Put Yourself In The Shoes Of A Skinny Guy

[Anonymous]

As a skinny guy who is currently in college, I've had many disadvantages in attracting women. Being ugly and being skinny are two things you don't want to be when you are attracting attractive women. Today, I am just going to talk about why being skinny is a disadvantage. Since my last my take did so well, I wanted to create a second one and see how well this one goes. Who knows, I might make a "Put Yourself In the Shoes Of A...." series. Just like my last my take, I want you to put yourself in the shoes of a skinny guy. These are the comments we get on a daily basis

1.) You better eat up, little man.

I hear this from all the huge muscular guys. Since they are muscular, they believe that they can push us around. They make fun of me all the time at the gym. I would be doing 135 pounds on the bench press and I would notice these muscular guys staring at me and laughing. It irritates me to no end. They would always come up to me and say "You better eat up if you want to look like us, little man." However, they don't know what I eat or what I do. I have to eat three meals a day because I'm so busy with school everyday. They don't know that I go to the gym six days a week to train. The worst part is that girls would be laughing at me too, since I'm not the biggest guy in the room. They would usually stare at me while I'm working out and giggle to their friends.

2.) You can't fight for me! You're too weak!

Girls don't think we can't fight off other dudes, so they just avoid dating skinny guys as a whole. They think we are weak (which we usually are) and can never provide for them. There are girls out there who find skinny guys attractive, but they usually aren't my type. I like girls who are fit, who workout a lot, and are overall physically attractive. You would think that they would be into guys like me, who workout six days a week right? Wrong. They like the guys who workout six days a week, but are the super muscular type. By looking at me, they would never know how much I train, but when they look at a muscular guy, they can make a rough guess as to how much he trains. I've been lifting six days a week for about three years, but they would never know or care unless I told them. However, if a buff guy went up to the same girl, the girl would be all over him.

3.) Ew! I can't cuddle with bones! That's just uncomfortable.

I touched up this point a little bit on my previous point, but most attractive girls don't find skinny guys attractive. They don't see it as healthy and they don't like the feeling of cuddling with bones. I've heard this from the many girls that I've asked. Whenever I'm in the gym, I see buff guys with their very attractive girlfriends, both training together. Once I see that, my motivation changes and in my head, I'm saying You see that couple over their training together? What is missing in this equation? The thing that's missing is that he's buff, you're not. He has a girlfriend, you don't. And she's with him because he has muscles, and you don't. Guess who's going home after this workout to cuddle and watch Netflix? They are, and you aren't. So unless you want to be alone for the rest of your life, I suggest you lift those weights. I know that there could be many reasons that they are together, such as a great personality, but there is a major pattern I see happening when I go to the gym. Most of the buff dudes have girlfriends that are attractive. Most of them get flirty stares from women, and the skinny guys who come to the gym don't, because we are unimpressive.

4.) Just workout

I hear this from dudes all the time Just workout and have a good diet, you'll be buff in no time. They say that like they aren't naturally big, have the stomach capability to eat 15k plus calories, and were born with god-like genetics. I've been working out for three years, six days a week, at least an hour in the gym everyday. Yes, I've managed to put on a LITTLE muscle and tone myself out, but i am still skinny. I don't look big in shirts unless I wear small or extra small shirts. Even when I do that, my body looks disproportionate with my head size, so it looks off. I'm only 135 pounds and 5'8". I could probably walk five feet and lose two pounds. It's an absolute curse.

5.) There are many girls out there who like skinny guys! Just look at Adam Levine!

Sure, there are girls out there that like or don't mind skinny guys, but the majority of girls who say that don't workout theirselves. I want a girl who can share the passion of working out, because that is what I like doing. Also, comparing a skinny celebrity to a skinny normal college kid is a bit ridiculous. Of course celebrities are going to get attractive women, they are famous and rich. It wouldn't matter if they are skinny or fat or muscular, they will always get attractive women.

6.) I wish I could be naturally skinny like you

Women say this to me all the time. It's almost an insult. It's different to be skinny as a women than it is to be skinny as a guy. Guys are seen as these muscular guys. This was formed centuries ago through primal attraction. Girls are seen as skinnier figures, formed from primal attraction as well. So yes, you might want to be skinny like me, but you'd never date someone who is skinny. You wouldn't find them attractive. They are basically calling me skinny, which I hate because that means that I will never find a girl who is attracted to that (and who I am attracted to.)

