I work at a pretty large company (several thousand people) that is mostly remote.
In lieu of a holiday party, the company scheduled optional small and large group events. None of the people in my group were people I have interacted with in my job.
I met my small group for happy hour a few days ago. We had reserved a table and seats were claimed. And everyone was doing intros and small talk. The last person shows up, D, and the last open seat was next to me. I thought D was attractive.
D and I start chatting. Small talk about the local area and basics. After like 15-20 we realize we weren’t talking to anyone else and engage in chat with the rest of the group.
At the end of the evening we pose for a pic, I end up standing next to D and he initiates putting his arms around my shoulder to pose for the pic.
We chat for a few and he mentioned he like to hang out at a nearby bar. I agree it’s fun and we all part ways.
The next day everyone chats in the small group Slack. I ping D to see if he is going to the larger happy hour later in the week. He confirms.
I see him in the middle of happy hour and wave and make a move to chat. He opens his arms for a hug. We end up chatting about non work stuff. Travel. Holiday plans. Family. Restaurants. All friendly stuff. After like 40 minutes we end the convo and I talk to other people.
Later I run into him as I am heading home. We exchanged goodbyes, and he asks me to send him recommendations. He also asks if I’d be open to grabbing drinks (since we live in the same city). I respond enthusiastically. And he gives me a goodbye hug.
I reach out over internal chat with my recommendations and we exchanged numbers. We’ve exchanged a few friendly texts over the past couple of days. Not sure if he wants to make a move or is just being friendly.
In lieu of a holiday party, the company scheduled optional small and large group events. None of the people in my group were people I have interacted with in my job.
I met my small group for happy hour a few days ago. We had reserved a table and seats were claimed. And everyone was doing intros and small talk. The last person shows up, D, and the last open seat was next to me. I thought D was attractive.
D and I start chatting. Small talk about the local area and basics. After like 15-20 we realize we weren’t talking to anyone else and engage in chat with the rest of the group.
At the end of the evening we pose for a pic, I end up standing next to D and he initiates putting his arms around my shoulder to pose for the pic.
We chat for a few and he mentioned he like to hang out at a nearby bar. I agree it’s fun and we all part ways.
The next day everyone chats in the small group Slack. I ping D to see if he is going to the larger happy hour later in the week. He confirms.
I see him in the middle of happy hour and wave and make a move to chat. He opens his arms for a hug. We end up chatting about non work stuff. Travel. Holiday plans. Family. Restaurants. All friendly stuff. After like 40 minutes we end the convo and I talk to other people.
Later I run into him as I am heading home. We exchanged goodbyes, and he asks me to send him recommendations. He also asks if I’d be open to grabbing drinks (since we live in the same city). I respond enthusiastically. And he gives me a goodbye hug.
I reach out over internal chat with my recommendations and we exchanged numbers. We’ve exchanged a few friendly texts over the past couple of days. Not sure if he wants to make a move or is just being friendly.
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Note: we had a good convo and I found it super easy to talk to D.
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Well this kinda fizzled out. Not long after this, I was hit with now ongoing parental health issues. This sucked up my time and energy over the past few months. And I forgot about all of this. And no office visits for me.
Parent health is rapidly improving and I have some breathing room now.
Interestingly enough the other week I ran into D, he moved and now lives very close to me. The good vibes continued. So maybe there is some potential.
Parent health is rapidly improving and I have some breathing room now.
Interestingly enough the other week I ran into D, he moved and now lives very close to me. The good vibes continued. So maybe there is some potential.
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