Is this normal in dating- asking because I haven’t been back in the dating scene for a few years now. Not sure what is normal anymore. I’m a 35F?

[Anonymous]

Went on a date with a guy who I met on an app. Started with a phone call, which led to following each other on social media, and then a video chat. Then we decided to meet in person the following weekend. We started off with a coffee chat, then migrated to getting lunch. After a five hours, he dropped me off. And we went on with our lives for the remainder of the day. Toward 5pm he called me and asked me if I’d be open to having dinner At his place. He says he wanted to continue our date/conversations. I said I already ate but would like to continue our now long date. So he picked me up, we had wine and chatted for hours until midnight (5 hrs). And throughout the night we sat closer and closer to each other on the couch. And as the night was closing in when we realized how late it was, we started making out…and things escalated and we ended up in the bedroom. Before dropping me off he said he’d like to see me again. We both noted that conversations we have with each other are effortless, and that he hasn’t met an interesting and attractive woman like me in a long time. He’s very vocal which is different than what I’m used to but very refreshing. Bottom line is, is this going too fast? Though we had what equates to three dates into one long day, we had sex none the less… did that potentially jeopardize the rest of this experience? I’m old school and don’t quite know what the dating scene is nowadays. And don’t know if this is just a long con and if the guy is just messing around haha. Don’t know. Would like to hear opinions from folks who’s been at this game for a while.

[Anonymous]

Any hope of a long term relationship is gone. You have to understand that regardless of what society, media, friends, and peers preach. Sex is the single most intimate act known to mankind and powerful enough to create an entire new generation, start a new life, and repopulate a planet. When you allow a man access to your body, soul and energy after such a short amount of time, you are communicating to him that you do not understand part of your job (gatekeeper of sex). As hypocritical as it is, most men will sleep with a woman, but they will not commit to that same woman for those reasons. Not all men are this way though, some will neither sleep with or commit to such a woman.

You could have exercised self control and said 'I've really enjoyed tonight but I will be getting back now. There was no real reason to have sex which amounted to temporary pleasure. Instead of worrying about what the man will or won't do, worry about your own boundaries, morals, plans, desires and values.

If you disagree with what I just said and do not see sex as how I described, then there is no reason to be concerned.

[LaNc3L0TT]

This is easy to to resolve, haha :D
Go out again, but this time only public stuff and no sex for couple of dates, if he is still interested after that, you are safe. Even better, say you don't want to rush things, what happened was nice but you love safer path. Like I said if he is still interested into you after this, he is good to go. :D

[ThePurpleGiraffe]

As a woman having sex the first hangout day is considered a one night stand to a lot of guys. A lot men of enjoy the chase. I’m not sure what you’re looking for but there is nothing wrong with one night stands. If you’re looking for a relationship.. then make the men you’re interested in work for it. Make them work for that first touch, first kiss, first private hangout, first make out, and the first rated R night. They will be more interested and committed. Hope this helps!

[20yearsolder]

Does it really matter? You seemed to thoroughly enjoy the day. You weren't coerced or forced into the bedroom. I'm assuming you had a great time. It's your choice to continue it from this point on but I don't see any reason why you shouldn't.