Guys, do you ever go out of your way to make friends with random women?

[Summerlazing]

Ok, so I get that men do just want to be friends with women. I have good male friends that I know through work and other friends etc, and I really appreciate the differences between them and my female friends and I figure that men do too.

But what I’m talking about is just chatting to a woman you see in the street or coffee shop or whatever. You see her think “Wow! She looks cool. I bet she’s fun to hang out with, I’ll go talk to her…”

I mean in my experience that doesn’t happen. If a guy I only know from seeing around decided to come over to talk to me etc, I’m thinking he’s interested in a romantic way and not because he thinks we’d make good buddies! Is this right or am I wrong?

[sawno]

The reason its only romantic is pretty simple, if she is pretty we are sexually interested. So if she can be a great friend while being sexually attractive enough to be approached based on looks that's girlfriend material.

Meanwhile if you don't like someone's looks you are not going to suddenly approach them based on looks. You know nothing else about her and she's probably not doing anything to catch your eye or to make the risk of being rejected / it not being apprechiated worth it.

[sawno]

There is one part I left unasked, what if he is taken? Well then it would be pretty suspicious if he's still trying to talk to random girls and befriend them, neither will he have much time and interest since his attention will be with his girl. So in that case its also not worth getting an extra friend without any indicators because your already taken and that role is likely already fulfilled by her.

[boggboss]

No I have never randomly spoken to a women on the street to try and be her friend have u ever done that as even with guys that's not somthing I think happens

[Summerlazing]

Exactly. I have never done that to a guy. But I was having a conversation with a bloke who was trying to say I was wrong to assume a man who approached me was just being friendly. That I shouldn’t think he was romantically interested in me, that I was being vain. I didn’t agree!! 😆

[boggboss]

Yeah I don't buy that people as a whole don't try to make friends with strangers on the street

[LiamJHayden]

Random in general? No. Random women whom I encounter doing things that interest me (concerts, surfing, museums) yes.

[bededazzle]

only romantic