How to help gf lose weight?

[gn0m3r]

I have been with my gf for 2 years now. When we got together she wasn't twig thin but a nice size. She wore a 16 and was working her way down to a 12. Perfect! Except it didn't actually happen, she instead went the opposite direction to now a size 24... We don't have sex anymore because she never wants tobecause she thinks she looks hideous, she never wants to go to any parties or social events for the same reason. She will never get in a pool.

She keeps saying she wants to lose weight, she tries to diet and does not stick with it. She may exercise like once a week, maybe. She uses the I don't have time excuse all the time. I own two business take classes and have meetings all week, and I can find time for the gym...

Any advice?

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Looks like walks in the morning, gym at night, and controlled meals is the way to go! Time to hide all the chocolates and stuff.

In Heinz sight I wonder how shallow this is?

[Whitneymariexo]

First things first DO NOT tell her you want her to lose weight. Do NOT tell her you posted this online either. She will be mortified and incredibly embarrassed. Take it from an ex fat girl that even though your intentions are nice it's still mean.
Try making a healthy dinner or breakfast or lunch etc. incase she is a picky eater don't tell her whats in it (I told myself I hated spinach until my boyfriend gave me some raw spinach in my salad yummy!) there's not going to be an easy way to make it happen. If you say "I think you should lose some weight" you'll look like an asshole. If you say that you're genuinenly worried about her health and want to have a healthier, active lifestyle together. Also make sure your eating habits are good and you're exercising 5x a week cause it'd be a little hypocritical to help her lead a healthy lifestyle if you're drinking soda or eating fries. Take walks. Go to the park. If you're blessed with living in a mountainous region go hiking. Don't cut off all junk food that'll make her Sneak things like chocolate (atleast that's what I did) allow a cheat day. Create goals. Create rewards! A goal could be lose 20 pounds in 2 months, the reward to that a cute new outfit! You need to inspire her. You need to inform her that being overweight is not only damaging to her self esteem but also to her health. But let her know you think she's beautiful. Let her know you think she's amazing. Don't force anything on her. She has to want to lose the weight for herself not for a boy.

[aoifeislovable]

Dieting dosent work... Eat lots and lots in the day to speed up you metabolism. But it has to be vegetables. Cut out carbohydrates all together. I know it sounds hard but what I do it I eat eggs in the morning with a cup of coffe then throughout the day carrot sticks and raw pepper ect. And for dinner I eat lean meat with lots and lots of veggies combines with half an hour of exercise a day :):)
20 minutes of running or cycling (these are full body workouts)
And then 30situps 10 push-ups 50 ab crunches and 100 squats
It's fast and really really works
Oh and make sure she drinks 2 litres of water a day :):):) do this and she's gonna fell and look amazing

[gn0m3r]

Next question is how to get her to follow the plan, and even suggest it to her..

[BertMacklinFBI]

you just described what dieting is after you said dieting doesn't work. its not how much you eat its what you eat.

and she shouldn't cut out carbs completely, complex carbs is power for the brain, ex. sweet potato. and very fibrous too which keeps you full longer and supports healthy bowel movement.

every person's body is different. im not hating btw:D just making sure im not coming off as mean:)

[aoifeislovable]

She's after getting too comfortable around you... that why it happened in the first place but what you should do if your serious about it is throw all the junk food out of the house and stock the whole place with great looking fruit and veg... Your gonna have to eat twitch her and follow the diet plan I suggested yourself to get her to do it. If she's starting to open presses in the kitchen you go up to her and be like hey babe you hungry I'm just gonna make some fruit salad I'll make some for you too. If she has Gained a lot of weight then the good news is she's gonna drop a lot of weight in the first few weeks. If she follows the plan then she'll notice. You need to compliment her and say stuff like babe you are looking hot today must be all those veggies your eating. This'll get a reaction out of her. As for the gym your just gonna have to be like hey babe I'm going to the gym wanna come with. I wanna spend some time with you. Don't leave her at the gym for ages that'll just turn

[aoifeislovable]

Her off so do a quick ten minute cycling or running then do half of the cardio workout I do and work it up as she gets more fit. Get her into this lifestyle and frame of mind and you my man have a hot girlfriend on your hands

[aoifeislovable]

Oh I know not to cut carbs I eat fat free yogurt and stuff that really good that have carbs in them. Sorry I didn't describe that well I mean like all bread pasta and rice :)

[BertMacklinFBI]

it sounds like she just got too comfortable with you and didn't feel the motivation to keep dropping the weight. try working out with her. and show her new ways to workout that aren't boring and have fun while you eat healthy food. remember its more about diet and nutrition than actual exercise. 80% nutrition and 20% exercise. so just focus on dieting aspects and make it fun and interesting. and keep it up for a good month and when she sees the results she will most likely be motivated at that point to keep going herself.

