Why is he purposly trying to hurt me? Why does he not leave me alone?

[shona12]

This school classmate I liked 1 year back glares at me with sharp gaze whenever I am alone. Whenever I am around people he won't look at me but tries to be around me as much as possible. Appears in front of my eyes. He always takes time to watch my instagram stories. Like I upload quotes he watches 1 after 5 mins another after 2 mins another. He behaves normal with my friends like smiling at them and talking. He has dated few of my acquaintances. I know this guy from childhood we used to tease each other a lot. His best friend would tease him with my name. He was very sweet and kind to me. But now he behaves like a pyschopath. Only with me. I invited him to my restaurant he just said thank you so much 😉. I try to text him he replies after hours. Whenever I am alone he looks at me like he hates me. I feel so bad. When I say hi he says hi back. But he never initiates a convo. Why does he dislike me so much. He stares at me from distance with I dont like you because you hurt me look. I removed him from my social media. He sent me req again but I removed him again.
Its not like he is a shy guy. Infact he is a player. He loves to flirt. I've always ignored him. He does something to get my attention. He knows I like him.

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1 y

He only stares at me when I am not surrounded by people otherwise he just minds his business.

[SueShe]

Why are you creating multiple accounts to ask the exact same question?

Why is he behaving like this?

Are you going to cancel this account as well after you receive a number of answers and ask it again in an hour in a a 4th. or 5th. account within 24 hours?

Oh, I forgot. If this reply miraculously disappears, so will your account and all the subsequent ones. This is the sole warning you will receive.

[shona12]

No actually I keep creating accounts because in few mins I get replies from 2 3 people but then I dont. And I want replies from new people.

[SueShe]

You know that what you do is called spamming, right?

Don't be surprised if your account is revoked and your question removed. Right now, I will not act upon it but next time is a different thing.

That does not mean that another moderator will not remove your question.

[dorksided1]

Ignore him he is, bitter he can't have you, so he just messes with your head. Block him on anything you can and ignore him.

[20yearsolder]

Ignore him, only you can allow him to hurt you. Don't acknowledge when he's staring. You're comfortable enough to ask him to your restaurant, so you're comfortable enough to initiate the conversation. Why don't you ask him straight to his face, why do you staring at me? We used to be friends and now you fucking creep me out. What's going on?

[Anonymous]

TMDR. Treat him how you want to be treated. At all times. Whether he is around or not. Yes I know that makes no sense. Do it anyway. It will work.

[shona12]

So you telling me to treat him nice?

[shona12]

What he is being an asshole and how can I treat him nice

[Opinion Owner]

If you treat him nice he will start to treat you nice. It may not work right away but he will submit to the way you're treating him. He will lose. Right now you're submitting to the way he is treating you. He is winning. It would take too long to explain what is actually happening but it will work. Trust me. Don't do it for him. I am not saying that. Do it to win. He will not recognize the weapon in which you are using against him but I sure you, it is a weapon that is unbeatable when done with consistency. But you have to do it even when he isn't around. That means in your mind as well. Always treat and speak and think of him positively. Trust me. I know it sounds crazy but that's because you're not operating with my awareness.

[shona12]

I've never been rude to him. Yes I've avoided him so much to the point it would hurt anyone. I think ignoring and removing him from my life is the solution. There is a diff between being kind and being foolish.

[Opinion Owner]

This post is proof he doing what I told you to do but in reverse. He is ignorantly winning. He will continue to win until he stops or you change. This can be the greatest lesson you ever learn or the greatest lesson you never learn.

If you ignore him, he will stop eventually because his emotions are the master of him; but sadly you will lose this opportunity to learn the most important thing one can ever learn. I am not advising you to put yourself in close proximity to him but to simply be nice to him when you two happen to be near. You think you are the victim. You have all the power my dear. All you have to do is take it back.

[shona12]

I am going to take some maturity and time to understand this as you're the only person who has said totally the opposite

[shona12]

I want you to ask if possible can you share your experience where this has worked if I'm not troubling you

[shona12]

Did you read it in any book?

[shona12]

No offence to you but you said TMDR 😂 guess you've missed something imp while reading coz no girl would try to be nice to an asshole she'll just avoid him.

[shona12]

Because an asshole will be an asshole a player will be a player.

[shona12]

What does he want exactly? And why me why not someone else.

[shona12]

What will be the most imp thing I'll ever learn?

[Avicenna]

Bitter, he‘s bitter