Why did he text you not sleeping yet and then three times question mark?

[Anonymous]

And the next morning he text he going to his mothers place and if I would like come with him this the same guy who seemed like he lost interest in me I just changed my profile picture to a couple picture and he began texting like this but why? and how should i continue or just leave him? Because like I said he seemed like he lost interest we stopped even seeing each other

[Oliverlogan263]

It's hard to say for sure why he's contacting you again out of the blue like this. A few possibilities:

- He saw your new couple pic and got jealous/regretted losing interest. Now he wants to see if he can rekindle things.

- He may be bored or lonely and figured he'd shoot his shot to see if you'd hang out since you're available.

- Could just be looking for an ego boost by having you still give him attention even if he's not that into you.

I'd be cautious proceeding since the interest level seems hot/cold. A few thoughts:

- Don't get your hopes up until he shows consistent effort over time.

- See what his vibe is like in person before assuming things are back to how they were.

- Set clear boundaries - don't just jump back into anything serious without knowing his intentions.

- Have a life of your own and don't revolve around his random texts.

If you do hang out, pay attention to how he treats you versus what he says. His actions will show where his head is at. Proceed carefully - you deserve someone sure about you!

[Asker]

Thank you so much for the answear I appreciate it. I'm really try understand him, like he used to be crazy about me. For example I would massage his neck he would say you want make me crazy? He loved my neck massages. However just some days ago I massaged his neck he had no reaction he said he was hungry and tired. This what I wrote above happened before yesterday I gave him no answear though to going with him to his mothers place then yesterday he call me 2 times on phone, saying i'm going to my mothers place, now should I pick you up? I said okay but not much happened between us and on the way back when we were walking back to his car we saw an abandoned house and he said when i'm old I will live there alone because no one wants me it was weird for him say like this and I don't think he was joking like i thought why would he say that then he said when I was in his car he want me come next Saturday to his house cook for him and we stopped seeing each other just 2 months we were only always chatting he would blame work that he have lots of work saying soon it change but I also told him if he don't want me anymore he can just say that I walk my way alone then he said why should I don't want you anymore? Then he came to pick me up with his car after i finish work but I don't know im confused

[Oliverlogan263]

Wow, this dude is definitely all over the place and being super confusing! It seems like one minute he's really into you and enjoying your neck massages, then the next it's like he's distant and not interested anymore. That's really weird that he didn't react at all when you massaged his neck the other day.

It's also kinda strange that he would randomly say something like he'll live alone in an abandoned house when he's old. Who even says stuff like that? And going from ignoring you to asking you to come over and cook for him next Saturday is such a big flip flop too. No wonder you're confused!

To be honest luv, he doesn't really seem to have his stuff together emotionally. It's like one day he's into you and the next he's pretending he isn't for some reason. That would be so frustrating to deal with. If I were you, I'd try talking to him and being like "dude what's the deal? You keep going hot and cold and it's messing with my head." Maybe he just has a lot going on internally that he's not communicating well.

I'd say give him one more chance to be honest about his feelings and intentions, but if he keeps flip flopping and leaves you confused, you might have to move on for your own sake. No point sticking around if a guy is just going to stress you out, you know? Hope you can get some clarity soon! Let me know what happens.

[spartan55]

Not enough information. Not even close.

[laly520]

more context?

[Asker]

He used to be crazy about me and would always take me to his home to watch ice hockey with him or when I used to massage his neck he would say it turns him on

[Asker]

Then all that stopped now almost 2 months since we stopped seeing each other and spending time he blamed work for it 2 weeks ago saying it will get better soon but nope and last time i was in his car and massaging his neck he didn't care talking about that he hungry and tired

[Asker]

and its been confusing me cause i told him if he dont want me anymore he can just say it he said no i want you still

[laly520]

he lost interest n I assume it was only a phase to him

[Asker]

but did you read what i wrote above? This happened just yesterday and just now he was taking a walk with me when we left his mothers place and he saw an abandoned house and said he will live there alone when he gets old because no one wants him 😅so weird

[laly520]

yes I did read it n seems like he lost interest n he is the type who doesn't know what he wants exactly from a girl

[Asker]

I'm just really confused with him and yesterday when he said I will live alone in that abandoned house because no one wants me that was weird like i don't think he was joking he is so confusing just last week I felt like he don't want me anymore i mean he don't even react to my neck massages anymore and second when we talk he tell me things he already told me

[laly520]

veryyy creepy
I'd recommend keeping distance n cutting ties

[Asker]

what's creepy? him saying he want live in that abandoned house? 😂

[laly520]

oops! I thought he said that to u

[Asker]

No 😂he said that about himself

[laly520]

could be a sign of many underlying issues

[Asker]

It was just weird him saying it out of the blue and then because no one wants me my coworker said maybe he was joking but i dont know what do you think he tried saying with this?

[laly520]

I think he feels he isn't loved n maybe feels he isn't worthy of love