Alright, I seriously read everything that has been said, only to give you my answer.
Everyone, please wake up and don't take sides in this type of situation, because here is the deal:
- if you were offered to marry a gorgeous intellectual and well-mannered man, with no sufficient income to supply your household, allow me to tell you you would not.
-if you were offered to marry an billionnaire, with an ugly soul and nothing in common with you, you also wouldn't (unless, as said before, you belong to the low percentage of women who would do absolutely anything to find money in their way)
The main point is, it's all about BALANCE.
' Good personality + good financial situation ' is probably the best mix for everyone.
Dear question asker, money is never a priority to a sane normal woman, but it is a huge factor that comforts her as well as it comforts the man. Believe me, a man with no money is his bank account is as miserable as the woman getting married to him.
One more thing I'd like to tell you; frankly, you can come from a poor family, and work your own way to the top of the ladder. So money ISNT the most important thing, it's just a way of telling humans 'you're safe because I got your back in a world that practically entirely relies on material matters'.
I hope you understand the message I'm trying to convey.
Ok, you have some true points in your question, but you also have some very wrong points, too. See, money is important, it is to everyone in one way or another. Very, very few people in this world would be unperturbed if they were told they had absolutely no money and had lost it all. Same for women, money is important in their lives. It provides housing, food, stability, and the peace of mind that their children can grow up happy and cared for. It would be foolish to think money wasn't important. But this is where you got it all wrong: money is not the most important thing a woman is looking for. Granted, some gold-digger type women are, but those are rare and shouldn't represent the entire female population. Women want more in a man than just a fully loaded bank account. You think girls go to sleep at night dreaming of "the one" just being some rich dude? Sure, it's nice to have that, but what they really want is someone who can take care of her, loves her, and is her best friend in the world. If you can provide that, than you've got a girl. It might be easier for a rich guy to get a girl, but truth is, if you had two options who were the same personality and look wise, but one had more money, wouldn't you choose the rich one?
That is completely untrue! I wish that you wouldn't use the word EVERY when you can't possibly know every single woman in the world. I am the bread winner in my household. My last two relationships were with a pizza boy and an arcade employee while I am a full-time bank employee on my way to a journalism degree. Although both of the guys were also studying, I never expected either one of them to make more money than me as journalism can be a prestigious line of work and they were going for lower level work. I don't look down on them for going to school for what they like to do - I'm doing the same thing, my career will just likely earn me more money in the long run than theirs will and that's perfectly okay with me. In fact, I would rather be the bread winner in the house because it makes me feel proud and independent. :P
That's like a guy saying looks don't matter and its all about the personality. And then someone says, I got the perfect girl for you. nice caring loving, great personality and all that. but she is 300 pounds. and the guy will say no. Same thing with girls and money. They don't expect us to be loaded (gold diggers do but we aren't talking about them) but they do expect us to do our share. If they get a job and make some money, then why can't a guy? I think any guy who want's to support a family, should want to be financial stable to be able to support the fam. And women are looking for a guy who is able to do this. So in a way money does matter. Instead of wondering why women are "hypocritical" Why not just raise your standards of women. Say a woman who doesn't have kids should have a job to support herself. Have separate bank accounts. You got yours and your wife has hers.
Seems like most women want financial security and such, I've never really heard of a woman marrying a guy that makes less than her.
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While finical security would be nice it's not the only thing girls look for, I'm in love with someone with almost no money but I still love him, I do wish he would make more so if we were to have kids I know they will be taken care of but I will NOT break up with him over that. My question to you though is why you had to say "if you ain't got the dough, you won't get married to the pretty girl" are you saying that pretty girls are that shallow? Or that you only want to get with a girl if they are pretty? Both seem wrong since your asking a question about things getting in thee way of true love...just sayin(:
honestly,i can truthfully say; I don't care about money. as long as the guy isn't a slacker with no job, living in a shack next to some crackheads. I mostly look for a guy who is mature and responsible. I'm not gonna lie, I somewhat care about looks, but it's not my main focus. and I don't want kids when I grow up, so he wouldn't need to worry about money for that. I don't give a sh*t about gifts? he just needs to show me he cares about me. gifts can't buy my love. if he bought me a rose, I wouldn't suddenly love him more than I did before. I just want him to be able to show me he cares for me, and show affection. I don't need gifts. and as for a house, as long as he has a decent looking apartment/house, and keeps it clean, I wouldn't complain. but that's just me. there's tons of high priority girls out there, but not EVERY one of us is like that. just remember that.
@ update: Bullsh*t, personally I'm the earner of the two of us and there is nothing worse than a man thinking he's defined by his wallet or validated by the size of his penis. Get over it, maybe you're just not dateable and don't have a decent enough persona - or it's the pool of girls from which you're trying to date.
What? I think you are making a big generalization to all the girls.Every girls are different.I personally think that money can't replace or buy love.All that you stated like nice house,support for education or kids are the things that every marriege couple should have.Every people want a stable life means you need to find someone who has stable financial(not rich).I do agree some women tend to be gold diggers but you have the choice to avoid them.Its easy to track a gold digger so why are you worried so much.Your last statement was so untrue.I have many pretty friends with good career(teacher,accountant,airhostess) married with the men who earned less than them.What about rich guys who only wanted to marry a model,actress or singer? I haven't see any guy with lots of money married a coffee shop waitress.
Why do girls say money doesn't matter when it is the main thing they look for?
^I don't hear doesn't matter from most girls but that it doesn't matter much.
As if you don't need to be rich but you need to be financially stable so you're a contributor in the relationship not a burden.
You can be the best guy in the world but if you ain't got the dough, you won't get married to the pretty girl
^ so marry an ugly girl or an average girl
Or get a cheap pretty mail order bride
Dude it's like men saying looks don't matter. Why should an attractive woman settle for some guy who has less a than amazing career and socioeconomic status when she can do better? It's in her best interest to do look for the best. Personality doesn't provide financial security.
When I first started dating my boyfriend he was unemployed. But he is amazing, and I would not let that type of thing get in the way of love.
He now has an incredible job, and everyone teases me and says I'm a gold digger, which really pisses me off because I've been there for him through hard times, and always would be. yes, it's nice to be supported and treated by a guy, but it's the 21st century fgs, support yourselves girls!
"Okay, I know its not the only thing but no girl would go for a guy who makes less than her" Wrong... my ex made less money than I do and I still dated him. As long as the guy makes enough money to support himself it doesn't really matter to me too much.
"what makes girls happy and attracted..gifts, a nice house, support for education for kids"
that's not asking for money, that's asking for the base minimum. money matters, of course it does. how can you live without money? are you going to get married and move your wife into the basement of your parents' house? grow up
its a generalizing figure that all women have in their mind. women needs secure from their man. If the guy couldn't give her this it depends on the woman if she stays or not. probably not though. I'm not saying women wants more money. its just a financially stable that will keep their mind off at ease.
that's the main thing all girls look for? really? REALLY?
Nup, wrong there buddy. Maybe for older women who want security but I can look after myself fine.
Because girls are young and like new shiny things. When they grow up and get jobs they buy stuff for themselves. Tip: big difference in a girl of 17 and a woman of 26 for example. Wait it out, it won't be long before that changes for you.
Not all women are for money, if you find yourself in this situation all the time, then you are looking at the wrong type of woman. Usually women want a man who knows how to support himself and has a car.
they don't want a leach but some girls don't need a mansion, get what I'm sayin?
LMAO@ the personal attack in response to a general question. Typical female shaming language.
Assumptions make you look smart
Not only that but sex too!
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