How would you feel about this situation?

[Anonymous]

I made a dating account a couple of months ago just out of boredom. I ended up matching with this guy, and we were dating for some time virtually. Out of nowhere, he ghosted me and he eventually told me that he couldn’t handle the distance anymore and left. A couple of days ago though, he sent me message with pictures of his face. I said “excuse me?” since I was confused and he said “oh dear god” like I’m crazy and told me he sent it to me by accident. I just said okay and we left it as that but was he trying to do that to get my attention indirectly? Or does he genuinely think I was the weird one in the relationship when I didn’t do anything wrong?

Trying to get attention

He thinks you’re weird/crazy

He’s trying to make himself feel better about it all

None of the above/other (explain below)

[HollyK21]

Personally I wouldn’t feel anything about it. What happened just seems like a generic, accidental thing and not like some gateway text in an effort to chat with you.

[Asker]

But what was the need to say oh dear god? Like it was very unnecessarily negative

[HollyK21]

Honestly that one is hard to determine, because we don’t know how he meant it and even I’m guilty of typing something in a text, meaning it one way but the person perceived it as something else. On one hand he could be saying it in a rude way, which wouldn’t be surprising behavior given the fact he ghosted. On the other I wonder if it’s like embarrassment, because he ended things with you and now it looks like he’s already moving on so quickly. But see, we can’t know the true meaning, only speculate and that will drive you crazy. So it’s better not to dwell or allow it to offend you at all. If he meant it negatively then you dodged a bullet, and if he’s embarrassed then it doesn’t matter because you’re moving on anyway.

[Asker]

That’s true, thanks