My best friend sometimes falls asleep while texting me. He said I should be flattered that he forces himself to chat with me. Should I be upset?

[Anonymous]

My best friend is 34 and I am 48.

He sometimes falls asleep while texting me on Whatsapp. We always text 4-5 hours each night from 10pm-3am. He said he is so tired and I should be flattered that he forces himself to chat with me as he only sleeps 4 hours everyday. He said he can be so tired that he even falls sleeps while riding his motorbike.

He has been unemployed for 7 years and only plays computer games, watches videos or plays guitar everyday.

Should I be upset with him for falling asleep while chatting with me? He has fallen asleep like 6-7 times in 7 years so I asked him to stop forcing himself already and go find someone who won't make him fall asleep to chat with.

You should be upset with him for falling asleep.

You should be flattered that he forces himself to chat with you.

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Please cast your vote. Thank you.

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I am 49, sorry.

[SteveSmith1985]

This is an easy one. You should be "flattered". (not actually "flattered", but it's a good thing).

Think about it. The solution to not falling asleep on you is to end conversations well before there's any risk of him falling asleep.

In other words, the reason he falls asleep is because he is talking to you until he loses consciousness.

This is a situation where you're being "a ridiculous girl." Unarguably.

You talk to this guy for hours everyday. Do you honestly think you're being reasonable or rational in any way by even CONSIDERING "taking offence" here?

Stop being silly.

[Asker]

That is really helpful. Thanks so much!

[Asker]

So both he and me are dumb like what @In_Trance said?

[SteveSmith1985]

Well... I'm glad you're at least open to seeing that you're being silly. And... I don't know about "dumb" but "silly" or "ridiculous" in an immature way. Also... I... didn't say anything about "both" of you... only one of you is being silly here... 🙂

[Asker]

Lol. But if he is so tired, why won't he just end the conversations? He is the one who always doesn't want to sleep and then ends up falling asleep.

[SteveSmith1985]

He doesn't end the conversation when he's tired because he doesn't want to miss a single moment he could potentially spend talking to you. You don't want him to end the conversation earlier. If he did, you'd be bitching about that.

He's being silly for sure. But he's being silly in a PERFECTLY acceptable way for someone who really cares about his girlfriend. His "silly" is actually a good thing (hence the "you should be flattered part")

[Asker]

Lol, I am not his girlfriend, haha. We are just online friends from 2 different countries since 2017 but we never met.
You analyse my question very well. I really appreciate it.

[SteveSmith1985]

Oh I see. He's just the guy you talk to for 4-5 hours everyday until he literally falls asleep... for the last 5 years. I don't know what I was thinking. Clearly there's nothing going on between you two. Yep, just regular old friends. "buddies" "chums" "mates"... yep... that sounds about right...🙄

[Asker]

Yeah, we are very good friends. And why that eye-rolling emoji? Lol.

[SteveSmith1985]

No, nothing. Good friends. Sure...

[In_Trance]

This is dumb. You're not 12. Have a conversation, say goodbye and go to bed ffs.

[Asker]

Lol, so both he and me are dumb dumb people?

[spartan55]

This has got to be a troll.

[Asker]

I am not. This is a sincere question. What makes you think I am a troll?