Guy said he asked for my number because he felt like I wanted him? what is that even supposed to mean? completely turned me off?

[Anonymous]

Long story short, I met this guy at a restaurant where he was a waiter. We had casual convo, and at the end of the dinner, he asked for my number. I was like, he's attractive and seemed cool, so why not? Then we started texting, he later said he usually doesn't give out his number, but he felt like I wanted it, so he went for it. Then he proceeded to say that I could come to visit him at work if I wanted. At this point I'm done with the convo. It’s not like I wanted him badly and chased him down to get his number; he pursued me. It's not like I was desperate and wanted him badly. My question is why would he say that? Is that normal lol? For context, I'm in my early 20s and pretty new to the dating game.

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2 mo

Thank you guys for the different perspectives. I'm not a troll; I grew up extremely religious and wasn't allowed to date at all. Now, a few years into college, I’m breaking out of my shell a bit, and everything is new and confusing when it comes to the opposite sex, I mainly have female friends and stumbled on this website for a different perspective. As far as my listed age, I usually set it higher because of habit. No need to be rude lol.

[Finchie40]

Because from what statistics say , most male waiters are players and cheaters , I just read this statistic yesterday , so I figured I share with you when I saw your question lol But , The reason he said that to you, is because most men have Egos, and sometimes those Egos can get to his head , making himself feel like he was put on Earth to be catered to , that every girl in the world wants him like he is God’s gift to women , so by him saying he felt like you wanted it , was his way of acting like he knows you cuz he knows every girl. You did the right thing by not falling for his shit, sadly there are a lot of girls’ tend to fall for that type behavior thinking that guy is amazing , little does she realize she is in for a rude awakening once she realizes his true colors. Some people were just born with a silver spoon in their hand , being raised to believe they do no wrong , that they are perfect and they can read everyone’s minds because they are so amazing , they were raised to believe they do no wrong , and don’t really know what the word No means , because they were barely ever told No , they were always right , sadly those type of people are selfish people that only really care about themselves , because they see no wrong in their doings , they act like
Their shit don’t stink , not realizing it stinks just as bad as everyone else’s lol

[JHAYES317]

Maybe he just meant from the convo…like you seemed interested in him…maybe just ask for clarification before writing him off entirely

[_Maya_]

Early twenties? Your profile says thirties. I can definitely tell you are new to the dating game. You made the mistake of exchanging numbers and then deciding you had no interest. I am not sure what you expected to happen. To answer the question though him saying he thought you wanted it was an observation by him of the way you interacted. You must have done something that made him think you were interested tho that is a tricky thing when you work in hospitality. Your job is to be nice so often guys get that mixed signal. So basically he thought you were interested in some way. Maybe a vibe you gave off or something that you said to him. It is hard to say because we can't see ourselves like others see us.

[EmmaMary]

@_Maya_

I tend to think that this is just our usual fantasy story teller.

[Malwi93]

reverse psychology? lol

[Cody2004]

Calm down, you're okay. Do not need to explain yourself. You're actually right that was pretty fucked up of him to say we as the human species of man can be idiots most of the time we are. Like for instance I made an opinion on here and I was completely in the wrong. I definitely understand that immediately being turned off thing it's not even like a sexual thing you're mentioning which some people might Overlook that sadly.

Same thing has happened to me I'm talking to somebody and they say something so stupid or they act a certain way even sexual even what you explained and I just want nothing to do with them. I feel what you're explaining here because it's a real thing. It's up to you how you want to handle it. Either way at this point would be the right way to handle it you can either talk to him about it or just cut contact you would be in the right either way.

[JacobJordan]

Only a woman could somehow find a way to get mad at a man for thinking the woman wanted the man. Is it only okay if a man wants a woman? I mean seriously you are new but you have an attitude that will ensure you remain unhappy. If a guy feels like you wanted him that is a GOOD thing. Quit complaining many women would love to be in your position. You found him attractive you made yourself available for him to approach you.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Looks like she did him a great favor.

[JacobJordan]

@BoopBoopBeep quite possible but quite sad for both of them. Hopefully she is able to realize she shouldn't be listening to ladies her age for relationship advice.

[JacobJordan]

for your update. sounds like a wonderful group of friends you have. so wonderful they are already hard at work destroying your chances at having a healthy and happy relationship.

[Daniela1982]

Sounds like one of 2 things. It is a line, and one I've never heard before. And I thought I've heard them all. Or it is a made- up story, like your age. You have to get your facts straight if you want to successfully troll in here. 🤔😄😅

[adam6402]

It's not that big of a deal, he just got a vibe that you were maybe interested in him so he acted on it. Why he told you that, I dunno, that is a bit weird tbh but I wouldn't block him because of it

[Claire2002]

It's full of pickup artists putting strange ideas into their heads, telling men to pretend that they are not interested in order to "signal high value". Idiots who think that if love is a capitalistic market. Maybe he likes you.

[boggboss]

All he said was he thought u was interested to which u was so he asked for the number what's the issue here nobody said anyone was desperate but what u decided he meant by it

[CVNT5]

mabey he wants a girl in his life who he can later marry and have kids with and saw you as a potential candidate. there are guys out there like that, but always be wary and always be picky, you don't want to end up a single mother.

[EmmaMary]

Congratulations on winning a Troll of the day award.

[WhitneySnow]

He’s arrogant. He assumes every girl wants him. I could see why you were turned off.

[RavVid]

Blarney. He gives out his number all the time and it's a perk of the job.

[spartan55]

Wow, you got upset about that... oookay...👌

[boobliker]

maybe he wanted to tip you back