7.) I hate muscles, I don't find them attractive

Girls who say this tend to just say this so they don't sound shallow, knowing damn well that they are drooling over that Zac Efron poster on their wall. Most girls like muscles, not all of them, but most do. To say that they don't is a lie. Most girls, however, don't want to sound shallow, so they lie about not liking muscles. It would be much easier for them to tell the truth so that I can fuel my motivation to go to the gym.

These are just a few of the things I've heard from guys and girls about skinny guys. It's unfortunate that it is so difficult for us (or at least for me) to attract girls we are attracted to as well. The obvious solution to this is to just go to the gym, but for guys who have a busy schedule and don't have the stomach to eat at a caloric surplus, it is nearly impossible to become buff. Thanks for reading!

[Kkaos]

Big deal, who cares. I was always skinny growing up, it was a by-product of being tall, all the energy went to height rather than developing muscle etc.

I remember one time I was wearing a jacket and a teacher said I was buff, and for once I thought felt good about it - until 5 seconds later a guy (who was also skinny himself) shouted out 'Buff? He's a fucking stick' and I was shot down to reality.

But enough about that shit, I'm not going to sit around and whinge and play the victim card. I spent a lot of time working out and didn't see huge results, however developed confidence knowing that I WAS improving. It's not about being the best person in the room, it's about being the best person that YOU can be. After about 6 years of working out, I'm not quite muscular, it's just about persistence and not making excuses.

You appear to be making excuses.
'I can't get big because I'm skinny'
'I have a busy schedule'
'I can't eat that much'
'Women don't like me because I'm skinny'

It's all bullshit and pathetic. Stop complaining, stop making excuses. Accept life isn't always fair, accept that there will always be people who are better than you AND worse than you and just focus on yourself and your own self improvement.

[oOsecret_starlandsOo]

Bulking is way harder than burning, if you have not bulked up, its because you're not lifting heavy enough nor eating enough calories and proteins.

For me to bulk up, I have to eat 3200 calories a day (double what my hyper stupid fast metabo burns,) 25-45g of protein, and endurance lift 4 out of the 7 days until my muscles are totally dead.

Its straight muscle hell, with occasional vomitting, but I put on 10ibs of muscle in a month.

there's always something in life thats not easily achievable - you can cry all you want about it, you're still not going to get it.

Stop waiting on the world to change.

Imagine if doctors in the old times cried about diseases killing their families, instead of hitting the books and making the necessary sacrifices to develop treatments.

You just dont want to work hard enough to achieve what you desire, and are dwelling in the land of "I quit."

Well guess what?

Just because you quit, doesn't mean the world does too.

I was bullied for being skinny, mocked for being black, teased for not knowing how to dress, called ugly multiple times - now Im not.

But no one knows how much work and pain it took to turn that around.

No pity from me - work harder.

[lord_chilled]

i dont know about him, but i needed that

[oOsecret_starlandsOo]

@lord_chilled

yeah, we live in a society that brainwashes us to cry instead of work. Why am I entitled to a date or relationship with a good looking successful guy, if I myself am not successful or good looking?

Will men still want to date me regardless, maybe, but the man I want, I have to earn because Im not Halle Berry lol

[lord_chilled]

True. The collective and individual victim mentality has to go

[WhiteCrow]

Working out for 3 years with no results means you are doing it wrong.
If you are healthy (no diseases) given enough calories you will gain weight, if you workout most of it will be muscle.
Lifting six days a week is way too much, especially if you are skinny and working for mass, not definition.
Space it out, if you like going to the gym six days a week, do 3 days of lifting and 3 days light cardio and stretching.
Example:
Monday, Wednesday, Friday - 25 minutes stretching and 10-15 minutes cardio. Your muscles will be in prime condition the next day.

Tuesday, Thursday, Saturday - at least 15 minutes stretching and warm up, 2-3 minutes of cardio to get your blood flowing, 40-50 minutes of weight training at 65-75% of max load, 5-10 minutes warm down

Sunday - complete rest, go to the park, to a restaurant with friends, etc.

Now to the most important part - nutrition, eat as many times as you can, not as much as you can. Buy/make snack bars with oatmeal and nuts, and keep some at hand wherever you go, put one in each of your pockets and whenever you put a hand in that pocket you will remember to eat the bar. Stock up on peanut butter, eat a spoonful before and after every meal. If you can afford it buy a good quality protein supplement, you can shake it with milk and pour it over cereal for breakfast. Creatine is also a good, cheap supplement. Eat a lot of fruits and veggies, and in winter take multivitamin pills and drink tea with lemon and ginger.
This is a good base, but to make it complete - eat 1-5 eggs a day, you can put them raw in banana-milk smoothies, fry them (don't worry about too much fat) or boil them (boiled eggs also make good snacks). Rice is affordable, healthy carb source. If you eat meat and fish, don't eat more than 3 meals a week including meat, and no more than 7 a week including fish. Most farm animals are fed with things you don't want in your body, so unless you grow your own animals, and feed them with proper food, avoid meat altogether.
All in all you should have 21 proper meals a week, and at least 21 snacks. A salad with 2-3 boiled eggs is a good meal for dinner, as it is light, and easy to digest but still has plenty of nutrients. Main meals should add up to at least 85% of the calories you burn, peanut butter will provide 20-30%, snacks will add at least 15% more, protein powder ~5%. In total you consume no less than 120%, and up to 150% of what you burn, which means you WILL gain at least 1.5 kg a month.

