Am I the only one who thinks that men who just get overly annoyed at a girl with small breasts is kind of sexist?

[Marianna145]

I have seen on YouTube so many comments of some 'men' who criticized some models with small breasts! Well the only thing that i have to say is that women with small breast look more proportional in my opinion and that they do not suffer from back aches and i can confirm that as a proud girl with small breasts! I don't have anything against women with big breasts but I really think that men need to stop being to picky!! Also the thing that i wanted to say is that i heard that when a girl has a really beautiful or unique face which attracts a lot of attention has usually small breasts. Of course that doesn't mean that all girls with small breasts are beautiful but i know many who are! That said I think that men who only care about the outer appearance and not the personality of a woman just isn't a real Man!

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Sorry if i offended anyone but this is really what i think

[letsbelovin]

Clearly those blokes who make those comments have never been taught, or have no innate sense of respect for anyone, or self-respect for that matter. When a person judges someone else, it is merely a reflection of who they are as a person.

For anyone, male or female, to criticise a girl on her breast size clearly has some self-esteem and insecurity issues, otherwise why would they be so ready to criticise? They do it to make themselves feel better, to make themselves feel superior in some way because of their own lack of self-worth.

Personally I love small breasts equally as much as larger breasts. I have dated women with both, but that was not their defining feature, their defining feature is who they are as a person.

What's interesting is how one person can be more attractive to someone than another? And of course we all have our favourite things we like regarding physical attributes in someone. That's what makes us all unique, we all have our own preferences. We know when we see someone whether we're attracted to them or not, and to me that's regardless of breast size.

I'm attracted to slim women, curvy women or somewhere in between. As a male of the species, I see in a woman how she looks after herself, which is way more important than breast size. If she cares for her health and respects her body, that is a very attractive trait.

If she drinks like a fish or smokes or swears like a trooper and is rough and unwomanly, or any of the above, then regardless of how she looks, to me those traits make her extremely unattractive, and one to avoid like the plague.

Respect your body and it will pay you in dividends with a healthy life. Treat your body with poisons, whether that be over-eating, rubbish food, drugs or alcohol and it will also pay you in dividends, but only with dividends in suffering, mentally and physically.

I've seen many attractive women who spend hours at the gym, yet as soon as they're outside, light up a fag. I seriously don't get that. To me it makes them look superficial and vain, that they're purely focused on their looks, and don't really care about their health, which for me is a major turn off. However, it's their choice and I'm sure they don't care what I think anyway, so I'm not going to openly criticise them about it, I just won't worry about them :P

So I wouldn't get too hung up on worrying about breast size, or what others think, people who criticise others have their own issues to deal with, there's so much more to each of us as a person that makes us either attractive or unattractive, not just to someone else, but to ourselves :)

[MCheetah]

1. Men don't get "overly annoyed" at small breasts. Hell, most of the men on this site like tiny boobs and flat chested women (for some reason). This is an imaginary problem, created by women.

2. Even IF there were men who didn't like small breasts, who cares? I for one don't prefer flat chests on women (it's like the equivalent of a penis being under seven inches for women; not preferable or ideal), but you're not going to dump someone over it. Unless you're a shallow jerk or something.

3. It's not "sexist" for men to have preferences. This is the same BS trannies try to pull when straight men don't want to f*ck transwomen (which are dudes), and it's equally as annoying. No one is obligated to like you or sleep with you, and if a man said any of this stuff you're saying, everyone from both genders would be calling him an incel. So knock it off!

4. WOMEN are the picky sex! Seriously. Women have simps and inflated egos nowadays; of course they're the picky ones! Me being a short sh*t, I could just as easily tell women to stop demanding men over six feet tall or for tall women to shut up about "short girls stealing 'their' men," as if tall men owe you anything or that men under six feet are literally undateable like they have leprosy, AIDS, and COVID all at the same time. Women are the "picky ones!"

5. The only personality trait most women seem to care about in a man is confidence. And possibly his level of obedience/subservience. Literally nothing else beyond that matters to so many women out there. Many guys may also not care that much about personality either, but unlike women, they're in no position to get away with it.

