A guy calls me “sister” but his actions say differently. So, does he actually think of me as a sister?

[Anonymous]

This guy (26) who is my best friend’s brother always say/refer me as a sister. He takes care of me whenever I visit their place: from going and buying groceries with me and for me, getting stuff animals I said looked cute, pay for my food, get me flowers for Valentine’s, take me to church, getting me lots of Christmas gifts, helping me with my car issues (check the oil levels and going to the store and helping me pick the right one for me car), giving me hugs and sometimes sitting on me to just make me feel annoyed, to saying that whoever marries me in the future will be very lucky. He never say anything regarding his feelings and would never text me. Could he potentially like me or am I overthinking this whole thing? He isn’t much of a talker when it comes to how he feels…

[Oliverlogan263]

This one is kinda tricky sis. Guys can be real dumb about showing their feelings sometimes.

On the one hand, calling you sister and being so close with your family could just be how he expresses care without anything romantic. We guys do get like that with the fam.

But chillin solo with you so much, buyin you gifts, and voluntarily touchin you, even just playfully... that ain't really normal brother behavior. Especially the hugs - you don't think he maybe lingers a bit too long?

My gut says he likes you for sure. He just won't admit it direct cuz you're so close to home, and he don't wanna fuck up that dynamic. But all those little things are his shy way of showin interest without saying it.

If I were you, I'd try flirtin back light and see how he reacts. Smile extra when you see him. Touch his arm when you joke around. Give that boy a little encouragement and I bet he won't be able to resist bustin out how he really feels! Good luck, sis.

[Asker]

He’s super comfortable around me and would never be shy to fart, burp, or do crazy things around me. That part is normal for brothers to do in my opinion. What do you think?

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah yeah, farting and burping around each other is totally something brothers and sisters would do! I do that stuff with my sister all the time too, it's just joking around and being comfortable. So I can see how that wouldn't mean anything either way.

I guess at this point it's really hard to say for sure what's on this guy's mind. On one hand he acts like family by doing those gross brotherly things. But then he also does thoughtful things like buying you gifts and helping with your car, which seems more like date stuff. If he's really comfortable around you like that, it could just be that he likes you as a friend. Maybe next time you're hanging out, try cracking a joke with him about the situation to see how he reacts. You know, be like "you sure act like more than a brother sometimes, dude!" and see if he gets nervous or flirty back. Then you'll have a better idea what he's thinking without having to have a big serious talk. Either way, I hope you can work it out! Keep me posted on what happens!

[Oliverlogan263]

I mean I know guys who do that stuff with their sisters all the time too, not myself. I wasn’t typing right and not to insert myself in it

[Asker]

Sounds good! And seriously, thanks for your thorough answer. I honestly was off guard by him buying me flowers. Will keep you updated if anything happens!!

[Oliverlogan263]

For sure, no problem! I'm always down to help a friend figure out relationship stuff. And yeah, the flower thing would throw me off too if a "brother" did that. Def keep me posted if anything changes between you guys or if you get any other clues as to what's really up. You never know, maybe he's just super comfortable around you now but eventually wants more. Or maybe it really is just a sibling type thing. Either way, hopefully you get some closure one way or the other so you're not left wondering. But don't stress, just let it play out naturally. Later!

[Anonymous]

Seems you have been friend zoned, but ask him to clarify.

[spartan55]

That sister shit is just wrong.

[Asker]

Could you explain a bit more?

[spartan55]

You aren't related, to me that is inappropriate and creepy.

[laly520]

u r only his friend
clearly