My parents tell me I'm fat, yet they don't know about self-esteem problems. How to stop them?

[Anonymous]

My parents are constantly saying that I'm fat, I smile to them but than I feel really bad.

I've been depressed for 12 months but never told them anything because I'm afraid of their reaction, they would probably say that it was just an attention seeking action.

What should I do or say to them to stop it?

By the way I'm 5'10''(1,78m) and 165lbs (75kg)... Calculating the BMI the result is 23.7 which it stands for normal weight.
I don't understand

[Theguyoverthere]

Many people carry their weight differently so you just happen to store more fat at your weight. Muscle weighs more than fat. I'm not sure if you've ever seen people with those props where they show you how much space a pound of muscle takes up compared to a pound of fat.

Basically if you had less fat in you, you'd weight a lot less and look more tone and such. Like you'd be able to see definition in your body which is great. Like I weigh about 178-180ish and am around 14%-15% BF and a girl at work will weigh around the same we'll she'll look fat and I'll look skinny because her weight is stored as fat.

In the end, most fitness people go through a "cutting" phase (not cutting themself!) where they cut out as much fat as they desire then tone up and build muscle. If you heard how much some "skinny" guys weighed you'd be surprised.

[behindthemask]

You're not fat you just probably have higher body fat like what drooogie4 said you just need to build some muscle and you won't look over weight at all and as for you're parents you either need to sit them down and tell them or talk about it with a friend or someone else you trust because concealing your emotions and how you feel doesn't make it go away it makes it worse please get some help don't let yourself sink promise me you'll talk to someone okay? I swear you will feel much better talking about it it will be like a weight being lifted off your shoulders and although the road to recovery is a long one, once you get to the end you will find happiness:)

[Asker]

Thank you..
I won't promise anything, but I'll try to

[Anonymous]

Looking if ur parents are callin u fat it's because they have a low self-esteem and if u want them to stop explain to them how much it hurts u that ur own parents are callin u names explain to them and ask them how would they feel I they were called fat tbh ur not fat and if ur parents can't see that then don't let them bring ur self esteem down alright cuz ik it's hard and it hurts to have ur parents do that but let them say what they won't cuz u and only u know the truth so bring up that self esteem and be who u r don't let nobody not even ur family tell u who or what u r cuz u r u

[Asker]

It's easy to talk that way... I can't be independent

[Opinion Owner]

Yes u can and its not that easy to stand up for urself against ur parents it's hard because u don't want to get them mad I would be scared to explain sum thing like dat to my parents even to the kids at my school I have been calle fat by cuzin by kids that I know I've been called ugly and all these name that really really hurts ok asker

[Anonymous]

I have bin threw ed and stuff nooo one knows and I'm all good now have not thrown up in a year and a half but my mom cept calling me fat i just told her to stop it and that she's not thinner then me I'm 5'9 140 the healthy weight for my hight. Don't listen to them u r Beautiful no matter what and don't try to get thinner in any un healthy way Bc once u start it's hard to stop I only had made my self throw up 33 times I kept count but people started saying I was to thin I was 5'8 and 125 way to low and now I see that it was hard to stop but now I don't even think about it and please just don't listen to them

[aamy811]

Honestly I know the struggle because of my mother I struggle from low self esteem and bad self image. Don't let them get to you. Explain to them with detail what you've told us and I they don't care, stop caring about what they say. Only get healthy and workout only if you want to. Don't ever force yourself to do something you don't want to do. And if you do light excessive and eat really healthy. Only let yourself be your biggest critique not others

[KBob93]

Are you serious? Honey!
That's sociopathic behavior from your parents.
I'm so sorry you're putting up with that crap. You don't deserve that. Could you have a session with your school counselor? I feel she'll be able to give you efficient process over this. Plus, she's there for your resource, so definitely use her help.

[mutedaisy]

maybe they just think you need to tone up? I doubt they really mean you are fat. Talk to them about it and ask if you should join an after school sport.

[KBob93]

I doubt they're as benign as how you presume them to be in your response.

[mutedaisy]

How about he talk to them and let them know how that makes him feel? It's best to be heard first before you go to the extreme with your parents.-.-

[my_answer_is]

BMI is not a perfect thing, you should keep your fat percentage average 13%. So check your fat percentage and get into shape and show your family ;)

[Drooogie4]

You're not overweight according to the bmi.

[Asker]

But I look overweight

[Drooogie4]

That's because you have higher body fat. Not enough to be considered bad health wise. Just build some muscle up and you won't look that way

[Asker]

I'll try, thanks