Why is it every time I try to let this guy go he somehow keeps coming back into my life I keep pushing him away yet he finds a good moment to appear?

[Anonymous]

The thing is he is a married man and I just don’t see a point of having anything to do with him in general yettt he finds moments to show up. Like why he care yes we chat here and there but not always so I wouldn’t say we are super close but he will find ways to wave or have small chat or not even chat at all than what’s the point of all this tbh what is he getting out of it

[spartan55]

Why do you care what he gets out of it? This should be WAY down your list of concerns

[Asker]

Sir please be little helpful some people are in need of suggestions

[spartan55]

Block him and go no contact. Best advice.

[ProbablyClueless]

All he's getting out of it is that you're somebody he knows and enjoys talking to. Do you have any reason to think he has romantic intention?

[Asker]

He asked me to do him favors

[Asker]

Well you mentioned enjoys talking to me yet he doesn’t always talk to me

[Asker]

When he notices I am kinda avoiding him he will try getting my attention or be kinda watching me from afar I don't know like I said what’s the point if it’s not going anywhere and some days he don’t talk like

[Asker]

Like I just said to much time focusing on him when I can just let him go and be better off

[ProbablyClueless]

If you don't want to talk with him anymore, then don't respond to him

[Asker]

You see what I’m saying tho

[Asker]

But he will try getting my attention so we can talk again

[ProbablyClueless]

I do. It's your responsibility to enforce your own boundaries though. If you want the contact to stop, you have to put your foot down about that.

[Asker]

So what I’m saying is I don’t get the point of why not just let me go and forget it

[spartan55]

@asker
YOU LET HIM GO. Why are you acting like it's all his decision?

[Asker]

@spartan55 bc like I mentioned I have tried letting him go and he still didn’t allow me

[spartan55]

@asker wtf are talking about? He doesn't get a vote. He wouldn't 'let you' is he like your owner? You are just making bullshit excuses because you don't want to.

[jahaims]

Because you are immature and seek validation in inappropriate ways