One night stand, now he hates me?

[Anonymous]

okay so I met this guy one night and we sort of hooked up but not all way. and it was my first time doing anything and he said it was okay and he would still respect me after and he was even willing to stop but I went on. afterwards he never talked to me. one night my friend, his friend too, asked him to come over and he said no because of me but he finally did and he was ALLLL over my other friend who was there.he talked to me a little and was fairly nice. but he txtd my friend and said he didn't like me. I sent him this longgg message telling him how I felt and that I never liked him. and he called my friend and said I was crazy. and ugh I just feel so slighted like I'm not good enough. and now my friend & me aren't how we used to be because she's dating him. I just feel like every other slutty girl and she's this amazing sweet girlnextdoor. I know it sounds stupid but I just want his respect I want him to want me. I feel like it should be me in her place. what should I do ?

[Anonymous]

"I know it sounds stupid but I just want his respect I want him to want me". Yeah that sound pretty stupid because its what it is, you guessed it Stupid. Don't be fooled by the strong edge that's driving u, no matter whatever you do, you cannot make someone want you against their will. Its either they like you or they don't and that's just how this world goes.

You are obviously head over hills but the principles of economics apply in dating aswell, the more you want something the more expensive it becomes and the more you will be willing to loose your dignity chasing it (this guy). Don't chase guys, look for a guy that will respect you and see you as more than a booty call. And I to be quite honest I don't blame the guy at all. Its just what you wanted but if the sex didn't meet the guy's expectations then the guy won't come back for more. Its just how it is.

And one more thing is that trying to get a guy by putting out willl only work once, and you guessed it (not for a long time) before the guy sees a girl he can actually connect to emotinally than just as a sex buddy kinda thing

[Asker]

Well yea it didn't meet expect his expectations because it was my FIRST time and he's f***ed like 10 girls.and I'm not head over heels I don't really like him . I just want his respect. and I didn't 'put out' to get him to like me. I did it because we were caught up in the moment.

[Anonymous]

Well, the fact that he said he would still respect you was a lie. He was just saying what he could so he could get something. I'm sorry, but you got tricked. As well as the message you sent him, sending long messages like that probably made you appear like you were really into him, even though you were not. I mean, if he showed that to your friend, it would appear as if you were really really into him and that you were trying to get him back or something.

Overall, the guy is a jerk. And because of you hooking up with him, you're kind of going to be known as the "Easy girl" to him. Just someone who is loose and willing to fool around. sorry if this is harsh, but I'm just trying to write it from his point of view.

As for your friend, you should explain this to her. If she stays on his side, she really isn't a friend of yours.

hope this helped

[soOUCH]

Unfortunately, some guys do think girls are there for them to use up. He would say anything to get your panties to magically fly off and after they did, he got what he wanted and went on to other female ventures. Why aren't you mad that he used you?

This is guy is no good for you. Don't let what happened paint the picture of how you see yourself! Be happy he's mad at you, and expose his ass for the scumbag he is. Also be happy this happened to you now, these guys run in droves at bars in college, know how to avoid these asshats early.

[Anonymous]

That guy is a complete idiot asshole. What he's doing is rude, disrespecful and horrible. You shouldnt have to put up with this. Tell your friend if she was a good friend she'd stand by you, tell her how you trusted this guy and he completely used you and turned against you. Try and get her to see your side of the story. Aghh this is another reason why I hate men lol!

[Asker]

Lol I knoww theyre asses. but its whatever she understands & she didn't really want to be with him becasue of me but I gave her my blessings lol

[ALWAYSclassy]

What kind of friend is that? You didn't deserve that. OK both of you guys had sex so how can he turn on you after the act and talk all this crap about you? Doesn't make sense and is very insensitive and mean. Don't feel bad. Don't even worry about him he's not worth it. Just ignore him and tell your friend how you feel. She should know.

[Emmalouise03]

Gurl. Fuck that guy, seriously. He’s Bullshit, he’s A dick. U can do better, he’ll probably leave ur friend sooner or later anyway, but just forget him rlly