I’ve never had male friends or male family members aside from my dad or much older male family members. I have 0 socialization with guys my ages. They never speak to me so I never speak to them. Other girls my age have guys friends and I just never have and it makes me weird talking to guys because I just don’t know how to. I’m very social with girls and pretty well liked but not at all by guys.
Sometimes I’ve tried talking to the guys my friend are friends with when we’re in a group and they just kind of look at me and go back to talking to my friends. Guys honestly ignore me a lot like crushes or just trying to join converstion. I used to think I just didn’t have male friends because I didn’t speak to a lot of guys but now I’m kind of scared I actually think guys think I’m ugly or too average or just don’t like me. How do you talk to guys and as a guy would you ignore a girl if she tried to make small talk?
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My only advice is to practise doing it.
But instead of viewing them as "guys", it might be helpful to view each guy as an individual. If you view people as an amorphous group, it can be hard to recognize their individual humanity.
How do you even start conversation
I think you're overthinking this. Just say hi or make small talk and ask them questions about themselves eventually, like "so how was your weekend" or whatever.
Or you could join some activity where it's gonna be mostly boys. That way, odds are some of them will talk to you. Like, you could join a fitness class or whatever you think would be fun. Because you said your problem is you didn't grow up around guys. So you can change that by hanging out with them now. Maybe that would be a good start.
In terms of how the opposite sex judges you, I actually think the ratio makes a lot of difference. You want to be outnumbered by guys, that automatically makes you more interesting to them.
I think this is a really good tip i’ve never heard. Often when i’m in mixed spaces it’s equal ratio or more women so it’s like guys have their pick of the litter and choose the prettiest most guy acculturated. I’ll try that. I’m still pretty bad at small talk because I’ve gotten some pretty rough reactions from guys just trying to chat casually but overall your advice was helpful. Thank you
You're welcome, best of luck.
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