I know you're young and all and don't have much experience in dating and whatnot, but all of this needed to be said. I hope you understand it. 'Not to offend.'

[Anonymous]

Yay and now this thread turns into a bodyshaming post, bashing women with big breasts
Sorry but I've experienced the exact opposite.. Men and women belittling women with big breasts saying that they sag, aren't perky. If you look at most questions on this forum, you'll see that most men actually prefer small breasts nowadays and that big breasts aren't trendy anymore.

I also don't agree with you, or the guy who said that big breasts look out of proportion. It really depends on the girl. For example, if she has wide hips, big breasts will look proportionate. Everyone's entitled to their own preferences, but I don't understand why we need to body shame others, for something out of their control, especially when it comes to something so trivial, such as breasts..

[Opinion Owner]

This is exactly what exacerbates eating and body dysmorphic disorders in young girls and causes them to resort to extreme diets or get plastic surgery to fit society's unrealistic beauty standards

[Marianna145]

Yes I wasn't talking about all girls with big breasts some are really beautiful

[Opinion Owner]

Well, the way this question was phrased was a bit :/

[Opinion Owner]

by the way that guy HighValue, who says he's attracted to very skinny and short and wimpy girls is a disgusting pedophile and a jerk.
I've followed his comments on the site and he dates much younger women than him, because he claims he has more common with them and that they have more possibilities to have children (what the hell has a 40 y. old in common with an 18 or 20 y. old)
What he said about 6th graders is disgusting..

[Marianna145]

I am not short by the way

[Marianna145]

Thanks for the information though

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah just be careful with some of the men on the site
Some of them are creeps and weirdos

[Anonymous]

I totally agree with you! Some men/boys are so superficial just looking at how women/girls look. I have small breasts also and I would rather have small ones than have big ones where like you said they hurt your back. I've had boys say rude comments to me and I've heard them say rude comments to girls with big breasts. It is sexsist. But as a girl when I see a hot boy or guy that has sexy abs versus a boy/man that is fatter I make judgements about them too. So all though boys/men are sexsist I guess girls/women are too. I've heard girls say some pretty rude things to boys in school that are as bad if not worse than what I've heard boys say to girls.

[Cubus]

Some people are just mean, you can't help it. The best is don't care about them

[Marianna145]

@Cubus true

[Opinion Owner]

@Cubus Very true 👍

[UnknownReflection]

Well said.

Not only breasts, but I'd agree on what you said about all the shapes and sizes across the board toward both men and women.

Physical attributions are literally out of our conscious control. And out there in the real world, there are far more important factors than just one's body part's shapes and sizes.

Therefore, small breast or large breast, each woman is beautiful in their own way and these differences in the size, shape and color is what makes every woman unique and exceptional in their own rights.

However, in my experience, most men don't really care about breast size that much. Magically enough, men are just attracted to female breast whatever size! the fun fact is, female's breasts activate "Dopamine" in men's brain instantly, which is the same hormone that is released when a person feels happy during an activity. It's also an addictive hormone. Dopamine is what released when someone using drugs or developing any activity as a habit, which the brain keeps tempting the person to repeat that habit all over again in order to feel the doze of dopamine which is why getting over a habit/addiction can be difficult as well as explains the obsession men hold over women's breasts.

[Anonymous]

I like this question and I like the way that you have answered it hard way that you see it it could be true for me I don't take a girl because of her breasts I don't even see her breasts even if I look at them because I'm trying to figure out who the person is on the inside that's all I care about yes I have a buddy it's just an extra bonus when you find the girl do you like within that's where the beauty comes from that's where the kindness comes from that's where her smarts come from that's where her confidence comes from is that energy Within and no matter what her boob size is I could really care less because I like to go on the inside now don't get me wrong then there becomes a Time to really look at the outside and that's just an extra bonus I always liked it girls with smaller breast because I always thought they would have more sensation and that turns me on going to find out all boobs have sensation LOL so for me it's a package deal it starts from who she is on the inside that radiates to the outside I don't know too many guys that pick girls because of the size of their boobs I don't think want to certain size I want the boob to fit the girl that's what gives her character and now you know what I need anyway I like your question

[TonyMetal___86]

Tbh with you marianna, idc about a woman's boobs cause that's shallow and stupid, i need a girl for love and marriage, w girl who loves me from all her heart and does anything for me and makes me happy, in the end she still have boobs and all the other package and i don't care about the size and shape, what i care about is her heart and the way she acts and behaves...

