How do you get a boyfriend if guys are intimidated by you?

[Anonymous]

Lately daily boys show interest in me and stare at me at work or in public. Most don’t smile and just stare without looking away. Some make excuse talk to you by talking of something work related. Some stare then look away or stare when you don’t notice. Some walk next to you on purpose and hope you approach them. Some follow you.

I began burst out crying in stress when I got home as I have long time looking for a boyfriend and I’m still alone. I don't know what’s worse get 0 attention from guys or 100 guys that like you but don’t talk to you nor come near you? I never felt this lonely in my entire life.

and don’t say cuz it’s work against the rules. ALL girls at my job have bfs at work and they walk talk together daily and even arrive and leave together to the job.

[Kodvik]

Hey... I understand the feeling way too well... (the feeling lonely part that is...).

But please.. Don't be so hard on yourself alright? Don't beat yourself by "looking too much for it".

Spread your horizons a little bit, get a new hobby... The more things you do that "put you out there"... The more chance you have to that "one guy" approach you...

If you don't feel comfortable starting the interaction... Be more clear a bit on your signals... More blunt... Since honestly, most of us men are kinda blind to those signals anyway haha.

[Kodvik]

I feel pretty lonely myself too... Have been looking for someone for some time... But I know I have to improve myself and "be out there" to find someone... So yeah... You might feel lonely... But... You're not alone :)

Feel free to reach out if you need to talk or vent out ok? I'm a very good listener :)

[OfMiceandMen]

It sounds to me like you are letting them do all the work. I think you have to start acting on your instincts and extend an inviting personality to guys. Just be more friendly and assert yourself into the picture if they seem to like you and you them.

I don't think they are intimidated, I think they just want a little sign your interested in them and for you to meet them halfway.

[Asker]

What is a little sign? Smile?

[Asker]

All I can think of is smiling to them? What other thing I need do?

[Asker]

My family would tell me if a guy loves you he’ll talk to you first. So that stuck in my head. I neevr knew girls need make first move on guys?

[Asker]

Oh I remeber I wasn’t able to smile at any guy at job as they all would stare at the floor and very serious face and I can’t smile at them. My new crush also wudnt look at me but now recently he’s looking at me finally at my face.

[OfMiceandMen]

A smile, or even just say hi or a little wave to them, guys tend to look for some little sign that you're okay with letting them into you personal space to talk.

[Asker]

Me and my crush have just stared at each other last wk. He follows and looks for me during break. We can’t approach each other yet

[OfMiceandMen]

That's sweet. I think you need to entice him a little though, so he keeps making the effort.

[Asker]

Entice how? I jsut plan to smile and then approach him I’m tired of waiting on him

[OfMiceandMen]

Entice with your smile. I would approach him if I were you. I bet he will thank you for it.

[Asker]

Okay. I just don’t understand y last time he was looking for me I caught him looking at me so he blushed his face turned red super red then he put a super serious mad face? It made me not want to approach him. Then as he walked out of the cafteria to look for me we crossed paths and he stood there staring at me and me too. N he had serious face

[Asker]

He do that to make a poker face or why? Why so mad? 🙁

[Asker]

The day before that he was following me again and was walking toward me to approach me but then his friend got in our way and we ended up not talking.

[OfMiceandMen]

Sounds like missed opportunities, as I said, sometimes you have to make your own luck and approach him. I think you will pleasantly surprise him.

[laraWM]

You know a lot of boys are staring at you, but it doesn't mean they're interested in becoming your boyfriend. Do you know a guy you are interested in? You could try to ask him

[Asker]

So what means a guy wants to be ur boyfriend? The thing is these boys don’t just stare one time , it’s daily.

[Asker]

Yes the guy I’m interested in follows me and looks for me daily. He almost talked to me last wk but soemthing happeend n we cudnt talk. He walks on purpose near me n we stare at each other n we haven’t gotten courage approach one another yet

[laraWM]

Yes you need to talk to him 🙂

[Asker]

How long does it take for a girl to get a boyfriend after they talk? 2-5 months?

[Asker]

26 years of my life I never had a boyfriend. 😔

[laraWM]

It depends it can go even faster if you feel good together

[Asker]

I don’t want wait many months to have a boyfriend 😞 i want talk to him and he asks to be my boyfriend in 2 wks. No later

[laraWM]

Ask him if he wants to go out, and tell him how you feel

[Asker]

To wait many months to be asked to be a girlfriend is too long time I don’t want spend 1-5 months as buddies talking. I want be a couple fast and begin relationship already next month

[laraWM]

Yes it can happen, you need to talk to him 🙂

[Asker]

To wait 1-5 months to be asked to be a girlfriend is too long by that time I would loose interest n be looking for other guys. I don’t believe it shud take that long to be asked

[Asker]

I believe a guy shud ask to be ur boyfriend in 2 wks the most, am I wrong or right? I need to know cuz I have 0 experience I’m 26 and have no experience

[Asker]

I’ve never in my life take pics with a guy, never held a guys hand, neevr met family, spend holidays with a guy. All I’ve done was date the same guy for 3 years that’s it. And it wudnt be weekly either. So I would feel and be single still basically and I would be confused as I saw all girls with bfs daily seeing him and not me.

[laraWM]

I mean I think you shouldn't wait he asks. I don't know where you live, but here it is totally okay you ask a guy out. It'll go faster, guys are not always smart about it 😂

[Asker]

I don’t believe a girl shud ask a guy to be his girlfriend. I’m against that. If he’s staring at me and following me and if I’m showing interest back he shud know I want be his girlfriend. He shudnt be clueless about that

[Asker]

I’m sad cuz since I was 15 I always dreamed of having a boyfriend and it still don’t come true. 26 years I daydream in my head what it’s like to have a boyfriend. A boyfriend is like a fantasy for me

[laraWM]

I know what you mean, maybe you could think about asking him

[kylee2437]

I honestly hate when us women say things like “we intimidate men” listen girly, you have to make yourself available for people to actually approach you

[Asker]

How do I make myslef available?

[kylee2437]

Smile, be friendly, maybe start some convo here and there, be open.

[Asker]

I will need smile and talk first then to the guy I like. He won’t talk first. Last week he looked for me and we just stared at each other. None of us were able approach one another that moment to talk.

[Asker]

My fmaily would Tell me if a guy likes you loves you he’ll make first move or else it means he don’t like you. So that stuck in my head forever. Now I see I need talk to guy first.

[Asker]

I’m new to all this I never knew girls had make first move I’m very surprised

[Anonymous]

Women stare at me all the time, but they never do anything else. Welcome to the club.

[jahaims]

You do realize you can initiate a relationship right?