[myTake Owner]

I’ve gain a little bit of results but not a whole lot. I like working out six days a week, it gives me something to do. I’ve tried the “bro split” before and I used that all of last semester because of my schedule, but now since I have less classes, I go to the gym six days a week. I train each muscle group a day (doing legs twice a week), by doing that it allows the muscles to rest, while also giving optimum performance. I can’t cook my own food at the moment because I live in the dorms. We have a community kitchen but I prefer not to use it because it’s so broken down and dirty, so I go to the cafeteria to eat. I can’t measure their servings because they give different servings. They don’t care enough to measure out how much they are giving me. So it’s going to be pretty hard to gain weight until I get my apartment next year.

[WhiteCrow]

Just get more servings, besides boiling eggs doesn't require much "equipment".
And NO, "six days a week. I train each muscle group a day (doing legs twice a week)" doesn't giving optimum performance, if you are skinny just try the program I outlined. I managed to gained quite good with a similar program. Now that I started college I have no time to work out, because exams are really hard, I lost 8 kg in a few months, but I am in good shape and I can gain them back once I have free time. You have all means to gain, you choose not to use them (kitchen is dirty, you are lazy etc.), you manage to go to the gym 6 times a week but can't cook? If you want you can stick to your ways and spend 3 more years complaining, or try a different approach - you have the means you can choose weather you gain or complain.

[Red_Dragon]

So BMI wise and by all practical purposes... I'm no longer skinny. I'd be considered solid for my height. That said I was rather skinny, so I can relate.

1) Gym. I used to be like that where I would see who's looking at me and yeah sure people make eye contact at times, but I guarantee they aren't looking at you as much as you think they are. I promise you they aren't. You have to have tunnel vision my friend. Try to block all that out. That's why a lot of guys (even the buff ones) listen to music while working out. Why? It blocks everyone else out and allows them to focus on just the weights. That's what you need to do. Focus just on the weights. Now me personally I can't listen to music. It distracts me. I just have learned to block people out and I find myself looking around after each set.

I also want to talk diet. I try to eat four times a day. You need to see how much calories you should eat in order to have muscle gain a day. I know mine, but yours will probably be different.

Also, as far as the weight you are doing we all gotta start somewhere. Those big buff guys? Yeah sure some of them may have genetically always been strong but for a lot of people it takes years to really get strong and fit. Take your time. Do them right. Put in the effort. And you'll get there. Fuck the other people and their laughing.

2) You say you are into gym rat chicks right? Well what do you expect? Obviously they are going to probably want to be with other people who are really fit like them. Let me tell you this... you do know most guys are out of shape right? Most guys aren't walking around looking like the dudes in the 300 movies. So it makes me think you are talking to these fit girls at the gym. How about trying to find ones outside the gym?

3) Sure I get looks, but even when I wasn't working out I did. I think being physically fit and either help or hurt. There are many girls who aren't into super buff guys. It all depends. Also despite me being fit I'm still a short, small, guy. Yet I'm still deemed attractive. You can be attractive without being the biggest motha fucka in the room. I work out with my girlfriend sometimes, but she also isn't a big gym person. I think you need to again change the environment. Go to other places for women. Fit girls don't live 24/7 in the gym. Find them in other areas and then who else would they look at? Another skinny or fat guy?

[Red_Dragon]

Because that's the majority of guys outside of the gym. Try that. Also, I've seen hot, fit, girls in the gym with skinny or fat out of shape guys. Hell maybe they are trying to get their guy into shape. Who knows? Also, as far as cuddling my girlfriend is taller and bigger than me and yet she feels safe with me. So maybe it just depends. I don't know. I've been with fitter girls and they didn't mind it either. It just depends man.

4) "Just workout and have a good diet, you'll be buff in no time." You're right. Not true all the time.