Men who gives a lot of importance about a woman'a body ate men who are seeking for sexual pleasure and one nights stand only!

[Marianna145]

Yeah i agree... I am not saying that big breasts are ugly i am repeating every woman is beautiful and i think that every woman deserves happiness

[TonyMetal___86]

I don't like women with big boobs, i prefer a woman with average boobs, but between big and small i prefer the girl with small boobs, that's my own preference!

Only REAL ladies deserves happiness!

[Marianna145]

Yes i agree!!

[Marianna145]

About the lady thing

[TonyMetal___86]

You look like an innocent girl and haven't changed a lot since childhood 🙂

[Marianna145]

Lol maybe

[TonyMetal___86]

😊😊

[LiamSawyer]

Myself I prefer small breasts as they're usually sensitive, firm and perky, they rarely get all saggy and will never cause the back, neck or shoulder pain that large heavy breasts can sometimes cause. I would say that physical appearance, such as a girl with a pretty face like yours, is often the first attraction for a guy to a woman but for a lasting relationship personality is the most important feature.

[Marianna145]

Some girls think i was bodyshaming women with big breasts nope I wasn't really like all girls tbh i just think it's unfair that some guys are mean to girls regardless her breast size but i mostly notice this with small breasted gurls

[boggboss]

This seems like more of a rant that anything objective small breasts have nothing to do with a women having a attractive face lol plus yes some men are picky but if a guy don't find small breats attractive he can't just turn that off and then like them it's not how attraction works

[Marianna145]

Yes i know... I am just saying what i heard i wasn't one hundred percent sure that all women with small breasts are BEAUTIFUL automatically

[Marianna145]

But still if the girl is overly attractive and has a good personality then what?

[Marianna145]

Overall*

[boggboss]

But its simply false again its a statement of fact that breast size have no effect on facial beauty

[boggboss]

Of I find a girl already attractive then it woudlnt be a issue but it could easly play a part in me not finding her attractive

[Marianna145]

Yes agreed

[Marianna145]

Oh ok thanks for explaining bro! ( I hope u didn't hate the fact i called u bro😂)

[boggboss]

No thats completely fine I get people can be shit for the most part stay clear of the comment sections people are dicks at the best of times no point focusing on what assholes have to say online

[jasco]

So are you ok with women being not being picky with small dick? most women would not be happy with that. 2nd standards exist for a reason. One other thing, the outer and inner appearance matters, because their the same thing. They both make up a person. You judge the outer appearance as well when your going for a romantic interest or are you seriously saying you would date anyone despite their outer appearance? 3rd How do you know what a real man is? Why is it that men aren't allowed to have standards when it comes to dating women?

[rxm_bxl]

Men have every right to have preference as with other other genders. But having a preference doesn’t mean I only date just that. It simply means that I’m just more obviously attracted to this- whereas the opposite may take more effort or more time- which is very okay. There is however a problem when one body shames woman who do not meet their physical preference. That’s wrong.

Nonetheless, woman with small breast does not ipso facto mean you’re more proportionate. You could have small breasts but a big ass- which is similar to having big breasts and a small butt. you can also have big boobs and suffer from back aches- I have a big chest but no back aches.
The body shaming that these men put on small breasted woman seems to be stirring an annoyance in you though, towards woman with big breasts- going of that beautiful thing you wrote. Either way, just don’t give a fuck, breasts are breasts, big or small.

