He said the damage is done? is he hurt?

[blackittencat]

I was friends with guy for almost 4 years we end up having sex for 3 days. I was to terrify that he wouldn’t like me or ghost me. I would get upset and type paragraphs. I said imma just go because I thought he just wanted sex from me.. he said he doesn’t want to wake up to an mix emotional girl that other guys can have me. That the damage is done.. He blocked me I try calling on other phone he said he’s not unblocking me… it’s been 2 weeks since what happened he hasn’t reach out

[Anonymous]

For him to say he doesn’t want a mixed emotions girl and that other guys can have you means he’s done, so he won’t be contacting you anymore. How he went about this was really mean, but unfortunately I can kinda see his point. You let your fears of being ghosted take over, and sending paragraphs about your insecurities was excessive. If he’s the kind of man to use you and ghost, he was always going to do that. The only difference is that he was able to do it and make you at fault for him being done, which sucks. Your time with him is done but try to make better choices with the next guy. Like if you know having sex will make you attached and you will worry that the guy is only using you, then do have sex until you are more confident in what you guys have.

[blackittencat]

He ignored all my calls and texts … all I did was talk about a situation with a male coworker … he even got upset about that … he said I was bashing him but in the texts I was just asking for advice he hang up on me … I don’t think it was serious to end it like this he literally knew for 4years and the relationship I was in before lol 😂 I was to tell him everything when I was hurt he said he can handle me

[Opinion Owner]

Well, clearly he was not genuine about his care towards you. 4 years is nothing to a man who’s emotionally detached from a woman, even if it means something to you. He is not that important of a person to dwell on, so I think you should accept the “friendship” is over so that you can move on with your life now.

[blackittencat]

Okay I will try too.. im attach

[Opinion Owner]

It’s ok that you feel attached still, your feelings for him aren’t going to just disappear overnight and 2 weeks of not talking isn’t a long time. This is still new and hurtful. I just think you have to start accepting the situation so you can heal. Don’t try to contact him again, he doesn’t deserve so much attention.

[blackittencat]

I did contact again :( I’m doing horrible

[Opinion Owner]

It’s ok, just don’t do it again. If you have friends or family you can talk to for support then reach out to them. If you’re struggling super hard and it’s effecting your mental health the consider therapy if you haven’t already. But you have to stop reaching out, being ignored is going to ruin your self esteem and he’s not worth begging for.

[blackittencat]

Omg when I contact he answer asking who it was I said is this erick? He said Yes.. 😂😂😂 I think he changed his number

[Opinion Owner]

Are you listening to what I’m saying?

[Opinion Owner]

Just seems rude for me to say all this then you don’t even acknowledge it and keep talking about him. Also I don’t think his number changed otherwise you wouldn’t have been able to text that number and he wouldn’t have responded. He was just trying to make it clear he doesn’t want to talk to you, as if your number is deleted.

[bean2k21]

At this point, you better move on. "The damage is done" means that actions were done that were so hurtful that there's no hope of repair, because he can't imagine someone even being capable of acting the way you did. Unless you want a restraining order, it's best to give him space.

[blackittencat]

He even told me to leave him alone… I try apologizing… all I did

[Brando10222]

Move on it's over.

[blackittencat]

…okay