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It's genetics a lot of times, but.. but.. here's the thing. All our bodies are different. You need to find what works for YOU. Not somebody else. Let me tell you this... I got a guy friend. He's like a brother to me. He's not like super buff but he's a big guy you know. Six something feet and 200 and something pounds. He gets laid sure.

[Red_Dragon]

Well we worked out heavy a lot but honestly since I've worked out by myself I've gotten fitter. Why? Because I tried different shit to figure out what works for me best. You see even something as simple as curling a dumbbell. Everyone should do it a certain way that works for them. I find I do mine differently than most people. I also do my sets differently than anyone else I know. But it has given me bigger arms. It works for me. It may not work for you or someone else. So try different things. Youtube is your friend. Google is your friend. Don't do the same shit over and over if it ain't working. What's the saying? "Doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results is the definition of insanity."

5) Adam Levine is actually an average looking guy. But yes he's a rich celeb who makes love making music. Of course he gets to pick what model he wants. I can't disagree with you there.

[Red_Dragon]

6) Yeah I could see that. Women carry more fat though on average. Men carry more muscle typically or the lack of fat. Hence why more men would be prone to being skinny than women.

7) Most girls like muscles but want an average guy. Why? Because most guys are average and most girls want the norm. Most girls don't deviate from the norm. Now you of course say you want a girl who isn't the norm. A girl who is physically gifted herself... well yeah naturally she may want what she knows so well which is fitness. Another fit person. However if you love working out as much as she does perhaps she'll like you too.

But again I suggest trying a different environment and then showing her (after you get the fit girl you want) that you too have a passion for fitness. You know you can be rather skinny and fit. Look at the guys in the marathons. Are you going to sit there and tell me they aren't fit? Fitness can be defined in different ways. Remember that.

[lilaqua]

I'm just laughing, especially at the last point because that is such bullshit. I was always attracted to really skinny men. Like lanky, gangly motherfuckers. Both of my boyfriends were like this, and everyone I've been interested in since as well. Growing up these were my crushes: on an unfortunate note I have a very obvious type.

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[myTake Owner]

Are you truly saying that or are you just saying that to not sound shallow? Most girls say that they like that kind of body, but then date the huge muscular guy. So how do I know that you aren't lying? If you aren't, then you are in the minority of women that don't like muscular guys

[lilaqua]

I think someone on here commented perfectly, if you're having an issue attracting women it's got nothing to do with you being skinny it's either because you're not all that good looking or your personality sucks and just latching onto something tangible to focus all that insecurity onto. Some people are concerned about their weight, others like me, their skin, all in all, it's really not the issue. The funny think is I am kind of shallow, I'm really fucking superficial unfortunately and usually guys who don't resemble my type I won't be attracted to, I'm not going to pretend that I'm attracted to something i'm not. If the guys I like look like they've been on heroin for 3 months then so be it. I've literally told dudes on here that they look like shit so why would I try to lie to some anon to make him feel better, I'm way past that point.

[myTake Owner]

Well I’ve already made a previous mytake on being unattractive, this is simply a continuation of that mytake. Your weight has a lot to do with how well you attract girls. Most of the girls I talk to would feel uncomfortable dating a guy who weighs less than them. Some even have a certain weight limit, meaning you’d have to be between an x amount of pounds and an x amount of pounds in order to be considered datable. For me, girls usually tell me that their lowest is around 150 (for my height).

[lilaqua]

Well you've been around some very odd women I'll tell you that much. In all my years i've never heard a girl talk like that. Again when I say attractiveness I generally mean a mixture of facial and demeanour, body type is weird because in a way I care but in a way I don't.

[myTake Owner]

So you do care then? Even if it’s a little bit, you do care. Which means that you have contradicted yourself.

[lilaqua]

Basically if you've got a nice face and relatively good personality everything else doesn't really matter. I've found that yes I am attracted to mostly lanky, skinny dudes, but I have been attracted to those that are a little heavier, what would be called a "dad bod". What I'm trying to say is that for me, a good face is everything, body is very much a secondary aspect so I don't know why you're focusing on it.

[myTake Owner]

Because I have an ugly face, so my body has to make up that factor.

[Red_Dragon]

That first dude looks like a young Steven Tyler.

[lilaqua]

@Red_Dragon it’s Jim Morrison, he was 5 years older than Steven tyler

[10dsw]

Not gonna lie but this seems REALLY ranty. I think your issue might be that you're not attracting the women YOU find attractive (something most women do, in reverse).

