Is it always a bad sign when they stop making an effort?

[Anonymous]

We have been together for over 2 years now and I can’t help but look back at the “honey moon phase “ and just miss the way he used to be I miss him telling me I’m beautiful I miss his touch and his effort. I’ve brought this up to him before but it seems to never really get across. is this simply the male brain just not getting where I’m coming from (no disrespect I just am fully aware of the difference between male and female brains ) or should I be concerned how can I truly tell if he’s given up on me/ Is loosing attraction or has simply become to comfortable in the relationship? It’s brought up so many insecurities in me especially when in my mind , the things I’ve asking for are the bare minimum and he claims to always “ forget “ that I require these things

[BloodCursedDeviant]

You should really really talk to your partner about your feelings. I guess it is normal for couples to fall out of that phase eventually.

[Asker]

I agree that moving past that phase and normal and can be a beautiful thing if your able to navigate it correctly but it’s been about a year and a half and about 6+ sit down conversations about the exact same thing and he will typically try really hard for a day or two max and then nothing again I’m super easy to please I just ask for consistency but I wonder if me being to quick to “forgive” for lack of better word makes him feel like he’s doing enough

[BloodCursedDeviant]

Hmm…I’m really sorry to hear and in a way I’m going through something similar. I don't know if you wanna talk about it though roughly privately or is it okay to talk more private in the open?

[Asker]

Either or really

[BloodCursedDeviant]

Well send me a message if you’re comfortable. lol

[Asker]

Sure