My ex ghosted me for 2 years ( we are co workers in same team) and I swear I know in my gut and from rumors that he has been close to another girl in my team ( but am not 100% sure if it’s just friendship due to her behavior ) suddenly he is contacting me and trying to be friends and gossip and bringing back some inside jokes to see my reactions.
Once he made a comment and was waiting to see if I would react the same way and make a joke but I let go and did not react - he was disappointed and said “- I am disappointed I was expecting a great comeback” I just did not even respond to that because I can’t trust him again and I have a feeling he is just using me for entertainment because he is bored or for gossip or wants a ego stroke.
Also I want to be careful so he does not think am behind him again ( I am not ) , I miss him and the friendship but the hurt and how he ghosted me without even having some basic work relationship sucks. So I want to keep my distance also I want to see if he really makes an effort to win me back as a friend.
if I give in and talk normally already it would be easy for him and I don’t want to just give that - I am not playing games for fun but it’s hard for me to just give in when he has not even apologized for being rude. He just comes back and acts as if nothing happened..
is it correct that am keeping my distance and not reacting to his jokes? I do talk to him normally as a coworker and am casual and friendly ( but only when some work stuff comes up ). I don’t reach out unnecessarily or to just chit chat. I keep my interactions limited and distant. Is that the right thing or am I overreacting?
Once he made a comment and was waiting to see if I would react the same way and make a joke but I let go and did not react - he was disappointed and said “- I am disappointed I was expecting a great comeback” I just did not even respond to that because I can’t trust him again and I have a feeling he is just using me for entertainment because he is bored or for gossip or wants a ego stroke.
Also I want to be careful so he does not think am behind him again ( I am not ) , I miss him and the friendship but the hurt and how he ghosted me without even having some basic work relationship sucks. So I want to keep my distance also I want to see if he really makes an effort to win me back as a friend.
if I give in and talk normally already it would be easy for him and I don’t want to just give that - I am not playing games for fun but it’s hard for me to just give in when he has not even apologized for being rude. He just comes back and acts as if nothing happened..
is it correct that am keeping my distance and not reacting to his jokes? I do talk to him normally as a coworker and am casual and friendly ( but only when some work stuff comes up ). I don’t reach out unnecessarily or to just chit chat. I keep my interactions limited and distant. Is that the right thing or am I overreacting?
