How can you teach a guy a lesson?

[Anonymous]

My ex broke up with me for the 5-6x time. I've been replaying why he keeps doing this to me and I can only come up with the fact is because we've been fighting so much. Many of the times he broke up because he was mad and we were fighting. We agreed to be friends and just take time apart but I want him back but I don't want to be the one to ask him. He tends to have a pattern of breaking up with me and begging for me back. Do guys like this really ever leave the girl? If he comes back how can I teach him a lesson to not break up with me every time he gets mad?

[ynot2009]

you need to spend some time apart and I mean like months. its his only way he MIGHT learn. my ex boyfriend would do this to me too. and I would always take him back then he eventually left me for good! and I regret taking him back the first time! we have been broken up for a month now. I can tell he misses me but he hasn't asked to get back together. even if he does I probly won't cause I'm moving on and talking to other guys. anyway I suggest take time, without any contact! he needs to realize that he can't keep doing this to you! if you keep taking him back too easily he will trust me, I did that. then maybe when you spend time away you will be like me, and kinda move on. I know how hard it is but it will get better I promise! I hope this helped =)

[Lost_in_Space]

Guys like this might eventually leave for good... but why not at least leave him with a life lesson. I can't tell you how many times I have done this... and the guy is none the wiser. There is 2 ways and both are pretty mean, and not completely honest. My 1st ex and I kept doing what you guys are doing... until I took him back... and dumped him the same day. Another option... don't just make him beg... make him beg and plead... on hands and knees preferred. Believe it or not both guys I have done this to... well one is my husband, and the ex... well... I'm always on his mind, as he is still trying to get me back.

[ynot2009]

So one of these guys that was doing this to you is now your husband?! can I ask you how this worked or what you did. and do you think he will leave you ever again? as you can see my answer on the top, my ex always did this to me. this time after a month of being broken up, he is beggin for me back and says he wants to marry me. but I'm scared to take him back again for he might do what he always does, any advice or suggestions?!

[Lost_in_Space]

I didn't take him back right away after he made a big mistake. I started hanging out with guys, in particular an ex that wanted me back.I don't think he will ever leave me again, because he sees my ex as a threat... his family has a ton of money, tall, goofy, etc. My hubby doesn't have a ton of money, is short, and bigger. He doesn't see that I want just him... but he is on his best behavior. Men are competitive... so I just play their game back.

[Asker]

I took my ex back and then 4 days later he broke it off with me again. Its been an ongoing cycle for over 2 years. Do they ever stop this cycle? HE seems like he's over it but he always seems like that. I'm pretty bummed for taking him back. sigh.

[Lost_in_Space]

For my husband I just let him think that I wouldn't take him back for awhile... some people don't know what they have until it is gone.

[drSkabs]

dont take him back. he's immature and its stupid what he's doing. He already knows you'll take him back because youve done it 5-6 times. so this time, don't take him back. Then he has to face the fact that his decision was a bad one and now he can't have you. Just give yourself time to get over him completely, stay completely clear of him so he doesn't persuade you into taking him back, and cut off all connections with him. He seems to be waisting your time, and by taking him back your only huring yourself and giving him control. hope this helps you

[kenikaobrien]

Wow girly! Take some dominance gangsta! If y'all are separated right now then wait for him to ask you back & f*** with him. At least play with his emotion's for the last time ( I do it to girls all the time & you feel great about it later.) I don't know how you feel for the kid, but be a bitch. I love that shit & those are the girls guys chase after ( as with guy's that are dicks {vise-versa}.) I guess it depends on the guy. Tell me what he's like & I'll tell you how to fix him or her(that'd be interesting). Take control of the situation.

[MaxPrime]

Why, why, why! I'm not the next "nice guy" here but the fact that you said "At least play with his emotion's for the last time ( I do it to girls all the time & you feel great about it later.)" is sad, and makes us men look that much worse. I weep for your future.

ps. Please do not take this man's advice.

[Anonymous]

Well the first question is why do you let the game continue? And no you can't teach a man... he could only learn for himself... but if you must... show him the direction towards the light... where there is hope... all others will only lead to temporary happiness. God Bless.

[sumina7]

This kind of breaking up and making up shows immaturity and childishness. Both of you need to grow up.