[HighValue]

It is really not different that girls not liking guys for their height. I've heard plenty of girls say they don't want any guys that are under 5' 10 at the shortest. Mostly online, but some IRL too.
It doesn't affect me since I am 6' 1/2".
by the way, I prefer girls with small breasts and I always have. If they are skinny and short too that is even better. And if she is really wimpy to where the majority of 6th graders could legitimately beat her up in a fight even though she is an adult, I find that very attractive. If she is a wimpy sissy girl it can add 1 to 2 points to her attractiveness for me on a scale of 1 to 10.

[BBrooke_2002]

I think that the way men talk about women's bodies in general often comes off as degrading. Everyone has their own preferences I guess, but there is definitely some sort of fixation on size, whether that is chest, waist, height, etc. So sometimes it can feel like nothing's good enough. You just have to remember that that's not true.

[Sirenboobzilla]

I don't think they're being sexist. But I do think they'll take their personal preferences and project them far too much. I have F cups, and I've been through the spectrum of being told that my boobs are perfect, that my boobs are too big, and in between. Funny thing is I can probably make a safe bet that the majority of those guys aren't well endowed themselves.

[ChrisMaster69]

The thing is, it’s the person that is important not her boobs or other parts.

while yes I prefer small boobs, that’s just my preference, same as I like tattoos and piercings. It’s a preference, does not mean anything negative about anything else.

opinions and preferences are like Arseholes, everyone has one.

[Anonymous]

It’s not just men who do this! I am beginning to see more and women who criticise girls with small boobs. Seen it a couple of weeks ago a girl on IG, she left a comment saying girls with small boobs look like little boys and they are unattractive and gross. I experienced it myself in high school other girls making fun of me for not having boobs this was happening when I was in primary school in year 5 and than again when I was in year 8 and year 9 in high school. I’ve also had grown ass men making fun of me for not having boobs this was when I was 14 and the guy was in his mid 20’s

[Hellraiser1984]

I for one don't care about the size of them. I actually like smaller ones small c b and a. I understand the women who have naturally large breasts. It's just the ones who get implants to like z cup. One the weight is going to destroy your back. Two you must really have low self-esteem to get them that big. If guys are that worried about the size of your breasts over you as a person ( intelligence, humor, interests, and personality) then they're wasting your time. They're shallow, immature, petty and probably just looking to score.

[shaysh87]

It is sexist. But historically women have always been judged off of very superficial things such as looks, age , Weight. 100 years ago, women were property not human beings. Brides were bought and sold by men. Women have no say on who they married.

[Alphonsolawa]

100 years ago most people were slaves to the English.

[shaysh87]

@Alphonsolawa

not exactly

[Alphonsolawa]

We both know it was the case for 1/4th of the world

[shaysh87]

@Alphonsolawa

haha anyone who had studied history in school will not agree with you at all.

[shaysh87]

@Alphonsolawa

It was literally like this in all cultures. Actually brides are still bought and sold in the middle east and africa. Often these old geezers pay money to buy the youngest brides with the tightest pussies. Virginity was also a very important thing in the past because men only want to marry women with tight pussies. Virgins have tight pussies.

Even in jewish cultures, men purchased brides as young and pretty as possible. We are talking about 33 yr old men buying 16-19 yr old girls as wives. If a woman was over the age of 25 and still unmarried, you were considered a spinster.

[shaysh87]

@Alphonsolawa

even in america, we have a huge culture of criticizing and judging women off of weight, looks, clothes, appearance. We do not see nearly the same for men. Up until the late 2000s, female virginity was still glorified. The same way its been over glorified for no reason for thousands of years. A woman who wasn't a virgin was considered unwedable.

Insults such as "sad spinster with 50 cats" still exists as an insult today. Unmarried women get a called sad spinsters. but what about unmarried men? Unmarried men are respectfully called bachelors. do you see the difference?

100 years ago, a woman's self worth was completely based on if she can score a husband. Even in the 2000s, a common insult was "you , as a woman, can't even get a man!!!"

This underscores the patriarchal culture where a woman needs to be able to get a man in order to have any self worth.

The sexism and patriarchy can't be denied.

[Alphonsolawa]

So English didn't invade other countries and treat them like slaves?

