Why are men ashamed to be interested in me?

[Anonymous]

I was in a bar with a female friend once and a guy approached us to chat us up. He sat and awkwardly tried to hold a conversation with us but mostly looked at me. I hardly replied because I was pissed after he disclosed that his friends dared him to speak to me.

Do they find me so unattractive that they push him to talk to me for their entertainment? I’m not conventionally attractive but I’m not below average looking either. I might have a resting bitch face but that’s about it.

They find you unattractive

Other

[Hulk_kitty]

First off, you are not going to find any guy in a bar, marriage material or a long term relationship material.

Most of the time, people that are going to bars or clubs, are just looking to get a shag with the hottest person. Or out just have a good time with friend, and to get wasted.

You are better trying other ways of finding a partner, like a dating site, or at social events. I know plenty of friends and family who have their partners on dating sites, and ended up getting married and having a family.

myloveforuisinfinte, made a very good point, yes looks matter, for intial attraction, but what makes people more attractive is your personality.

No is unattractive to everyone, and no one is attractive to everyone, thats just reality.

[Hulk_kitty]

Yes are going to be unattractive to many people, yes you are going to beattractive to many people. You have haters and lovers. focus on the lovers and not the haters.

[boggboss]

Sorry are u dumb why wpukd your first inclination be that it's because u was unattractive the base level thinking here is he was dared because he is a awkward person the way he sat and his attempt to hold a convo would most likely indercate this but you jumped to it having to do with your looks

[Asker]

Well the first person who voted thought the same and fat and unattractive people are constantly asked out on a dare because people find it hilarious that they think someone could desire them

[boggboss]

OK good for them if that's what u honestly think why even ask as nothing can change that lol

I'm fat and conventionally unattractive yet never had this issue to which I imagine u will state it only happens to women because men are asshoels or somthing 😑

[Asker]

Yeah women are more mature at the same age than guys are

[boggboss]

So date women lol you are asking somthing that if u honestly believe you will simply never date if guys will only be ashamed of dating you which I doubt more likely then not u have had poor expirance with men and has made u insecure and u now act out with that feeling

[Asker]

I don’t want to date anyone I’m just offended if people let me know how unattractive I am

[boggboss]

Yet he didn't u assumed he was unattracted to you

[Asker]

If he was attracted he wouldn’t have mentioned that it was on a dare

[boggboss]

Again if he is a normal shy or awkward person ofc he would have lol

[boggboss]

That it sounds like he struggled at the table makes it even more clear the dare was at his expense not yours

[Asker]

He only struggled because he made it known that it was a dare

[boggboss]

U are again assuming u have no clue to the actual truth of that

[myloveforuisinfinte]

Stop making resting bitch face, and talk like a normal nice person. People like those people who are nice to them and who talk in friendly way. No one likes arrogant or rude people , it's not about looks.
I saw many beautiful, gorgeous ladies marrying to average or below average looking guys and vice versa I also saw many handsome boys marrying to average or below average looking girls. Coz of these things, their friends feel jealous.😂But it's not their fault tbh.

Conclusion: your behaviour, vibes, confidence and personality are more attractive than anything. Maybe looks will benefit u first time but not everytime, but personality benefits u forever. Trust me.

[Asker]

I don’t care if they like me I just think it’s rude to let me know that they find me unattractive

[myloveforuisinfinte]

Ik it's rude , don't say anything , ignore those little dumbos. Instead show him that he is the most unattractive guy u ever saw. Tit for tat. U deserve better , just obsessed with yourself and your life. Ignore those shits, these things are normal. If someone is actually interested in u that person will come eventually. And put effort. One more thing, Always show don't give a shit attitude and not interested in anyone. these kind of boys will think twice before saying any nonsense.

[Hulk_kitty]

wise word, good answer.

[myloveforuisinfinte]

Aww thanks cutie✨

[BoopBoopBeep]

Maybe his friends dared him because he was so smitten by you and he's shy or has no game, but no, you automatically took that in the worst possible way. Now THAT is unattractive. Considering you said he was awkwardly having that conversation, I'm more inclined to believe my suspicions are correct here.

[DarkWinterNights]

I don’t understand your confusion but I feel like you read the situation completely opposite.

[Pohjolan]

It was a dare, don't over analyse it. Guys sometimes compete in a drinking game of who gets the most rejections.

[HouseMoat]

His friend might have dared his friend to, to see if he would. Likely had nothing to do with how you look. Why is that such a problem?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

That doesn’t mean you are unattractive

[Asker]

Then why did they picked me out to be asked out on a dare?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Maybe to the contrary, they found you attractive?

[Anonymous]

Nah.. I think you are over thinking this.. maybe it's the opposite of what you are thinking.

[Anonymous]

You are very unattractive but dumb

[asdfasdfasdf123]

U might be attractive or fugly

[Anonymous]

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