? ex and I were suppose to have a talk yesterday but we never did…(25m 23f) advice on what to do please?

[ssisj]

so ex and i have been broken up for 4. months. either he would reach out to me or i would. i told myself in August i wouldn't reach out. he continuously would reach out. we have school together (masters architecture) and i just started and he is about to end. he has drunk called me saying he missed me etc and would reach out asking about how work is etc. the school is in one big room so we are constantly bumping into each other. the first day of school he reached out asked where i was to say hello and see me. through the week he would ask if i was at school etc. he offered to tutor me and we met.

i admitted all this felt weird. he said it felt weird for him too.

i then blurted out i never wanted to talk to him again. he said to at least say hi. i said no and he left.
he said he respected my wishes… he was expressionless as if he didn't care.

when we broke up 4. months ago he mentioned he rather keep me as a friend then a girlfriend thats why i got so annoyed but again a lot has happened in these 4 months that i dont even know what he wants anymore lol.

i felt bad so it took it back and texted him. i told him i felt bad and was super stressed out with school.

these were the following texts:

me: this is all bothering me and im so stressed.

him: you can't have it both ways… thats what u told me. so im telling u that back.

me: everything is just so hectic.

him: I was going through something similar… few months bacj and u didn’t understand so I guess I don’t get it now

me: well now i do and i can't handle all this.

him: and its fine when it was happening to me? thats not fair.

him 2 mins later after me not replying: lets talk Friday after or before class. come in a good mood i dont wanna ruin our weekend

me: lets do after and ok.

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1 y

a big reason why we broke up was because i didn’t understand how stressed he was and i wanted time for me. despite everyone telling me he doesn't make time now i have his very busy schedule and i come home super late or stay at the school often. i get it now.

i dont see him until Friday where we bump into each other and say hello. i have a huge presentation and he says that my team can't print lol architecture stuff. i look annoyed and stressed as i did everything by myself. he says i know

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1 y

what to do as im very good with that stuff so i will be fine.
dunno if im making this up but as i was heading 
class ends and i text him:
me: still at school.
him: I had to go ! Office emergency! Sorry I new I promise.. but this was super urgent. I will make it up !
me: okay
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background about us: i work at an architecture firm. im an office admin at the school. and im doing my masters.
he is doing his masters, has an architecture firm in india, works at an architecture firm
here in theUS

[bea09]

He seems like a jerk, respectfully, but disrespectfully. He can't handle the fact that you don't want to be in a relationship, but he clearly doesn't want to be your friend.
At first, he had a busy schedule. But if you were dating, he should have made some sort of time with you, and you understandably didn't get it. Now, you have a busy schedule, and you see that making time for someone is hard. But you would still be willing to do it, right?
But because you don't want to be in a relationship with him, he's angry, and he is disrespecting you. Drop him. You can find someone better when you have the time and you want to. If he was the one for you, he would understand that you get it now, and you want to be friends. He would respect that you just want to be friends, and wouldn't pursue you until you pursued him.
He's acting like a baby, manipulating your own words to guilt-trip you. He's not worth your time, and you shouldn't be drained because of him. Don't meet him, don't reach out, don't pick up his calls. He's just a lonely dick who needs your validation without giving you anything. There are other people out there who will understand you and make time for you. Just stop talking to him; go out with your friends and focus on yourself. When you're good and ready and want to be in a relationship, pursue someone who will make time for you no matter what, won't gaslight you, and will understand when you have a hectic schedule.

[Anonymous]

Why do women do this silent treatment nonsense? My daughter did not call me for months, and yes, I was upset, but when she finally did call, I picked up. I did not give her silent treatment and act like."Oh, I will do it to her so she can see how it feels." that's childish and immature. I know she's probably busy and forgets. You talk instead of creating a bunch of anxiety and making yourself feel worse—the same thing with friends. I have enough respect for my friends to tell them what's wrong or why I am upset. I treat them like a human beings and talk to them and try to put the bullshit beside me. I do not ghost them with a passive-aggressive attitude.

I am not going to ruin my relationship with family or friends just because I am upset with them. It's so childish. Just talk to him like a normal person and stop turning it into a dramatic scene from a movie or a soap opera.

[ssisj]

lmao i dont care about your scenario lmao answer my question

[jimmy2]

I read about half and I know get away far away from him