My supervisor hates my guts and I don’t know why. On my first day the senior manager met me in the lobby where I saw my supervisor talking on the phone. When we arrived at the office he was nowhere to be found for hours even though he was supposed to show me around. Later he introduced himself and acted friendly so I thought he was just busy and forgetful.
In the next weeks he ignored me even though there were plenty of things he should have shown me since my role is very technical. He always tried to look busy (he isn’t, most of the time he drinks coffee or plays on his phone) to avoid interaction with me but takes time to extend small talk even with interns. When he hears me entering the office he hides or quickly looks up from his screen as if he was trying to avoid me. Sometimes he makes it a point to not look at me when he Walks past me.
In the rare occasions he made plans with me he stood me up or delayed meetings without notifying me and doesn’t even apologise to me as everyone else does. When he interacts with me he sometimes acts very uncomfortable, other times he stands very close almost bumping into me. Sometimes he talks to me in an annoyed tone, other times he looks down at the ground bumbling to me as if he felt guilty about something. When we talk in group settings with my 2 other supervisors (who act normal with me) he is nice but sometimes mocks me (I. e. grinning and staring at me as if he felt amused by my stupidity or shouting good Moooorning with a big smile as if I was a walking joke).
I understand that I might not be the smartest person in the world but I’m definitely not the dumbest and during my time there he never shined with his expertise so why would he treat me like that. I’ve never seen him mock anyone else and most of the time he is very charming, soft spoken and reliable. So how cold I have possibly rubbed him the wrong way to make him avoid and disrespect ONLY me from the very beginning?
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I faced the same problem with my supervisor but I don't give a fuck about his opinion about me. I am responsible, respectful & hardworking person which all matters. Try to be normal around him & don't overanalyze his behavior. You just need to work to your best ability. Cheer up my friend!
Do you still work there and do you think It has to do with your qualification or your looks?
Do you think your supervisor considered you incompetent or dumb?
I still work there. If it's was my qualifications then I wouldn't be still work under him. I don't know the reason for his behavior but I don't care to know lol but I kept it professionally my interactions with him. Sometimes he doesn't reply to my greetings but I don't feel bad as he is jerk for not replying back. I have other supervisors, wonderful people. I act like I don't notice his behavior and try to be polite because I am polite person. Hope that makes sense.
There are people in my department that were only hired because they were the only applicant for the role. They were not hired but their contracts were not extended after 18 months which is why I’m asking.
And also, do you think he could have avoided you because he found you unattractive?
* Not fired instead of not hired
Sweetheart, I don't care to know about the reason for his behavior. I don't care what other people thinks about me. I care about what I think about me. Even the best people have haters. Some colleagues said that he unsecure because of my public speaking skills and the fact I know 4 languages fluently. Attractive or not, it's not like I will date him.
Yeah I’m just asking because I’m wondering if I’m discriminated because of my looks
Also me not getting along with my supervisor is a problem because he reports to the senior manager that doesn’t really have any idea what I am doing. Also him gossiping about me behind my back to other coworkers I have to work with in the future just Ruins the climate. I could of course just ask him but I know he Would just deny everything.
His opinion doesn't MATTER. For God sake. I read your situation and my honest thought that he is a jerk. Who someone belittles someone else for their looks? Just because he doesn't find attractive doesn't mean you aren't attractive. For me some people doesn't find attractive and some will kill to date me. His opinion doesn't MATTER. Believe me! Don't overanalyze his odd behavior. Be yourself for yourself. Cheers up ❤
You don't need to get along with him. Just do your job genuinely. If the situation persists then talk to higher hierarchy to handle this shit. My best wishes ~
Well he said to the manager that I was not proactive enough even though I always tried to ask questions and be productive but that’s kind of hard when your supervisor always hides
So you think he finds me unattractive from what I’ve told you about him?
Why you care if he finds you unattractive or not. That still not a reason for someone to behave like him. Can you not work with other supervisors?
Not on this project unfortunately
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