Recently had some issue with the guy I was casually seeing. I have always thought of us as friends but recently have felt like he was just using me. We were discussing via text but decided we would talk in person about it.
We both have tough schedules. He works a lot of weekends and night shift. He asked me Sunday morning to meet Sunday night. I said I already had plans. Then I message him the next day asking when his next night off was so we could plan. His response was he’s off sat but he has something going on and then he’s off Sunday but he has to get up early on Monday. He didn’t suggest another time. To me that just came off rude. Like blowing me off? Especially since we said we needed to have a talk. Like you can’t spare a few hours on your weekend?
Am I over analyzing? I just feel like that coupled with other things indicate this has come to the end.
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Well you answered your own question about him using you , he clearly was using you for the simple fact that when a guy really likes a girl he will find time for her no matter what obstacles come his way , The same goes for girls’ that really like a guy as well, when someone doesn’t make you their top priority , they just like the convenience of you, while keeping their options opened for someone else to enter, if someone can’t climb mountains to be by your side , they are not worth your time and effort , it sounds like he just liked having sex with you but nothing more if you had sex with him, that is? My advice to you is just move on and see if he reaches back out to you , if he does eventually and says I haven’t heard from you , say the same to him. I didn’t hear back from you , I thought we were going to talk but I guess other things were more important so I just gave up and figured you weren’t interested to talk, and keep it at that. You don’t have to apologize or anything because you already put the ball in his court by trying to make time for him , so you are best to let him come to you
Yes I didn’t want to start more drama so I decided to just be short with him and let it fade. Feel a little bad in my responses but he got the hint and haven’t heard back from him since yesterday. He usually texts all day and night.
Um maybe a little rude but it sounds like he did try to find a time and your schedules just didn't work out, so not that rude if that makes sense? But if you're not feeling positively about your relationship and don't want to continue then just break it off.
Yea I mean he did ask for Sunday but he literally asked me to hang that morning. Just kinda shows to me that I’m not in his priority list. This combined with some of his other actions have just shown it’s come to the end of the road.
I mean, especially if your relationship is relatively new, you can realistically expect to be at the topic of his priorities at all times. But like I said, if you're not feeling it for other reasons then don't worry about this one too much. You don't need to compile a bucket list of problems in order to end a relationship.
Rude how? I don't hear you setting any time aside to see him either so I guess you're rude too. Your self awareness on the hypocrisy is pretty shocking. But I'm sure you don't see it that way.
He asked me to hang the same day. message me Sunday morning to hang Sunday night but I’m rude because I didn’t change my plans? I then asked him for additional nights he’s free and he rejected me. Not sure how that’s me not setting aside time? Sunday was literally time I only said no time in 6 months of hooking up.
You said he offered another time too? I mean got all mad if you want, just all seems kind of stupid tbh.
Maybe he's not happy with you about something?
No he didn’t offer any other time. Just said after that it’s been a while and we’ll work something out. I guess I was already mad about a few other things so that kinda just topped it off.
Sorry, I read that wrong. Look getting all mad at a guy you are 'casually seeing' sounds like too much drama and he probably doesn't want to deal with it. Probably sounds like relationship ey talk to him, or maybe he's tired of you being mad all the time. Don't know the specifics here, just giving guy perspective.
Well yea I think you’re right he wants nothing to do with the relationship type stuff with me. Haven’t had any drama besides this one issue but I think he maybe just doesn’t want to put the effort beyond bare minimal.
I'm sure if I talked to him I'd get a different story, but it doesn't matter. Sounds like you agreed to casual and tried to pull the ol switcheroo on him?
We haven’t had any discussion of relationship stuff ever until this month. Wasn’t trying to have something serious but I thought we were friends too. Like I tried to initiate meeting up at the beach but he blew that off. Just seemed like he was setting boundaries there. Yet he texts me multiple times a day every day.
Think he just liked the free 🥧 pie probably.
Ya exactly. And I’m over here enjoying the companionship. 😬
Once you give it up for free there will never be any relationship. Girls refuse to believe this for some reason.
He just message me randomly after 2 days saying he thinks we need a break? That with the frustration of making plans that maybe time to ourselves will help. We weren’t in a relationship? Never heard of a hookup break lol
What a moron