Let's break this down:
(1) You're not attracting women. And? Live your own life. Ironically women will find you more attractive. This post just screams "I suck. Women don't like me. It's their fault!"
(2) There are LOTS of women who don't give a shit about whether a guy is skinny, fat or average. They care about PERSONALITY. Is he confident in his skin? A little cocky but funny and warm?
(3) Many Asian women are HOT! And guess what? Asian women (especially Chinese) have a huge thing for nerdy, skinny white men.
(4) Stop pedestalizing muscle. Muscle won't get you shit in life. As a matter of fact, most women prefer the skinny toned look on men vs. big & buff. Again, your problem is that you're trying to attract women who almost exclusively care about a man's aesthetic. DISASTROUS!
(5) And here's the biggest one. I was skinny. I am 6'3". I used to weigh 149 lbs. I could barely bench 50 lbs. 50 lbs! And yet I had no problem attracting women. My prom date ASKED ME TO PROM. All I did over 1 year was bicep curls (about 30-40 lbs to date, 10-15 reps). And I benched in my garage. 3-5 times a week. I can now bench 170 lbs and weigh 175 lbs. No gym. Never had a gym membership. I have 1,000 tinder matches to date.

[10dsw]

Oh and one more thing... I was not "Mr. Popular" either in high school. I was a class clown though and never gave a shit what people thought about me... just in case you think this was some kind of "social status" thing.

[myTake Owner]

1.) I live my own life. I go to school. All my life consists of is studying, doing homework, and going to the gym. In fact, I'm more worried about getting into the college of business than trying to attract girls, but that doesn't mean that I want to attract girls.

2.) Those who care more about personality over looks aren't usually good looking theirselves. I don't want to date a girl i'm not attracted to. You wouldn't either.

3.) I'm black, so Asian women are out of the equation

4.) Muscles will get me a date with a woman. Women find muscles sexy. Women do care about a man's aesthetics. Why do you think girls drool over Zac Efron.

5.) Ok? Congrats? I can't get past 135 and I've been training for three years. 1,000 tinder matches? Wow. Most of the tinder matches I get are from unattractive girls. Also, this isn't a social thing, it's an evolutionary thing and to ignore it is to ignore science.

[10dsw]

Ok perfect. Then worry about getting into business school. Working hard towards your goals (at your age) is a MUCH better use of time than worrying about women. With a degree, you'll find women EASY when you're older. You're right, I wouldn't date an unattractive woman. I don't even reply to unattractive women. But at the same time I recognize there are women who I am attracted to who look for personality traits. Ok, Asian women are out of the question. White women aren't though. Muscles will *HELP* you get dates. That's true. But you don't need very much. As long as you don't look like a stick or you're not fat... you're fine. Again... personality comes into play here.

[10dsw]

Basically I think you're making a big deal out of a non-issue. Most guys your age have trouble getting dates. Muscles will make a marginal difference. You're dating the most unavailable age bracket of women after all... 18-24. Yes I have 1,000 Tinder matches now. You think I was like that when I was 22? Nope.

I'm 27 now and can have any woman I want. You want to know why? It's not because I'm tall or fit or whatever. It's because I am EDUCATED (finishing doctoral degree) and it's because there is a SHORTAGE of EDUCATED MEN (thank feminist culture for that). So stop whining, grind it out a few more years and you'll be fine dude!

[love_conquers_lust]

Okay, first of all, anyone can use a gun, tasor, or pepper spray. So all that physical work is moot as far as self-defense. DDDDDDAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHH 2nd Amendment, guns kill, we need gun control DDDDDDDDDDAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHH.

Secondly, you shouldn't be working out 6 days a week. That's too much for high intensity weight lifting. Your muscles need a chance to heal.

Thirdly, don't worry about the weight you put up. Reps are more important. I do the Michigan Bench press where you push the bar as many times as you can as fast as you can as the last set. You look like a total pussy struggling to push up a 45lb bar after throwing it up 50 times. But it gets excellent results. Make sure your muscles are "swole" at the end of a session, go home, eat. Sessions shouldn't last more than an hour.

Fourthly, this shit is really only good for... bedroom extracurriculars. And it gives you the added benefit of confidence. But it won't increase your IQ, generally. Plus it's healthy. Make sure you work on your core mid-section. It's more about good tone.

