan92]

LMFAO fuck you’re retarded. How would I know about your personal business if you “never posted it on this site”

Secondly, did you not read what she said? She specifically said she does not want to sleep with him. And was just curious to know.

Maybe you didn’t comprehend what she said cause all you managed to comprehend is that an 18 year old woman was being checked out by the kind of guy that would make your pussy wet the second you look at him. And then from that point on you saw red out of jealousy

[Alwayreckles93]

Oh I'm not jelous at all. I don't understand why a dude your age would like to comment on a 18 year old little girls we questions. I don't think men your age should be answering a 18year olds question.

[Danny_dan92]

Uhhh ok. You’re truly stupid

[Alwayreckles93]

Excuse me seriously wow how classy you are using profanity. I can see your mother did a horrible job at raising a disrespectful spoiled human. You can't even have a normal conversation like an adult should you are hitting 30 grow up. Oh I'm stupid because I believe that younger woman shouldn't be interested in a married me. Okay I see you are missing some screws.

[Alwayreckles93]

Yeah right that's what she says but I bet she isn't telling us the whole true I bet she is sleeping with him while his poor wife cooks cleans and takes care of the family all while this 18 years hoe wants to fuck him she has daddy issues all younger woman that are interested in a older dude have daddy issues and are homewrecker. What did God wanted us to stay faithful also this 18 year old is committed adultery and that Sir it is a son against God.

[Alwayreckles93]

Men sorry I got so angry

[Danny_dan92]

All these typos, your attitude, and hatred towards this woman who didn’t even do anything tells me that you wish to have a dick in your pussy and one filling your esophagus

[Alwayreckles93]

You disrespectful useless son of a bitch!

[Alwayreckles93]

Oh your mother needs one okay

[Alwayreckles93]

Why are you defending her? Is because your saggy wrinkle ass wants her younger body? Get a life!

[Holo900]

@Alwayreckles93 ma’am you need therapy. Like Immediately. You’re also that “Christian” that drives other people away from Christianity. Stop deflecting and stop spreading your disgusting hate and bitterness everywhere

[Anonymous]

We both know you're gonna do it anyways, why bother asking?

[Holo900]

Lol gonna do what?😂😅 im still a virgin and there’s no way I’m gonna give it up to a married man not am I planning to have some relationship with him. I’m just strictly talking about feelings

[Holo900]

*nor am I (planning to have some relationship with him) sorry

[Anonymous]

I think that you should avoid him. If he is willing to cheat with you then he is willing to cheat on you.

[StevenHs]

I don't think you're delusional. So what are you going to do?

[Holo900]

Nothing., he’s married lol 😂 tbh I feel like he wouldn’t cheat on his wife as he seems like a kind, hard working person. Honestly I think I 100% misunderstood and he probs just thinks I’m like a cute younger sister that he needs to take care of., I tend to give off that vibe a lot

[Silvermantis]

He’s married. Forget about him lol

[Holo900]

Lolll I’m trying 😂😭

[Holo900]

But honestly I feel like every girl has had a crush on him at least once.. cuz he is for real that attractive 😂 a harmless crush won’t do anything right? I’ll just keep it to myself

[Silvermantis]

Haha I totally get it but yeah best keep it to yourself.

[Wise4myage]

HE's the one whose delusional.

[Quigly]

Bad investment,

[Slim57]

Yeah

[Anonymous]

I love you ❤️

[Anonymous]

yes you're delusional

[Opinion Owner]

you want what you can't have

[Holo900]

Lol I don’t want him? I’m just attracted to him. There’s no way that you’ve never been attracted to someone who was married lmao