When I moved to California, I used to shop in the same store all the time, and as a single guy, but food every day, for that evening meal. There was a very cute checker at that store, and her name was 'Toni" I really liked her, and she seemed to like me also, but that was it.
One day, after many times going there over two years, she asked me this question: "Have you ever been going with someone, and met someone you liked better"?
I suggested that I had and asked her if she had that kind of problem, as I knew the guy she was engaged to. She said yes, I do have that problem, "I'm engaged to Dave, but I've always thought you were awfully nice!
Could have knocked me over with a feather.
Yes. I was in this situation. It does not end well. Figure out whats important to you because you won't have both. I kept my coworker girlfriend in loop with my wife, thinking this would make things "okay". Well, women aren't dumb. The relationship triangle drove me insane. It was hurting my marriage and damaging my career image. I watched in stupor, how juggling two loves was tearing each woman apart. I became emotionally entangled with my coworker and decided the best thing for me, my family, and for her was to dump her. This was so devastating for her. She reported me to my HR and then quit her job and moved out of state. In the end, I stayed with my family and am rebuilding myself. But I still feel terrible. Not worth it.
do you work together and talk all the time? and do you have feelings for her and fall in love with her? how long you been married and do you have kids?
You can love someone and fall in love with someone else but you cannot be in love and fall in love with someone else
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Yes. What do you think love is? Love has 2 definitions. It's either something you really want or something you really care.
Example:
"I love fish". Here love is = to want. If I cared about the fish, I wouldn't have took it out of the water, killed it, cooked it so I could eat it.
"I love my mother, wife, father etc." Here love is = to care. Sometimes he do things that aren't befinifitals for us, or things that we don't like to do but we do it just to see the other person happy.
In both scenarios you can be in love and still fall in love with someone else.
Yes it's possible. They're just feelings but you shouldn't act on them and be faithful to your wife. But no, there's nothing wrong with any sexual or romantic feelings. They're just feelings and as humans and especially as social beings they're some of our basic parts of ourselves.
I’m pretty sure that’s called cheating, or emotional cheating. Another reason why I don’t do love. I want to be loved by someone who only loves me and no one else. That’s apparently impossible now. I get too jealous by the smallest things. I’m the happiest when I’m alone.
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Yes, this happens, but you should be really careful letting yourself into this place. You may have to come to grips with the idea that your expression of love for your coworker will be limited because of your respect for your marriage.
u For me, "I love you" means that i want to spend the rest of my life being with you and only you. If I say that to two different women, then I would be a big fat liar.
Where does it end? Why not love 3 people, 5, 50, I say you have to choose to love one person or it means nothing. Everyone has a different idea of what love is.
Yes it’s not uncommon men are wired to be polygamous, monogamy only serves females. It’s their natural state , not males. They hate the truth of this even though it’s common knowledge in science.
Men can LOVE 2 women at once. I know it. But as a person you can be IN LOVE with only ONE person. Know the difference.
When I’m in love with someone it’s impossible for me to fall in love with another
Possibilities are there. If he had feelings for both maybe he finds a few commons things which is similar to his wife. In short resemblance of few things on common grounds.
I'd say so. But he just needs to make up his mind on which one he wants to be with. That is unless his wife and the other girl don't mind him being with both of them. Otherwise, he risks losing both of them.
I always give same answers to that kind of questions; if the first person was “the one” you will never had the second one so.
If it's possible to lovemore than 1 kid of yours, it's very much possible to love more than 1 male or female. It's just love. No big deal
Love isn't just to one person, loyalty is but love can be to more than one.
It's not only possible, it happens a lot. That's one of the reasons married people get divorced.
If you considered how the person you loved would feel or thought about losing them, would you?
There are different kinds of love in different ways to love people
It's definitely possible. In your situation, I think you should look into non-monogamy, see if you're interested, and talk to your wife about it.
Can only be in love with 1 person at a time. If someone says otherwise then they aren't in love with either of them
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