hi guys!
its myday off and my coworker asked me to go hang w him on his lunch. i jokingly said hey aren't ryan and james enough? (two coworkers of ours who are his good friends) and he replied nahhh u gotta be there.
is this indicative of a crush on me?
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He did heart hands to me today when he saw me is that a sign?
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There are a few possibilities here:
1. He does have a crush on you and wants to spend time with you one-on-one. Asking you specifically to join him for lunch, rather than just inviting the group, could indicate his interest.
2. He sees you as a good friend and simply enjoys your company, platonically. Some coworkers like to spend time with each other outside of work in a friendly way.
3. He may see spending time with you during lunch as an opportunity to get to know you better in a professional context. Networking and building good working relationships can be beneficial at work.
4. It's possible he wasn't even thinking that deeply about it and just wanted the comfortable familiarity of a coworker to join him for lunch on his day off.
On its own, this one invitation doesn't provide enough context to say definitively whether he likes you romantically or not. There are a few ways you could get more clarity:
• Pay attention to other subtle behaviors - does he make excuses to talk to you? Does he stare, smile or laugh more around you? Does he go out of his way to help you? These could indicate interest.
• Gauge his interactions with other coworkers - does he single you out in any way or treat you differently? Compare how he talks and acts around you versus others.
• See how future interactions go - does he continue to ask you to hang out one-on-one? Does he try to prolong your conversations? These could be signs of a crush.
• If you're comfortable, you could try asking him directly. Sometimes the most direct approach yields the clearest answer!
Hope this helps! Let me know if you have any other questions.
so we work retail where networking isn't important and he also let me know that one of the guy friends of his that i mentioned teases him for hanging out with me i wonder why.
There are a few possible reasons his friend might tease him for hanging out with you:
1. His friend suspects he has a crush on you. Friends often tease each other when they think the other has romantic interest in someone. Even if your coworker insists it's just hanging out as friends, his friend may still think there are underlying feelings.
2. His friend thinks you and your coworker would make a good couple. Even if a crush isn't actually there yet, friends sometimes try to set people up who they think would be compatible. The teasing could be an attempt at playing matchmaker.
3. His friend is just being meddlesome. Some people enjoy teasing their friends, even if there's no real reason behind it. His friend may see you two hanging out as an easy opportunity for playful pestering.
4. His friend thinks spending time with a female coworker is unusual. If your coworker doesn't usually socialize with women outside of work, his friend may find it noteworthy enough to make jokes about.
Without knowing your coworker or his friend personally, it's hard to say which of these, if any, may be the actual reason. But based on the context you provided, options 1 and 2 seem the most probable - that either his friend suspects a crush or thinks you'd be a good match.
The fact that your coworker mentioned the teasing to you at all could be a positive sign. He may be trying to gauge your reaction and see if you share similar feelings. But continue to tread lightly and observe his behavior going forward. You'll gain more insight over time.
wait i have a question. so we were talking about our manager and how she gave me the stank eye for going in to say hi to him on my day off, and he was like she's just jealous of you you already know
but then this morning he sends me a reel on insta of this girl and says "she's so pretty fasho" why?
This is a mixed bag of signals from your coworker:
On the one hand, him saying your manager is "jealous of you" and that you "already know" suggests some level of connection or intimacy between the two of you. This could indicate he sees you as more than just a coworker or friend.
However, him then sending you a video of an attractive girl and calling her "pretty" seems contradictory. If he was truly interested in you, this behavior would likely be confusing or hurtful.
A few possibilities for his actions:
1. He does like you but struggles with mixed feelings. So he sends mixed signals as a result. This is common for people who are unsure or hesitant about acting on their interest.
2. He enjoys your attention and company but doesn't actually see you romantically. So he says things to subtly keep you interested without committing to anything more.
3. He's just flirtatious in nature and enjoys the ego boost of you showing interest, regardless of his actual intentions. This wouldn't necessarily mean he "likes" you in a meaningful way.
4. He's immature and unable to properly communicate his feelings. So he expects you to just "know" how he feels without him having to be direct or vulnerable.
Without openly discussing things with him, you won't know for sure where you stand or what his intentions truly are. But his behaviors - sending flirty signals one moment, then introducing an attractive girl the next - suggest a lack of clarity, maturity or consistency in how he views you.
Tread cautiously and protect your own feelings. A direct, honest discussion may be the only way to gain true clarity and determine if pursuing anything further is wise. In the meantime, remain observant but try not to read too much into his mixed signals.
Yes, he does. That's why he asked you.