[vmw2008]

This is good advice.

[BertMacklinFBI]

@vmw2008 :D ^-^!

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Tell her you're tired of dating a fat bitch. She can either start working out or hit the door.

[miss_dior]

Tell her you accept her the way she is... If she really wants to lose weight do it together. Exercise 3 times a week and go on a healthy eating plan together. I would also recommend a therapy session and some yoga or pilates, sounds as if she may be going through a dress ion and that may be why she has gained some weight. Buy her some sexy lingerie that will flatter her body and light some candles, make a romantic night where you can express your love for her even with her current body. Of she starts to feel wanted by you she'll make the change.

[lavitadia]

First of all, NEVER DIET, make a lifestyle change. Why don't you workout with her? Ask her if she wants to go to the gym, if she wants to go hiking, or play a sport. Get active with her. Let her know you love her and accept her. But doing it with her, being patient, and accepting her failures throughout will really help her! My boyfriend and I workout together and its so much fun especially weight training together. Teach her new things, itll be awkward at first but she will thank you. Too bad my boyfriend wants to gain and I want to lose, but anyway good luck!

[emzy-89]

Go for a long brisk walk with her every day and perhaps advise her to not go on a diet, but just eat healthy. Make a meal plan setting out breakfast lunch and dinner, make sure portion sizes are right and include lots of veggies (not potato), fruit (try to limit bananas), lean meat, water. Make sure junk food is not on the meal plan.

[Anonymous]

Maybe go on a diet with her? I know it isn't fair that you should be 'punished' for her weight, but it is really nice to have someone to share with - at least in the beginning. You can always eat junk and that, when she isn't around. Don't have any temptations in the house, just don't buy it. She might get grumpy, but hey, thats what it takes. She needs to have the will to lose weight though, otherwise it's not gonna work out.
It sounds like she is really insecure, and hates her body, since she won't have sex with you. I don't know if you already do this, but tell her that she is beautiful, and that you aren't dating her, for her body. :)

[gn0m3r]

I've gone on diets to prove to her it's possible... She always thought it was some voodoo because I could stick to the diet and she couldn't...

I do tell her she is beautiful, she retorts back that I'm lying through my teeth every time. I'm not doctor Phil I don't know how to fix self esteem issues... It probably doesn't help that her mom tells her she's super fat every day over the phone...

[Opinion Owner]

Im not sure what to do then. It sounds like you have done what you could, but she is the one, who has to do the work.

[LittleSally]

Damn!
She gained so much weight! O. o

Ummmm... exercise. Only exercise and of course no junk food.
Just vegetables, fruits, nuts, meat, fish...
(nothing dipped in oil, of course)

You can go on jogs with her, or do aerobics with her. Some cardio exercises could be the best way to go.

[Yakiudon]

I think you should buy all the food and be the control in her life. If I see someone else working out, I'll feel lazy and start to workout as well. Do fun exercises too! I like to dance and that's super fun cardio. Yoga really helps too, cause it's basically weight training and improved flexibility all in one.

And a big thing to remember is that five minutes if better than none. She has to remember that she has to be unfit in order to reach fit... that didn't make sense, did it?

[Anonymous]

If she just deep down doesn't want to, she never will. She may say she wants to or may complain about it, but if she really doesn't want to, she's simply not going to and nothing you say or do will make her.

This is a personal choice she has to make.

[gn0m3r]

Any way I can point that personal choice in the ideal direction? Maybe give it a little kick start?

[Opinion Owner]

Um, it depends on the girl. If my boyfriend ever expressed a dislike in my fitness level (he better not 'cause I'm a fit size 0 lol) but if he did, it'd piss me off, but I'd change it and change it fast and be in shape. Some girls would be offended and proceed to do just the opposite, or dump the guy. Bringing up the issue with a woman is kind of like defusing a bomb. So, what kind of girl are we talking about here?

[gn0m3r]

I mean I've gotten bold a few times and told her to stop eating cuz she was fat and I was mad at her... She just told. me that her mom already tells her that and she didn't need to hear it from me...

So she doesn't fly off the handle or anything, but I've tried a few tactics to get her to exercise or eat healthy... Including bribes for concert tickets or new clothes...

[Opinion Owner]

I guess you could just be straight with her: "If you're just going to bitch and complain about being fat and not do anything about it... don't bitch about it."

[ArabianPwincess197]

If she needs to lose weight she has to be determined for it. Maybe suggest why not go gym with u

[gn0m3r]

That's my usual suggestion, to no avail... I have even bribed her with concert tickets and stuff and no luck..

[ArabianPwincess197]

Looks like it she is not interested in wanting 2 lose weight - maybe do late night strolls in the park and in the morning do a walk as well, prevent her from eating food like chocolates etc