Is persistence with girls a good idea? How is the best way to do it? I don't mean constant calling/texting/emailing but a reasonable level.
I have known this girl for a while. We resumed contact since we got back from college to New York City. We went to different colleges.
She has been really busy with work over the last few months, as have I. A few months ago, however, we hung out; there was a lot of touchy feely stuff, flirting, and sexual tension. She had a Boyfriend at that time though.
I heard she is single now and I texted her last week to make light convo.
I called her last night and she hasn't responded. How often can I call her if she does not respond too often? She tends to respond to texts better.
In my experience, sometimes girls can be flaky; for example, they don't always return phone calls, say that they are "busy" or "i can't do it today but call me in a few days" and don't set a time and date, etc.
But, in my experience, if you are persistent you can eventually hook up because sometimes they are interested but are still flaky and don't want to seem to easy to meet up with.
What do you all think?
I have known this girl for a while. We resumed contact since we got back from college to New York City. We went to different colleges.
She has been really busy with work over the last few months, as have I. A few months ago, however, we hung out; there was a lot of touchy feely stuff, flirting, and sexual tension. She had a Boyfriend at that time though.
I heard she is single now and I texted her last week to make light convo.
I called her last night and she hasn't responded. How often can I call her if she does not respond too often? She tends to respond to texts better.
In my experience, sometimes girls can be flaky; for example, they don't always return phone calls, say that they are "busy" or "i can't do it today but call me in a few days" and don't set a time and date, etc.
But, in my experience, if you are persistent you can eventually hook up because sometimes they are interested but are still flaky and don't want to seem to easy to meet up with.
What do you all think?
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From personal experience, it gets annoying when a guy keeps persisting. Now don't get me wrong, I have had feelings for guys who have pursued me, but some girls won't bother to get emotionally attached if it doesn't feel right at that time or with that person. Maybe she's still coping with her last break up.its been almost 3 months for me and I still can't say I wanna pursue anything with another person. Just give her space, if you smother her you'll only scare her away and make yourself appear clingy. I agree with what was said earlier.wait a while.a week or so and text one last time but make your intenions clear. Maybe she thinks your just lookin for a hook up when she's lookin for something serious or vice-versa. And is there a reason your so persistent on her? I mean are you trying to move on from someone else.like a recent bad break up and it made you realize what you really want which is a girl like her?. or have you guys had a past you want to rekindle?
i think that if she doesn't answer the next time you call then that is a sign. girls can be cowards when it comes to rejecting a guy because we are afraid to hurt your feeling, so we will just try to avoid you by not answering your calls. maybe she just isn't the girl you think she is.
How do I tell if she is just being polite? in terms of the way she talks to me or responds to texts/calls. she tends to respond to texts better.
I say call and or text her one or two more times, clearly stating your intentions, and then put the ball in her court.
Call or text her today or in a few days? I was thinking of calling her today then texting her like 5 hours later or something and then calling her on friday.
at that point if I don't hear back I would give it a month or something. what do you think?
Oh, I think that's way too much. IMO, there is no need for you to call her, and then text her in the same day. If you've already called or text her once today(assuming you left some type of message), leave her alone until about a week. If she doesn't call you back by next week, call her one more time, don't seem pushy or anxious, just jokingly or lightly ask her something like, "what's going on with us"? Don't say anything else, just let her talk unless she ask you a question.
I called her last night saying "meet me at this place (today) at 5PM I am hanging out with friends before that and I wanted to chck out this hookah bar at 5)" so I was being direct and I didn't "ask" so to speak.
I meant that I should call her today to assess the situation and then MAYBE text but I guess I won't because maybe you make a good point. then after that I will try later and then forget about it for a few months.
i guess I wasn't being clear; she def. has shown that she has like
So wait, is she going to meet you today at 5..or did she not respond? If she doesn't show up or respond by 5, I would count that as the last time to call her for awhile. Does she ever text you first, or do you always initiate contact with her?
I almost always initiate contact but I think she likes people to contact her rather than vice versa unless it is one of her close girlfriends; for example she'll always say "call me" rather than I should call her.
I left a message at like 10 last night and she hasn't responded, so I don't know if I should call before 5 or just go and see if she comes.
Ok. If most guys that you know find her attractive, she might just be used to having a guy follow her lead. As a guy though, you need her to want to follow your lead. Even the most independent of women want a strong man, who appears confident and desirable to other women. If you're just calling her, imo, you're sending a message that you're desperate-and even if she did like you, she may be loosing interest because of your approach. Hang out with other girls, and let her know and see.