How do you know if a shy guy is into you?

[Anonymous]

are there any signs?

like eye contact, little hi's?

what if he seems totally comfortable with his friends and certain new people, but around you he gets quiet? what does that mean?

[Frank24569]

Yeah, I am a shy guy so I can help you with this. If he looks at you a lot, then he basically likes you, no questions. Especially if he looks at you and you catch him, if he blushes or looks down and turns away then he really has a thing for you. If he gets quiet around you and stumbles on words or gets red in the face then he is very nervous and is trying to make sure he doesn't do anything stupid around you. Also if he is fidgeting a lot/moving around too much. I'll use an example of me: I once was close to my crush and I decided to be "confident" and look at her lol. As soon as she looked at me 2 seconds later my face flushed red and I looked down quickly (which is weird cause they say this is a sign someone subconsciously does at their crush and I did it) and I turned my face away so she wouldn't see how red it was. The whole time she was there I was checking my watch, fixing the way I was sitting and smoothing out my clothes to make sure I looked good ;). So yeah, I think I helped, hopefully, good luck with the shy guy (if you like a shy guy)

[Asker]

[= that did help. I have been trying so hard to figure this guy out. He never goes beyond saying hi to me though, which makes me think that he isn't interested. But sometime I just feel it. Like he will seem sort of excited to see me and immediately smile and say hi. (but I could be imagining that cause it's what I want to see, I'm not sure).

[Frank24569]

If you feel something then it is definitely there, trust me. If you think that he seems excited to see you than it must be true I actually think he most likely is excited to see you cause with personal experience of being a shy guy I know that I am always happy to see my crush and I hate days when she is not in school lol. I feel he never goes beyond hi because again, he is shy and doesn't know what to say to you, so go on and make it easy on him, start conversations with him with a joke.

[Asker]

[= I hope you're right. I hate when I don't see him at school. (I'm in college and we live on the same floor so I tend to see him at least once a day, but sometimes I don't see him at all ... and I hate that so much). Next time I see him I'll try to start a conversation. I have another question. I hung out w. him once a few months ago. But he asked my roommate (who had a bf) for us to go with him and his friends to hang out. They ended up smoking pot .. and we felt uncomfortable so we left early

[Asker]

He was really shy when we were there and sort of just stood next to us the whole time. I felt sooo bad about leaving, but that's not my scene. And with my education major if I ever get caught with that stuff I can't be a teacher, and teaching is my dream. Anyways, I apologized for leaving and he said it was fine and he didn't care if I didn't smoke it. But since then he has been really shy. I have a feeling he thinks that I don't think he is good enough because of this. Which isn't the case.

[Asker]

Whether he does drugs or not has nothing to do with how I feel about him. Do you think that can be part of why he doesn't come right out? During that whole pot thing he kept saying "I'm not a pothead or anything..." like he was trying to convince us. I don't know. I feel like that messed it up. What do you think about all of that?

[Frank24569]

That could have probably made him even more shy/embarrassed about everything and ur right that maybe he feels as if you probably see him as a drug addict (which is y he kept trying to convince you he was not) But I don't think this has much to do with anything, I think that the situation is that he is just a shy guy and he needs help with trying to start something with you. Again just try and talk with him more I guess (I have fun out of advice lol) Good Luck!

[Asker]

Ahaha [= thanks for all your help!

[metaldave20]

i was an outgoing, turned ingoing, turning outgoing person, (long story, don't ask) I can tell you however that when I was ingoing, I did do those things, lots of eye contact, small hi's, not able to talk to you as easy as his friends

im still kinda this way, as I turn back to outgoing, but yeah, id say that you are right when it comes to shy guys...

but please (and I don't mean to beg) but please just hear them out, when they do get the nerve to ask you out, or even just talk to you... nothing hurts more than when a girl rejects a guy that's shy (since you never even gave him a chance)

[Asker]

I want to give him a chance so badly! [= lol. I have had a crush on him for the longest time. I just waiting for him to show me he is actually interested and I just can't tell if he is or not.

[metaldave20]

Does he do what you asked in the question, assuming he is a shy guy then yeah he's probably interested, will him on a little, you know what might work, is give him a "tilt" (in flames song) of the head the next time you catch him looking, not like to the exact side, but more like tilt your head so your hair falls, then show that you're blushing, and then as you're lifting your head back up, run your hand through your hair to bring it back in position, he may go crazy for that, and maybe even appro.

[Asker]

Yeah he always smiles at me and he usually says hi along with it. But that is really it, I just think that there might be a chance because I FEEL there might be. So obviously that feeling can be wrong.

[metaldave20]

Weird, cause that's exactly what the girl did that I like before I started talking to her, well, yeah, sometimes there just is a positive aura around, you can't beat that now, can ya?

[Anonymous]

Tries/goes out of his way to talk to you, interested in what you have to say, tries to be alone with you, hugs you, smiles/laughs at you, helps you whenever he can, interested in what you do/like.

[Asker]

Even a shy guy? What if he is too nervous to approach you though?

[Opinion Owner]

Well then you will have to initiate the conversation.

[niceguy5007]

Im very shy so I know all about this. If he looks at you a lot than he definitely likes you. If you catch him looking at you chances are that he will look away really fast. Sometimes he might blush which is what I do. If he talks to you and acts nervous and stutters its because he is trying not to say something stupid. Usually shy guys will not maintain eye contact for a long period of time. I'm very sociable around friends and certain new people but the minute a beautiful girl talks to me I clam up and act weird. Its not you its just his nature. Chances are the if you are interested in him too, you will have to be upfront with the conversation to make him feel comfortable enough not to by shy around you.

[JohnThompson2009]

I'm sorry, but saying "hi" constitutes nothing.

"Tries/goes out of his way to talk to you, interested in what you have to say, tries to be alone with you, hugs you, smiles/laughs at you, helps you whenever he can, interested in what you do/like."

This answer I just quoted is pretty much dead on.

[JohnThompson2009]

I do have a question.

You said he smiles, and says hi when you walk by him...

What do you do when he does this? Do you shy away and look at the ground? I notice a lot girls do this. Many guys interpret it as the girl blowing him off.

[Asker]

Unfortunately sometimes I sort of do that. I'll give him a quick hi and go back to whatever I'm doing. But I'm trying to stop that and hold his eye contact longer, give him a nice hi and smile. Not like a little whisper. Totally not meaning to blow him off. He just makes me nervous cause I like him so much.

[JohnThompson2009]

Oh, so when you walk by him, you avoid eye contact and use a faint whisper to say hi?

How well do you know this person? If I don't know the girl very well, I'd interpret a faint whisper and no contact as the girl saying "I don't care, leave me alone".

How do you act around other guys? If you act normal around other guys, but not him, he may interpret the way you're acting towards him as a sign you don't like him.

Guys aren't good at detecting hidden emotions. You need to be obvious. :)

[Asker]

Lol. like not really a whisper, but it's not my normal talking voice. I really don't know him all that well. He lives on my floor and we always see each other. We hung out once, if you look at the comments I left on Frank24569's answer that is what happened. We haven't hung out since then though. If I'm not interested in a guy I act completely normal. And I know he has seen me talking to my closest guy friend, who of course I am 100% normal around...