Why does he stare at me all the time but can't look at me while we're talking?

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There's a boy in my university class, who always stares at me from across the room. I thought he might just be lost in his thoughts and not notice me. But then I eventually saw him doing the same outside on campus. It was so intense that I almost always had to look away, though I'm usually good at keeping eye-contact. At first I thought he had a question or something but he was not talking to me, only to his friends next to me. He did like this until I approached him today. We teamed up for group work in class, and finally started to talk to each other. Eventhough we had pretty funny conversations and we kept talking throughout the breaks as well, he just did not look into my eyes. Even while listening to me, he kept looking at the table in front of me, at my hands all the way up to my lips, but only glimpsed twice into my eyes, quickly dropping his gaze back to the table again. He seemed to have a hard time actually. I feel like this is really confusing, I don't know if he either likes me or if he's actually annoyed by me. I feel like "Body language clues" don't help the situation either, because this also changes based on the physical distance between us. Anybody with some advice?

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

Because has lost, never had or can't find his balls?

he's either shy, insecure or hiding something. Breing shy might sound cute, but it gets old fast.

Bottom line, no eye contact means insecurity, or he's hiding something. To be honest the stare down from across the room is creepy. CREEPERS!

Seriously as a guy you look, in a way that she knows you're looking, get her to look back with eye contact, hold it long enough to make sure she knows, you know she's looking back, give her your best smile, hope for a return smile, and break eye contact before it becomes creepy. After that happens more once, you approach the girl.

She actually approaches him, then he needs to find his balls and project confidence. Dude sounds little creepy to me.

summiter · Accepted Answer

I think he likes you but is not sure whare or what to do. If you like him and are single maybe ask him to handout or study together or grab a cup of coffee. He may be a nervous guy who is shy or maybe a virgin and not sure how to engage. Do you want to get to know him better?

sheenagwapa · Accepted Answer

he is probably autistic. i know because my soulmate is autistic. nothing is wronh with being autistic by the way i know it spynd crazy but i have dreams super weird dreams i am beinh insteucted. before since i am perfectionist plus i have ocd i keep doubtinh, jeep making sure bit now i'm already to the point of certainty that's why i'm really wanna encourage everyone to teally have a relationship witj Jesus. he is without a doubt real. literally REGARDLESS of your sins God forgives you so pls grab the opportunity

jillybeanns · Accepted Answer

I think he might like you and it’s too shy to make eye contact. Usually if someone is annoyed you will feel the hostility.

caring__1 · Answer

There are different patterns for different cultures. For instance, in the USA, looking someone in the eyes is seen as a sign of respect. In Mexico, looking someone in the eyes is seen as a sign of disrespect. Point out you've noticed this pattern and are curious to understand it. Never criticize differences, implying everyone should be a clone of you. Only he can tell you what his behavior truly means. Responses on this site are often just off the wall guesses or attempts to push buttons or stir the pot.

flautistnaturist · Answer

Maybe he is respectfully intimidated by the level of influence direct eye contact tends usually to initiate openness to. Maybe submission to each other, and openness to submission to each other, as eye contact generally indicates readiness for, is not a matter that it seems is responsibly within reach yet, by the appraisal which is occurring to him as you all converse.

Massageman · Answer

It could be any of so many reasons. Maybe you are the first gal with whom he is finally at ease. Maybe he's panic-stricken. Or maybe, just maybe, he'd like to use his mouth on your mouth and just doesn't have the nerve. Maybe try to think of a creative way that would let him know that you are interested and see if anything happens.

Likes2drive · Answer

I used to have a dog that did the same thing at the dinner table every time I looked at her she turned her head and looked away but when I wasn’t looking she was looking right at me again and my food lol, i’m sure he’s just shy and likes you

Summeroflove · Answer

I have no clue. Maybe he likes you. Maybe he don’t. Maybe he’s nervous. Maybe he’s on the spectrum and does not look into peoples eyes that well.

I think if you’re into him. You should just ask him out

WeirdoFriendly · Answer

Perhaps he's shy. He doesn't want to make eye contact with you, knowing that you're looking back at him. But looking at your beauty while you're not looking at him is his comfort zone. Try to push him out of it slowly.

Vikkrram · Answer

He is a shy guy and he don't have the courage to talk to you and look into your eyes. I can say that coz i do same wid my crush.

birthmoon · Answer

Looking is easy and eyecontact is hard. Sound like I would do the exact same thing he is doing - if I thought you were cute

RealMarek · Answer

He might just be shy. If you like him, you can see if this gets better with time. Or you can just ask him about it.

Guy13 · Answer

Some people that stare are simply strange. He might be one of these.

Avicenna · Answer

A number of people have deficiencies in social skills. Sounds like he likes you.

Lkid23 · Answer

Well, he has a crush on you. Just ask him out for a coffee, if you happen to like him too. It’s no shame girls taking a lead. Might end up good for both of you.

Mybeachlife8888 · Answer

He’s lacking confidence, and is scared of rejection

Jamie05rhs · Answer

"It was so intense that I almost always had to look away" You just answered your own question. That's how he feels.

BJP21 · Answer

"And the monster looked upon the face of beauty and, beauty stayed his hand." This anology would be my guess.

Nahid1707 · Answer

Do you personally have a crush there or someone you saw who doesn’t give you the same level of respect back?

gerald5466 · Answer

he is probably shy i can talk to girls if they talk to me but i just don't feel comfortable enough to look them in the eyes

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe your interesting to look at but not agreeable to talk to

Anonymous · Answer

Do you really not realize that is timidity? It could be nothing else, by the way.

Anonymous · Answer

He is probably just shy or lacks confidence.

coachTanthony · Answer

Boogers... no?

Twalli · Answer

I don't make eye contact when talking unless I have to

Deserter · Answer

Because he is your bitch and he knows it, so, why don't you?

Con29 · Answer

He is probably shy I used to be like that to be honest

TheAfrikan · Answer

He seems to be a shy one, not with a strong eye contact.

Jeff79 · Answer

I would say he likes you and you need to be more assertive

DubiousIntentions · Answer

Do you have braces or crooked teeth?

bubblegunnn · Answer

Maybe he is a shy boy or prolly likes u

Daniela1982 · Answer

Maybe he doesn't like your crooked teeth?

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

he is just shy

Cheerfull009 · Answer

He is shy guy, so you take move and talk

jamartheg · Answer

Because he’s homosexual

Anonymous · Answer

Shyness could be a factor.

In_Trance · Answer

He's intimidated

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