[lord_chilled]

im a skinny guy. i can relate.

skinny guys are to girls, what overweight women are to guys.

you can have a pretty/handsome face and still look good, but the physical appeal takes a big hit.

i have made improvements when i used to go to the gym, a bit of it is even permanent i could argue.

my main problem is inconsistency tough. im not regular, and rn i haven't gone in months.

but i plan on going again, and i know my diet i got it figured out. try to find the foods that work for you. every guy is different. unless you are lactose intolerant, milk is almost like a cheat/hack. you should definitely try milkshakes. when i was bulking i drank milkshakes after lunch and dinner. bananas and milk, just a bit of sugar too. instead of sugar, you could try a spoon of whey maybe.

broccobrussel sprouts also work on me. and a high carb diet is good for me.
you also have to figure out what you can eat. a lot of people just give out diets, but not everyone can eat all that.

also, dont lift 6 days a week. that makes you strong, but not big. i did that as well, and after changing it to 4 days, mostly big compound lifts, plus switching up my diet , i had the best esults.
i went from 63 kgs to 72 in like 4 months or so. now im slightly below 70, so i need to start again

[johnnydeeb]

Dude what are you talking about... either you're just lying or are a delusional guy seeking attention. 135 (1plate) is an extremely good weight to workout with for a beginner. Thats the estimated 1rm for an untrained male... so if you are working out with it for reps, that is really awesome. First time i walked into the gym as a 16 yo i couldnt even do 115 (yeah i was a weak bi*tch lol). Now after 3 years of consistent training and nutrition i max out at 245. Hoping for 315 by 2020. And i achieved this with average genetics. You state that you only can eat 3 meals because of college... im sorry but thats a lie. You can eat 10 meals... IF YOU WANT. Building muscle is hard work and dedication, you need to be willing to sacrifice time and money. If you absolutely have no time then meal prep... You dont need more than 1 hour in the gym if you go in hard. train in the 8-12 rep range for 3-5 sets for muscle growth and 1-5 reps for strenght. Find out how many calories you need then have at it ! Also i would rather skip 5 workouts than getting my calories in... You can't build muscle with insufficent calories. Thats like trying to build a house with no materials. Get the point? Stop making it so complicated buddy. Wish you the best of luck, and those guys are dicks for laughing at you. I would gladly give help and motivate you if i saw you. Never give up dude, we have all been there. Worst thing you can do is to submit. PEACE

[myTake Owner]

135 isn’t a good weight to lift. Especially considering how long it took me to get to that point. I try to get a high calorie diet in but I can never count because I can’t cook my own food, I go to the cafeteria.

[johnnydeeb]

135 is more than a good weight to rep out for a beginner. You write in such an annyoing matter. People like you are the guys that make other insecure. He is a beginner, do you even know what that means? You talk like you dont even lift so i won't even take you seriously "I try to get a high calorie diet in but I can never count because I can’t cook my own food, I go to the cafeteria". You must be one of those 15 year old that have nothing better to do than to bash on other people.

[myTake Owner]

I’m not a beginner is what I’m saying. I have the body of a beginner, but the training level of an intermediate. I should be past benching 135 by now and the guys who can bench 135 are super skinny. I’ve been lifting for three years, it’s obvious you skipped that part. I’m actually 19, not 15, going to college to major in finance. Not sure if you’ve ever been to college before, but when you’re a freshman in college your main diet will most likely consist of cafeteria food.

[Anonymous]

Excuses, excuses, excuses. First off, I know A LOT of skinny guys that women just love. While I am 6'2 and 220lbs, muscles, not fat, yet I never had even a kiss in my life nor I ever will, Im undesirable to all women. Which brings me to my second point, if women dont like you, its you, not your muscles or bones. I have a friend who looks like a model, yet he lost a girl to a fat guy (not even a rich fat guy). And third, in 3 years of working out, you should be bigger than any of the muscular guys in your pictures, no matter how bad genetics you may have. Which means you dont work out right. Either you quit when it gets hard like a little bitch, or your eating and sleeping habits are shit, or you are working out too much and not giving your body enough time to rest and actually build muscle. You gave insufficient information so i dont know whats the case there. Understand that you can be skinny and be a badass, but if you really dont want to stay skinny, you can change that. So instead of whining man up and fix your shit

[Shadow44]

It never hurt peoples interest in me. Not all girls like muscles, not all girls want a built guy, not all girls want a fat, guy, not all girls want a skinny guy, and not all girls what whatever subset of any peronality out there. Girls are vastly different and I guarantee you that there are a lot of girls out there who like skinny guys. They may not necessarily be interested in you but they like skinny guys. Dating is not easy for the vast majority of people, and finding someoen right for you isn't easy. Get some self confidence in who you are, live life the way you want to live, see yourself in a positive light and you'll draw more people like you to you (including girls who'll be interested in dating you)

[GinaTina]

wow, great mytake... im sorry that you go through this... one thing that i find so ironic, is that media emphasizes so much that girls are the ones that struggle a lot with "discrimination" by guys because they dont have the "ideal body-type" (whatever that means) or that they struggle with low self-esteem, because they dont have the characteristics that make them the "dating type"... but i dont think enough people realize that guys can go through similar problems too. thanks for shedding some light!!! i hope you find your dream girl!! ( i know she's out there somehwere)

