Say that neither of the two of you initiate spending time together. Would you feel flattered if it was still you of all people that she asked for help when she needed it, and showed lots of happiness and appreciation when you help her? Or would you feel resentful?
As long as it wasn't a repeat performance like, if I was good at plumbing or it's my job and she came to ask me for plumbing help several times but had no use for me at any other time.
A few years ago, there was a girl moving in by herself 2 doors away from me and I decided to offer to help her. She accepted and ever since then, we were at least casual friends: if we saw each other outside, we'd say hello, maybe talk for a bit, if one of us needed help with something, we could go ask the other for it. Now, if I helped her move in and she ignored me any other time unless she needed me to help her with other stuff and would ONLY talk to me then, I'd be resentful of it because it's like I'm being used and the only reason she's interested in me is to get use of my muscles. I guess it'd be the same as if, when she moved in, I made friends with her only to be able to talk my way into her pussy and would never have anything else to do with her until I needed to get laid again.
I consider it a GOOD thing that I'm not AT ALL like that! I used to have a couple guitarists like that! They'd find a girl, get her to fuck them and, from then on, they'd have nothing to do with her and would avoid her like the plague because they got what they wanted from her..
What I resent most are girls that ask for help on computer issues but what they really want is for you to watch them repetitively repeat the same mistake as rapidly as possible. I suppose they are really wanting validation that they are not doing something wrong and it is 'their' fault.
Often it is but you need to see if you can find a work around. I remember one girl in particular not letting me drive until her fingers were exhausted. There was indeed a website bug but I ignored her exhortations to type faster like she did and found a workaround such that the screens worked.
She looked up at me when I explained the workaround to her with big round eyes.
I think that is why we help girls so readily. If we prove we have good genes, we think they will want to have our babies.
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As long as she also helps me when I need help, I wouldn't mind. We would probably become great friends that way. But if she never reciprocates, then I would resent that and probably stop helping.
I’d feel as though she’s using me. If there’s no reciprocation out of it. I don’t mean sex but maybe she gets me lunch one day or something to say thank you. But yes I’d feel like she’s using me. Wouldn’t be happy w that. Especially if she had a man she could ask him.
I've had people like throughout life and I'm glad I could be of assistant when they needed it. However, those who required help but never showed appreciation or took me for granted, I eventually cut them off my life.
Maybe not resentful. It would depend what I knew about her.
I mean CLEARLY she's a USER. But I might be resentful. Or I might just pity her as I find her PATHETIC.
Some women use you out of pathetic desperation. And some women do it, because that's all she knows. That's how she was raised. It's her default setting.
I guess it would make me feel good to a certain degree because that shows she has faith in me and trust me to do the job right what she needs done.
If someone really needed help I would do my best to help them. Would I think she is using me unfairly maybe yes, but she is still a person that has a problem. Part of me would think, hey at least she thinks I’m cool enough to ask for help.
I would take that show of appreciation with a full shaker of salt. None of them take an actual interest in me, so why would this one be any different? Then, when they inevitably scale back communication again, I would start avoiding them.
I guess it depends if we still do hang out as friends. It may not be the amount that I would like or she would like but as long as there is not a large disparity. Also it would require her to be willing to help me if I needed it as well. If not I would be resentful and probably would not help.
I'd go and help.. My wife would nag me to go help if I didn't (if it was one of her friends for example)
u if someone needs help and I can help... I just help
I'm just, generally, a helpful person... it's not strictly related to my happiness
I wouldn’t let it build to resentment, but i would probably end the relationship. I don’t tolerate people who only reach out when they want something.
If Im interested in her I'd feel used but just the same I HAFTA tell her that first. I wouldn't be flattered I don't think
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For one girl I very much feel used. I went out of my way to help her with stuff and or hangout, for no effort on her part. I wasn't even considered i guess.
Depends. Guys like to feel needed, like they can solve a problem. But they can also feel abused and taken advantage of.
If she was just being nice to me so I would do something for her I would be angry
It depends. If she brushes me off, then asks for help moving into a 6th floor apartment with no elevators, then yeah I would be resentful.
Everybody wants to be wanted. It’s an honor to serve. You put out when you’re asked to.
Been there and both, but if it keeps happening, the first.
I would be resentful cause that would be her using me and nobody wants to be used
He is being used as a simp.
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