If a guy I have been meeting and hooking up with starts to leave me on delivered even though he is active does that mean I should give up? I like him?

[Anonymous]

a couple of weeks ago this random dude adds me on snap, a few days later we meet up and hook up, after that we started to meet a lot more, spend hours just talking to each other about so many things and we discover we have a lot in common. On Snapchat he always responded right away too. He told me many personal things like how recently broke up with his abusive girlfriend of 3 years. We really clicked with each other and I really started to like him a lot. I met him the last time around 1 and a half week ago and he has become more distant and does not hint that he wants to meet up. He is starting to go online on snap and not even responding to me but to others. I really don’t know what I should think of this, is he starting to lose interest? Yesterday I asked him if he wanted to meet up, he responded with “I don’t remember if I made plans with my friend I will let you know later” then he left me on delivered for 5 hours and at 1:30 am when I was asleep he said that his friend had made other plans. I really don’t want to give up on this because I really like this guy but is that the right thing for me to do? Should I just delete him from snap and forget him? I don’t even know if he is meeting other girls.. ah this is really a difficult situationship

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He added me first from a dating app where he later added me on snap.. we did talk for a few days before we met up. What is confusing me so much is that he was always telling me how much we clicked together and I also met some of his best friends

[TruthBringer]

Ladies, this is why you DON'T sleep with a man before you secured his commitment.

Sorry love, but he isn't interested in something long-term, because he thinks you are too easy to get. This is a common test men do. The underlying thought is that "If I can get with her in bed easily, that means that other men did as well, and the chances of her cheating on me later down the line are also more likely compared to a woman who is more reserved".

[Drdeeznuts1132]

You're too late to tell him that lmao. Give it up.

Next time tell him how you feel BEFORE he starts doing that. So maybe after the first two flings ask to hang out casually. Go get ice cream or something. Show you're interested in more than just sex.

The rule here is that women who only offer sex only get sex and that's all we expect that they want from us.

[Drdeeznuts1132]

Let me reiterate. Idkwtf I was talking about. I have no opinion. Next question

[LovingJo]

As everyone else has said, you were a hook up. Unfortunately you will have to get over it and move on.
Try not to be so quick with it next time 🥰

[MzAsh]

You’re were never anything more than a hookup to him. He’s not worth a second more of your time.

[nitsuj86]

Yeah, it's a wrap. If he liked you enough to be with you he wouldn't be pulling this stuff. Recently single, just out here fucking would be my guess. Might have had fun with you for a moment, but found the next girl.

Move on. Stop going for men like this, it's just gonna keep happening. Stop fucking random dudes on Snapchat and expecting them to be good guys.

[LuminousMind]

@nitsuj86 hi I just wanted to say I really like your advice and I wanted to ask if you wouldn't mind giving me your advice on a situation? I would likeep if you can follow back so I could dm

[lightbulb27]

This is why I dislike social media... interpreting and mis interpreting confusing and confounding signals. Lanauge is bad enough we don't need more layers of confusion.

Pick up phone and talk, much simpler...

[Jdjfjcjj]

You already gave it up, why would he want relationship? He'd keep you on the B team for the new vag that's come a long but if she can't meet up some particular night, you get a shot at the majors again

[Bionee]

Fot context, he is my former date. We couldn't get past the initial stage as he was only looking to hook up and I wasn't. He was quite jilted over it and remained passive aggressive with me but still kept talking to me in person. I did tell him. that I liked him a year later but he said he's not looking for anything. I tried to leave him by even telling him that if he doesn't want to talk to me, it's okay I won't bother him ever again. But he refuses to stop talking and we continued to talk.

However, I did not talk to him for a month (he studies in a different building now since the main study space where we met was closed down by the uni) and when I randomly bumped into him, he gave me a really pissed off look. First, he pretended to look the other way but as I was passing by, he looked at me and threw me a dirty look. As if he hates me. I saw him turn his back on me when I was coming close too but then be turned back, pretended to have not seen me and when we made eye contact, he gave an awful look. I still gave him a warm look and waved.



Few days later, I bumped into him again while he was leaving for work and he was warm towards me. He was opening doors for me, being friendly etc but we didn't talk much as he was going to work.



I dont understand. I thought he didn't like me so I stopped going to talk to him. Then why get mad by my absence?