[Goochbreaker]

I've been skinny my whole life, what people may or may not know is that I'm strong as fuck (my friends know this :P) but girls don't immediately look at me and think "woah, that guy's strong" they think "hmm, he's probably a musician or something" (they'd be right) but really, you gotta decide what you want from life. If you just wanna hookup and traul puss, then yeah, the big fit bod or even the dad bod is better than the skinny fit bod, but I am confident that my body is more than good enough for anyone who would want to date me longterm, if they are so shallow they can't deal with my skinny legs, fuck em. I know how to fight and I can easily grapple with somebody twice my weight so I don't give a damn what people think, shallow thots begone

[bellybuttonlint]

As a skinny guy I can relate... people think I don't eat enough when in reality I eat more than your average person.

Clothes are even more difficult to find because I'm somewhat tall and very lanky. I have to tailor them to get them to fit right.

eating a ton of food to gain weight is not a good thing because it's time and money consuming and when results don't show there is nothing I can do except embrace who I am... even though deep down I don't.

I'm 5'11.75" and 125 lbs... and I've struggled to gain weight since forever. My appetite can be voracious yet it doesn't show.

And dating is near impossible... no girl I know of actually wants a skinny guy and I'm not putting unnatural substances in my body like creatine or steroids.

So yeah, I definitely feel you.

[McJones]

Creatine is nothing compared to steroids at all. Just a supplement that helps you with your ATP (which is your energy levels during workouts), helping you get those couple extra reps. Steroids on the other hand is totally not natural and in the long term very damaging for you.

Also i started out being skinny when i first started working out, i was around the 60-65g (132-143 lbs) range and literally being the weakest version of myself. Im now at a 78-80 kg (172-176 lbs) range and i eat around 3100-3400 calories a day while still not gaining any weight at all. Even to this day i feel like im a skinny guy. Having a fast metabolism and hating eating a lot is still sometime i have today.

Just know u can still do it even if you are older than me!

[Anonymous]

I used to be really skinny, and everywhere you read people would always say ''just eat more''. After many years of trial and error, I finally found something that worked. Training with an Isokinator Green Giant (no warmups needed, nothing to life), and drinking high calorie shakes made from ultra fine oats with other stuff.

Noting is simpler than doing a training method that does not need a warmup, for 30 mins 3x a week, and drinking high calorie shakes after each meal. This is what has allowed me to be very consistent, and I don't need a gym, or bulky equipment.

[Mediterranean35]

Adam Levine isn't skinny and yeah according to my experiences there are girls exist who like skinny guys and who don't aswell. Some say they don't like muscular guys at all lmao which is I found it as a big lie... I mean thats aight u can dislike a guy who is ''over-muscled'' but comeon everyone loves strong looking, aestethic guys. I never became a skinny one, I was always athletic and still I am.

About you going to gym 6 days in a week and still looking skinny, well u shouldn't go to gym 6 days in week tho, otherwise your muscles will be over-trained so yeah u won't improve that much. Just go to gym like 3-4 times a week thats aight.

[VaIiant]

Oh my God. Stop whining about being skinny. There are such worse things to be. Like, you know, starving, or dying. Why don’t you stop seeking out such shallow women if it’s such a big issue for you.
Working out normally tones muscle. Bulking up takes serious work and plans. Literally just google it. It’s called a MyTake, not a MeCry.

[myTake Owner]

Do not compare my life to someone who is starving and dying. They are on a different level of despair and is unfair for you to judge my life based off of the sufferings of those who are truly suffering. The point I am trying to get across here is that is skinny (and ugly) guys have a hard time getting girls. Most girls like guys with muscle. This isn’t a take to cry it’s just a take to realize the struggles

[VaIiant]

You’ve got to be kidding me
That isn’t a struggle.

[myTake Owner]

Not having anyone be attracted to you isn’t considered a struggle? Not being thought of as a creep because you aren’t good looking is called a struggle?

[VaIiant]

No. Those are called first world complaints.

[VaIiant]

Have you ever thought women don't like you because of your poor-me attitude, not because of your physical appearance?

[myTake Owner]

They’ve said that it was my apperance... to my face... so...

[VaIiant]

Then stop chasing women severely out of your league.

[myTake Owner]

So chase women that I find unattractive?

