Can a guy get bored with a girl that's really shy and bad at socializing?

[HelloSofi97]

I recently met a 35 year old divorced guy... he's confident, talkative and very down to earth. Meanwhile, I'm the total opposite. I don't go out and I'm always working or at home. I feel like when I'm talking to him that I bore him but he tells me that I don't. He says he thinks I'm really pretty and yes that I'm a bit uptight but it's normal. I feel like it's a matter of time before he gets completely bored.

[DaveJord]

ABSOLUTLY!!! YES, YES and YES!!!

So when you met a shy girl at first its cute, because you think she is just being shy with you... and for some reason some guys really get into that. Because every guy is shy to some degree, so they feel less guarded and intimidated approaching a girl that quiet cute and shy.

Let me tell you that gets old very fast... once the guy figures out her shyness is not because she's super into you... it because she has some deep rooted social anxiety based upon her own insecurities. I dated an married a shy girl before I was old enough to comprehend all the red flags... I run from shy girls these days.

[HelloSofi97]

See, that's the thing... I was open and honest with him yesterday about how I'm shy because of my environment and lack of socialization. He replied with that's fine and that he can work with it and that his personality can get me talking.

[DaveJord]

As long as your aware of it and honest about it... just don't let it get the better of you. Its not a death nail or anything, but it all depends on how you handle it and why. Not everyone is chatty, which is fine as long as your not internalize things and not shareing.

[DaveJord]

One last thing... some guys like shy girls because they think they are submissive or just easy going. If thats not you, then you need to be vocal, straight forward and direct with this guy.. make sure your feelings are heard and understood with this guy.

Thats what happened to me. I am extroverted and she was introverted. As a young navie man I thought I had my game tight. But years latter I discovered that she was internalizing everything. So don't let that happen to you. Be honest straight forward and direct with him. Shy or not, trust me on this. Because someday you will snap if you are not standing up for yourself, and the back lash will snap this guys neck and send his head spinning.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I once went out with a girl who was very shy and introverted too. She thought i would get bored with her as well. I did, but that doesn't mean HE will!

He's right about one thing though, you are really pretty.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I've been giving a lot of thought to your initial question and I may be able to offer you some good advice. I really got bored with that girl i was telling you about because she kept putting the idea in my head. It was only because I kept thinking she's right I am bored. Otherwise? I don't think I would of noticed so much. The advice I have for you is don't mention it to him again and perhaps find interesting topics to discuss with him.

[HelloSofi97]

I totally agree

[TommyMountainFigure]

Thank you for choosing my answer.

[DataOrganizer27]

I'm the same way, and trust me people can love you exactly as you are! I have many people who took that time to get to know the layers of me and love me more because I didn't just spill it all at once.

And you know they care about you when they put in that effort. It makes for an amazing relationship, whether it's friendship or something else.

And if they don't take that time they aren't worth it. Matches like this are good too because it gets us out of our comfort zone a little bit.

[rachel776]

that's usually a good match, like JFK and Jackie Onassisesises

[chriss]

The answer would be yes and no because of psychological reasons.

If a guy wants an outgoing girl, he will get bored and leave and not because of you but because of the personality he is looking for in a girl.

If a guy wants a girl that is not outgoing, then he will not get bored.

It all comes down to the type of girl he is looking for.

This is why we go on dates to see if the person is a match.

Always keep in mind it depends on the person and that there is always someone for everyone.

[Crafteroon]

Yes. Like with anyone you are conversing with, if they aren't paying attention to you or they aren't doing the effort to make it work, it's better to end things.

So if you do like him, there is no shame in saying you are shy and it's not easy for you to open up. But if you lose interest after saying that, you need to say that too. Don't mislead no matter the situation.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Boring is relative, the only way to not be boring to someone is to share the same interests as them.

For example any girl who isn't both an artist and a gamer who likes animation, fantasy and science, is automatically boring to me.

There are other requirements too, but I don't need to list those for the point to be made.

[wa1t1ngFuture]

Usually what I think I often see is that men talk less and women talk more often. Men want women who have a motherly nature. Men actually like it when women like to forbid "don't do this, don't do that" for men, it's a sign that she cares about you.

On the other hand, women prefer men who talk less because talking a lot makes men usually less respectable for men (charismatic men usually talk less and when they do talk, they are very wise).
Thanks..

[ArtemisSilver]

Yes. Even if a woman is hot af, I'm going to start taking terse uninteresting responses and a lack of interest in anything as a sign to look further afield.

You've got to show some effort and enthusiasm, unless you're cool with only attracting people who want to use you as a sex doll.

[ĂþhƏNa]

Im same like you... very shy and I always have same problem I feel like men would get bored of me

[Anonymous]

I seldom get bored by anyone. More likely if she's shy and bad at socializing then talking to her is like pulling teeth. Couple that with the fact that most "shy" women are are actually just narcissists. Most aren't really shy. They just lazy and think it's the guys job to do all the work. Why would a guy want to entertain those women?

[DavidRaul]

No i wouldn't get bored with a woman like you. I would always come up aith something new and try to interact with you as much as i can.

[ColHathi]

I mean if that happened, it wouldn't be because of her bad social skills or being shy. We just wouldn't have anything in common.

[dolemite89]

then don’t be boring 😂 he seems to be into u already

[Anonymous]

The reason you think that is because if you were with a guy like that you/girls would get bored of him. Men don't think in the same way like this (because they are nicer and less judgmental in general)

[Loveisgirthy]

Yeah I mean it'll detour my attention

[User_69]

It's possible to get bored :/

[Shy_Steve]

Yes definitely.

[Shy_Steve]

Usually Confident Guys.

[Anonymous]

Yes.