[Alphonsolawa]

>Actually brides are still bought and sold in the middle east and africa

Dude slavery still exist for both men and women. You shouldn't be surprised by people buying brides. Also I heard that in someplaces in india/pakistan forced marriage even exist for men.

>Virginity was also a very important thing in the past because men only want to marry women with tight pussies

No. Virginity was important because two reasons.

1. People are dumb and attach superficial meaning to an useless membrane.
2. To make sure the child actual father is the married one. Back in the day paternity test didn't exist. This also one of the reason promiscuity in women was considered a bad thing.

Also virginity in men was also considered an desirable trait in men in parts of asia.

[Alphonsolawa]

>even in america, we have a huge culture of criticizing and judging women off of weight, looks, clothes, appearance.

Where I come from (in south asia) , both men and women will be judged for their appearance , skin color , weight and academical achievements.

>The same way its been over glorified for no reason for thousands of years.

I mean we worshiped rocks and trees for a long time. You shouldn't be surprised by this.

>Insults such as "sad spinster with 50 cats" still exists as an insult today. Unmarried women get a called sad spinsters. but what about unmarried men? Unmarried men are respectfully called bachelors. do you see the difference?

We don't have that insult. Anyone who haven't married will get insulted. But that is going away nowadays.

>100 years ago, a woman's self worth was completely based on if she can score a husband. Even in the 2000s, a common insult was "you , as a woman, can't even get a man!!!"

I'm not sure how was the country was 100 years ago. Only thing I know is 100 years ago we weren't free and every man and women was fighting for our independence.

Also "You , as man , can't even get a women" is a pretty common insult.

>The sexism and patriarchy can't be denied.

I didn't say sexism or patriarchy didn't exist. I said we were slave to the English , 100 years ago.

[shaysh87]

@Alphonsolawa

All around the world , 98% of all countries have patriarchal societies. Men are more important than women. Men are treated better than women. Men are first class citizens, women are second class citizens. Even though women in the US are treated more similar to men. US still has sexist cultures such as judging women unfairly compared to men: less promotions in Workplace, lower salary, housework / child care are usually done by women who work full time jobs. Studies have shown that women are judged more harshly by their bosses compared to men.

But historically, almost in every country and culture. Women are seen as property rather than human beings. Brides were bought and sold. Historically women had no right to pick their husbands. Even in 1800s america, a woman's most valuable belonging was her virginity. A woman who was unmarried beyond a certain age was looked down upon. Men owned women. You can't own a woman if she had her virginly taken by another man. Just the same way you can't own a can of soda if someone else had opened and drank out of it.

[shaysh87]

@Alphonsolawa

[No. Virginity was important because two reasons.

1. People are dumb and attach superficial meaning to an useless membrane.
2. To make sure the child actual father is the married one. Back in the day paternity test didn't exist. This also one of the reason promiscuity in women was considered a bad thing.]

These were not the reasons why virginity was valued. CHILDLESS Unmarried women who were non virgins were considered unwedable. This is not an argument about mixing up baby daddies or figuring out which baby is his.

Non virgins were considered unwedable because you can't own a woman who had her seal taken off by another man. A smilmar example is, would you drink out of a soda can that had been opened and drank out of by another man? NO! You can't drink out of this soda can because it had already been opened and drank by another man. That soda can cannot be yours!

Virginity was all about ownership and also better sex. Hundreds of years ago, old men would pay a lot of money for their brides. If you were to pay a lot of money for a bride, why would you buy a bride with a loose pussy rather than a fresh extremely tight one? If you paid a lot of money, you should want the best for your money right?

[Also virginity in men was also considered an desirable trait in men in parts of asia.]

This was not the case in Europe or even america.

A long time ago, china even crippled and broke the feet of females in order to restrict their freedom. how is it morally correct to break the feet of a live human being, just so that you can restrict their freedom?

do you see men breaking their feet? NO!

[Alphonsolawa]

Virginity was never about ownership. I don't know how it worked in Europe but in asia it wasn't about ownership. It was more about applying a superficial meaning to a membrane. People adding meaning to virginity in the form of slavery you are talking about is also still "people adding superfical meaning to useless membrane"

>A smilmar example is, would you drink out of a soda can that had been opened and drank out of by another man?