[lord_chilled]

your comment makes sense, but keep in mind, pretty much all of gag are first world problems. I don't know anyone here who is starving and on gag

[VaIiant]

@lord_chilled yeah, good point, but the way the MyTake Owner wrote it was so.. Whiney and arrogant. “Waaaahh, I have low confidence and no looks why don’t 10’s love me?”

@MyTake Owner, if you’re truly unattractive and have no confidence, then yes. Chase women who are in your league.

[lord_chilled]

Yeah, i mean i see where he is coming from, i am skinny too, but i found it funny when he got to the part where he can't get the the perfectly fit/instagram model type girls.

Thats not realistic.
And also hypocritical if you are being superficial while wanting your objects of desire not to be superficial about yourself.

This take could have gone better if he didn't say that, and kept it more neutral.

I have seen a lot worse tough

[VaIiant]

@lord_chilled yeah Baha that ticked me off. “Women are so superficial... why can’t mega hot women like me back?”

[myTake Owner]

@lord_chilled that’s not exactly what I meant. I work out six days a week and working out has become my passion, but girls will never know because it doesn’t look like it. Girls will think I don’t workout and thus won’t be attracted to me, even though I workout six days a week. That’s the issue. They assume and then are automatically unattracted to me

@Valiant everyone is superficial in some sort of way. I’m not allowed to be? I’m not allowed to want a girl I’m attracted to? The relationship would be pointless if my partner isn’t attractive to me.

[VaIiant]

So you’re saying you can’t like someone if they’re not pretty. But as an ugly guy yourself, you expect atttactive women to flock to you.
Humans are superficial, but that’s just being a shallow asshole.

[myTake Owner]

Never said that they should. I’m saying that I was born with the inability to attract beautiful women. The girls I like don’t like me back, the girls I’m not interested in sometimes like me back and sometimes they don’t. I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place is what I’m saying.

[VaIiant]

No, you’re really not.

[myTake Owner]

Why do you think otherwise?

[VaIiant]

You are apparently unattractive. That’s fine. Yet you’re salty because women out of your league don’t want to date an unattractive guy whose not confident. That first part alone is ridiculously superficial and shallow

[lord_chilled]

They can still know working out is a passion of yours.
Which isn't necessarily a good thing.
Girls knew i worked out, because i used to go eat at some classmates home which had 4 girls (i was kinda sorta seeing one of them), right after the gym. Since their apartment was right opposite to the gym.

So these girls knew i worked out, but they found it funny since i wasn't really getting big, at least not as fast as some people.

I dont think thats the issue, the issue is that you eant to look bigger and stronger.
Fit is good, but lets be real, girls like strong, powerful men. We know that , and they know that.

If you wanna look stronger, then i really recommend you switch away from the 6 times a week routine.

You can go back to that again once you get big enough.

[lord_chilled]

Go no more than four days a week.
And do heavy, compound lifts on those days.
Space them out so you can go really heavy on deadlifts, squats, bench press, shoulder press, bent over rows, rows with barbells, dumbbells, all kinds of rows.

Add some isolation to your liking, if you want at the end.
Or go heavy 3 days and do isolation one day.

The 6 day a week routine is bad for skinny guys.
You either can't go as heavy as you should every day, or you go too heavy and dont let them recover long enough to grow.

Right now you are getting stronger but not bigger.
To see some sort of results you got to switch things up man.

[Logorithim]

Some good points here (also in the answers, particularly by 10dsw).

I can tell you that once you get to your 40s (and often earlier), being skinny has its advantages when it comes to dating (although being skinny won't outweigh financial status in most women's minds), especially if your competition has beer bellies.

[Agent]

How much is your daily protein intake like? How many reps and sets do you usually do per muscle group? How long is your average workout session? Have you tried protein supplements?
Do you do lots of cardio? (Excessive cardio can hinder muscle gain or even reduce muscle mass).

[evank]

it's the age old tale my man, you want what you dont have or whatever.
im the opposite of you where it is hard for me not to put on weight and muscle. i go to the gym and have to workout like a damn tri-athlete doing cardio, light weights, etc while avoiding heavy weight and restricting my diet to not put on weight.
so while i'm the other side of the coin, i know the frustration you feel

[Bananaman177]

Dog, you just gotta rock the right haircut and dress really nice. Dress like a college professor. Wear fake glasses if you have to! Develop an intense, piercing stare. Hypnotize girls into thinking you're a dark, revolutionary poet.

[lilaqua]

this advice is actually gold

[toolazyforausername]

Skinny girls also have trouble too. I think skinny guys and skinny girls could do well together cuz they both go through the same struggle. It's so hard to gain weight in muscle.

[Red_Dragon]

Yeah but whatever you do put on will look better. People get jealous of me because of that.