This guy I’ve been seeing off and on lives long distance. Let me preface by saying we are not serious, but we do have a history together and I care deeply for them. I found out I would be around his area staying approximately 4 hours away visiting family. He wanted to drive to me, but could not due to work. He arranged a rental car for me to drive to him. All paid for I just needed to pick it up. One thing led to another and the rental car was a failure. He claimed to understand, I sent the money back and I could tell he was sad I couldn’t come. However, the next day I barely heard from him and he posted another complete random girl on his story.. I know this was to get back at me /lash out because he never post insta stories. I jokingly said his new girlfriend was cute. He responded “yeah?” I said “no” .. I was left on read by him. Should I tell him I’m hurt? Should I just leave it alone? What would you do?
Swallow my pride for the guy?
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You have no reason to have any pride to swallow. You stood him up. Good reason or no, you stood him up. That he's still talking to you at all after that shows what a nice guy he is. Most men I know would have already deleted your number. You can tell him you're sorry, you're not entitled to tell him your hurt until you've demonstrated that you value his time, money, and effort that he's put into your relationship with him. How are you going to do that? I don't know... that's up to you, but this isn't about YOU, and it's not your place to make it so by going on about how you are hurt. So was he.
Only you can say if he's worth it to try to patch things up.
I wasn’t approved to drive the Turo rental car … And I didn’t have a credit card to book a rental car. He technically could have just driven. Would have been more inconvenient. I also explained the reason for my trip was a family emergency…
I hear you, and I think all those reasons are valid, but it still comes down to you had plans, you stood him up, it's on you to put it right if you want to, but it's not on him to have to accept it. I hope he does, for your sake, because you do seem to like him.
That said, look at it from his POV. It's the internet. Everyone is a catfish or a liar. He thought he was going to see you and he didn't. Statistically you're one of those two categories.
You don’t need him. You pay him back and saw that he has moved on to someone else, in a way to probably make you “jealous”. Think of it as you dodged a bullet with him, he had an back up or sad to say maybe you was his back up but now you know he’s true actions and move on to someone better and closer.
Well I mean for you to move on to someone better. You don’t need to explain that your hurt it’s a whatever situation.
A "backup" can be acquired in less than 15 minutes it's a jump to assume he's been working her in the wings for the past month.
Yeah agree he had the other girl for a while to even have confidence to post her on Instagram.
No that's what I'm saying. We can't assume he had her for ANY time. I get dumped tonight I'll have someone else in an hour, tops, some places are just very favorable ratio. I don't know where he lives... technically it COULD be like that there too, and he did NOT have anyone "in the wings." Maybe he has a half dozen in the wings, I don't know the guy from Adam, but someone else there the day after doesn't' mean she was there the day before, just point of fact.
So u hurt him he hurts u then u want to tell him u are hurt?
To be fair tho this entire situation sounds like needless drama