We were classmates and I kinda had a crush on him but I always brushed it off and we started talking as friends but I already had a boyfriend that time. We got closer as years went by and during this time I was on off in relationships and finally when I was single we started to flirt? Well that’s what I thought we were doing, as jokes he’d say that he’ll marry me and what not. I kinda knew it would always stay as that and so I got into another relationship and when he knew about it he kinda drifted away (not chatty like before) but we still stayed in touch (fyi long distance friendship) and catches up with life and this is when I realised that I like him, I really do and I decided to let him know I always had a crush on him and that this feeling of mine was getting problematic. And I knew what his answer would be too. But I had to do it for me, to get it off my chest. He said he was cool with it but after that day we’ve never talked again, he never called n I never did either and I noticed that he likes our mutuals posts but doesn’t even view my story. So my question is, is he ignoring me? Did our friendship mean nothing to him? Or is it because I have a boyfriend and this whole thing is awkward for him? Or what exactly is it that he’s being this way.
You weighed the odds and already considered this outcome may happen, so why the surprise? Why even confess to romantic feelings for another man while in a relationship? You moved the friendship from platonic to something more when you confessed, so now he can’t carry on with you since you’re taken. He knows that and you should know better than to do that as well. Like how would your boyfriend feel knowing you have romantic attraction for the man you claim is your friend? Do you even care what he thinks when you were willing to leave him for someone else?
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It is an uncomfortable situation you put him in. He may need time to process the information you told him. Imagine a guy you had been friends with for a long time confessed his feeling towards you, even though he had a girlfriend. It's a lot to take in. There is a good chance he IS ignoring you, but that doesn't necessarily mean he hates you, or that your friendship is over. The way you described the situation makes me think he liked you, and when you broke up with your first partner he started to feel more comfortable flirting, but after you got into another relationship, he decided to keep a respectful distance. I DO think his friendship meant a lot to him, but as you put it "this whole thing is awkward for him"
Good luck
because you have a boyfriend, it was awkward time to tell him. and he can't write to you while you are dating someone else.
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he either likes you too and doesn't know what he wants and is not ready for anything
or he doesn't like you and feels awkward about your confession
Oh, no, he doesn't view your stories!
How do you sleep at night? 🤦♀️
He may be trying to orocess everything
he's ignoring you
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