Why does he not believe things I say?

[Anonymous]

We've been dating each other for a year now. He's the first man in my life. The issue is he doesn't believe in anything that he himself doesn't suffer from. For example, he'd never believe I can be subject to workplace/ street harassments since as a guy he has never experienced it. Similarly, a lot of things that girls have to go through and guys don't - he denies to be true. He also tells me how his sisters and female friends don't have similar issues and definitely it's a problem with me.

He also recently when we were fighting over his denying my experiences, told me that his female best friend, in the initial stage of the relationship told him reading my texts that I'm not a good girl, using 'tricks' on him and he should avoid me.

Am I really not being able to understand the red flags?

[hamzaelll]

You need to talk to him about this. He shouldn’t be showing your text to other girls, 1: because these texts are private, 2: because it makes it look as if he is looking for faults with you and is asking for help from his female friend. Tell him that your feelings and experiences are real to you and matter to you, and that he should be supportive, or at least he should try and understand you instead of being dismissive. You enter a relationship to find comfort and support and to escape the problems you face daily, don’t enter a relationship to add to your problems and stress.

[strateguy632]

he does not believe because of the experience of other ladies in his life.