WHY WOULD A GIRL BULLY A BOY?

[Anonymous]

Boys bullying girls is very common, so I don't know why this girl and her group of friends always pick on me. I'm not mean to them or anything. I don't even know all their names! I guess it's because I'm a really short, scrawny guy and very shy around people. "loser," that's what they call me. She and her friends are all taller than me. Very very tall girls! Today, I was trying to get to my class when her friends tripped me. She then snatched my clarinet case from me and pushed me against the wall. None of the adults were there at the time and everyone else just walked by laughing at me. Her friends said, "Leave that boy alone!" but she kept on holding my face and wouldn't let me go. She'll mess up my hair, punch my arm and tease me for being shy and stuff. I mean, she does fight with the other boys too but they're all strong and tall while I'm an ant compared to them so maybe she finds it easier to bully me. She harasses me the most though and usually leave them alone after a while but not me. But she doesn't allow anyone else to bully me. If she sees a group of boys humiliating me, she'll run up, start hitting them and yell at them to leave me alone. But when she does the exact same thing, it's okay? Other times she shouts at me across the hallway, "Hey, boy! Say hello to me!" or "You own me some money!" Crazy stuff like that. Or when she chased me (yes) while we were leaving school, wouldn't let me go, and yelled, "Boy, wish me happy birthday and Imma' let you go!" Her friends just stood there and laughed at me saying that I'm stupid. But she's nice to me when we're alone. Every time I ignore her so that she'll leave me alone, she repeats my name until I'm forced to look at her and then she says sorry. She even offers to help me or smiles and waves at me sometimes but only when her friends aren't around. It doesn't take a genius to realize that she has a bad reputation around school. A very very bad one at that. And very immature obviously. I'm so confused!

[Prof_Don]

Believe it or not... it is very possible this girl may have a crush on you. Makes no sense, right? But it is a possibility!

Immature boys and girls want to interact with their crush, but don't want the other person to find out. So (to an immature person) the most obvious way to interact with said person he/she has a crush on without him/her "finding out", is to be mean, very mean!

Had a girl when I was in 7th grade verbally bully me, then in 8th grade the same girl tells me she has had a crush on me and apologized for being immature.

[Asker]

I guess that is possible. Like I said, she's a really silly, immature girl. I remember one time when she said that I was "cute" and touched my cheeks. Then guess what? Just a moment later, she shouted, "Ha, you wish!" Or when I tripped and she started laughing, but a minute later offered to tied my shoes for me. Weirdo. 😕😒

[Nojudge]

Why bully? They come from broken home... Abusive relationship... Lonely and need attention... Some female bullys can be lesbians too.

Did you reported this to your school counselor? Bullying at my local school district is Zero Tolerance.

[Asker]

But I don't understand why she is sometimes nice and "gentle." For example, if I fall down, she'll instantly laugh like a hyena and shout, "Boy! You done break your damn neck!" And then, suddenly, she'll say, "here let me tie your shoes for you before you break yo dang leg next time." I said no but then she kept insisting so I literally stood there and she tied my shoes for me! She even called me cute and said that I have "chubby cheeks" sometimes but then dismiss it saying that I wish I was cute. So immature.

[Nojudge]

She is a sick person... Very! Two faced... Report to the counselor no matter what!

[Asker]

There's time when she's nice and other times she's weird. I don't think she's really that cruel. It's really just her personality basically. She's always been loud and rowdy at school. I've known the girl since second grade! But I think her mom is dead and her dad is "somewhere." During Mother's Day a couple of years back, she texted me, saying that I should tell my mom happy Mother's Day for her and I said sure. I asked if her dad has a nickname for her, and she looked upset and said, "Don't talk about him. Ion know where he at." She's more silly than mean in my opinion. I'm kind of a weird person myself and like to mess with her sometimes too. I guess that's why she teases me back. 😜

[Nojudge]

Again, She is NOT your friend and blow her off.

[Asker]

I never said she was my friend. My "acquaintance" said that she secretly has a crush on me, but I'm not sure. She's more affectionate and touchy with me than the other boys. We're just teens and you know how immature teens are.

[DimondC4t]

it looks like she likes u but doesn't want anyone to know that's reason she is nice when it just u two alone and bully u when people are around

[Asker]

It could be. She laughs at me when I fall but then offers to tie my shoes the next minute. She calls me cute and says I have chubby cheeks but then says that she was just kidding and that I look like a chipmunk. But yeah, she smiles at me when we're alone.

[Keira4218]

Why would anyone bully someone? It doesn't have to do with the fact that she is a girl. She has Issues.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Because she can get away with it. Female privilege means she knows she's less likely to get the furniture smacked out her mouth than if she did that as a guy, because a lot of guys aren't going to hit a woman no matter what. There are dirtbags out there, sure, but averages...

[Billlewis]

It's been quite a while since I've been soundly thrashed by a strong, capable woman, and I could really use a good, hard painful bare bottom flogging.

[Nii1102]

Bullying anyone doesn't go with gender... it goes with a point... you are not better than me and i don't want you to br better than me

[Asker]

But I don't understand why she is sometimes nice and "gentle." For example, if I fall down, she'll instantly laugh like a hyena and shout, "Boy! You done break your damn neck!" And then, suddenly, she'll say, "here let me tie your shoes for you before you break yo dang leg next time." I said no but then she kept insisting so I literally stood there and she tied my shoes for me! She even called me cute and said that I have "chubby cheeks" sometimes but then dismiss it saying that I wish I was cute. So immature.

[Nii1102]

buddy find a woman of your age she is elder than you and she cares for you

[mikey112]

because she is fucking crazy.