A few days later, I bumped into him again and he was completely normal with me. Was going to work but he was not acting rude, held both the doors for me.



We didn't talk much as he was heading off to work. We bumped into each other again a few days after and he was once again quite normal. He asked how was doing, he let me accompany him to his study space area, heard abiut my work related problems and advised me to think for myself qnd not overburden myself. He also told me about his studies



I dont understand. why be normal after giving me hateful looks that day? Il

[Jdjfjcjj]

@Bionee I suspect that although you might have emotional feelings for him you should not waste your time. He giving you the smallest amount of attention necessary to keep you playing this game where he basically eating his cake and wants it too.

[Bionee]

This is not the original poster. I'm posting my question as I didn't get replies do posting here to get replies

[red324]

You're probably smothering him. Lay off for a few days. This happens with girls I meet online. They want the spend all day texting back and forth for the first week, then they disappear just as fast as they came into existence.

[supercutebutt]

Give up but keep yourself lubricated just in case. Good luck :)

[melanieeeB]

You may like him, but he doesn't seem to like you or see more in you then just a hook up

[melanieeeB]

I don't think he ever had more interest in you to start with.

[melanieeeB]

He still just wanted to fuck you, nothing more

[Bionee]

Fot context, he is my former date. We couldn't get past the initial stage as he was only looking to hook up and I wasn't. He was quite jilted over it and remained passive aggressive with me but still kept talking to me in person. I did tell him. that I liked him a year later but he said he's not looking for anything. I tried to leave him by even telling him that if he doesn't want to talk to me, it's okay I won't bother him ever again. But he refuses to stop talking and we continued to talk.

However, I did not talk to him for a month (he studies in a different building now since the main study space where we met was closed down by the uni) and when I randomly bumped into him, he gave me a really pissed off look. First, he pretended to look the other way but as I was passing by, he looked at me and threw me a dirty look. As if he hates me. I saw him turn his back on me when I was coming close too but then be turned back, pretended to have not seen me and when we made eye contact, he gave an awful look. I still gave him a warm look and waved.



Few days later, I bumped into him again while he was leaving for work and he was warm towards me. He was opening doors for me, being friendly etc but we didn't talk much as he was going to work.



I dont understand. I thought he didn't like me so I stopped going to talk to him. Then why get mad by my absence?



A few days later, I bumped into him again and he was completely normal with me. Was going to work but he was not acting rude, held both the doors for me.



We didn't talk much as he was heading off to work. We bumped into each other again a few days after and he was once again quite normal. He asked how was doing, he let me accompany him to his study space area, heard abiut my work related problems and advised me to think for myself qnd not overburden myself. He also told me about his studies



I dont understand. why be normal after giving me hateful looks that day? Il

[melanieeeB]

Look I don't care about the details, it really doesn't matter and I know you're trying to find a reason or justification why I'm wrong and he may still come around but the truth is, he is just not that into you!

[Bionee]

This is not the original poster. I'm posting my question as I didn't get replies do posting here to get replies

[melanieeeB]

Still, he is not interested in you lol

[Bionee]

Then why making angry faces if I don't talk?

[nudetru]

Procead with caution.. he's got options n possible experience... know your competiton find out what your in for up against.. do pros. cons... roll dice girl.. have fun.. with it

[ThomasDavid1989]

So you not only met someone strange on the internet, but then fucked him too, without figuring out if he might have an std

[NostalgiaSenpi]

You were a fling and nothing more. What did you expect from hooking up?

[Greenbins]

Yeah... it sounds like he is getting bored with you now and is looking elsewhere but make come back to you if he can't find anyone else.

[TallAnon]

Yeah, he's done and if he isn't, it's just another hookup.

[JamesRandiDebates]

Yep. Sorry, but it's obvious you're sex game isn't good.

[Avicenna]

He’s seeing other women

[marish01]

You are a hookup not a special girl.

[Vegasrunner]

@marish01 She hasn't done anything to earn the right to be special yet. This is a huge mistake women make. She's basically asking if just existing is enough to keep a man of value the answer is no.

[Softlife808]

It means the sex wasn't good.

[boobliker]

that is only something you can make your mind on

[Guanfei]

You're a hookup, what did you expect?

[Cherry10111]

Yes walk away