Yes. Specially if it is free. As they say "We would by even tamil newspapers if it is free"

>do you see men breaking their feet? NO!

No but do you know there was a tax for being a man during the colonial period? Do you also know there was a tax in form of free labor that existed during the age of monarchy that only applied to men? Do you also know if a man didn't pay any of those taxes they would kill that man?

[Alphonsolawa]

Dude we are talking about 100 years ago. Do you know who was the first class citizen hundred years ago? That's right. The English.

Also not only you are forgetting the unfair and sexist treatment toward men in USA , you also forgetting the fact pay gap is unproven many many times.

Historically most cultures were very egalitarian. Everything you are talking happened after the end of agricultural era. It got worse during the industrial revolution. During the agricultural era and before that people were very egalitarian.

[shaysh87]

@Alphonsolawa [Historically most cultures were very egalitarian. Everything you are talking happened after the end of agricultural era. It got worse during the industrial revolution. During the agricultural era and before that people were very egalitarian.]

Anybody to has studied history will know what you're saying is pure Bullshit.

Being in denial of what men have done to women in the past, doesn't make it false.

Most societies are patriarchal and even today, many societies are STILL patriarchal. Many countries in asia are still patriarchal. if you had to ask who has the advantage, men still have an advantage over women. This is south america, many parts of asia, middle east, africa, eastern Europe. Anywhere besides the US or UK, societies are mainly patriarchal. Even in US or UK, its easier to be a man than a woman.

[Alphonsolawa]

Anybody who has studied history know enough to not generalize history as "men owning women" . Like I said societies were very egalitarian till the end of agricultural era. After that ofc everything went to shit.

Also don't forget the genocide and slavery that affected men.

Also society being patriarchal doesn't mean it is a society where being a man is easier than being a women. Patriarchal just means father first society.

Let's be real here , It is far easier to be a woman in UK and USA. If you are a woman in those countries you would have a better social safety net , People that care enough to give you sexual rights , Not having to deal with toxic masculinity. We both know how weak the social well fare toward men in those countries.

[MrOracle]

MOST men aren't that picky. Realize that it's a handful of men being loud-mouths or who love trolling for reactions that are getting to you. Most men just want some boobs to play with, and don't care all that much how big they are.

[Anonymous]

Someone will always have something negative to say. It's a fact of life. The sooner you realise that pleasing everyone is a losing game, the better off you'll be. A lot of us like small breasts. A lot of us like big breasts. Just ignore the ones who don't like what you have, and feel good about the ones who do. You'll be a lot happier that way.

[TwinTonyz]

You're definitely not the only one who would think that, but sex appeal in figures who make a living on sex appeal is kinda a requirement. This criticism exists for both sexes. Nothing in all the MCU was worse than Chris Hemsworth being a fat Thor, right?

It's out of color for the times. In an era where much of society is trying to enable all women to look, feel, an act however they wish, anyone having any judgements against women for anything at all is sexism.

[nawtee_me]

I have and always will prefer smaller breast. I think a B cup is absolutely gorgeous and it is my preference. That doesn't mean I would not date or go out with a girl with bigger or smaller breast then a B cup. Personally breast size doesn't matter as much as a pretty smile does to me... I am putty in the hands of a girls pretty smile...

[Heartache0405]

I prefer girls with medium - small breasts. All I like the sound of her plague from how she reacts to them being touched. I'm honestly not into large breasts even if they still have the same reaction. 🤷🏻‍♂️ But I've had my experiences with that. It was fun while it lasted. I don't need it anymore.

[Anonymous]

First of all, there is nothing "sexist" about men having preferences. That's just silly. It is equally silly to say men who have their preferences are "not really men". Women are just as picky in what they look for in men, so try not to be so hypocritical.

Having said that, I actually prefer smaller or medium sized breasts more than large ones, and I thin many other men do too. I also agree with you about smaller breasts being more proportional to a slim figure.