I can't tell if I'm skinny or average?

[iloveyoutoo112]

I know for sure that I am not fat. I don't know if I'm skinny either. I'm a size 0-4 (depending on the clothing store), but whenever I look in the mirror I ALWAYS think my arms are too fat and my thighs are too fat, so I feel like I look really average. I'm 5'5 and 109 pounds. People sometimes say "you don't eat, do you?" but I think it's only because they are fatter than I am... what do you think?

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And once when I said, "My back is so bony!" to a friend, she said well yeah that's because you're skinny. But I don't think I look THAT skinny. I think I'm average at best, but people tell me otherwise... My BMI and my clothing size do as well.

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+1 y

Oh by the way I'm 15 years old so yah.

[PiuBelloAmante]

well you are actually skinny lol!
you will probably begin to gain a little more weight as you get older
good thing you are 109 now, when you are an adult you will probably be a healthy/hot 120 pounds =)

if you view yourself as being overweight, or fat it could just be your self image is disoriented or something
you could go to a therapist or just try and see yourself for who you are beautiful and thin

[iloveyoutoo112]

Aw thanks :) And how are you sure that I will gain weight? I don't want to get any heavier, how can I make sure I stay the same weight?

[PiuBelloAmante]

girls go through a process, you aren't fully mature yet
but once you become a women, like 21 you will pretty much not change anymore
I think you are fine the way you are now, let nature take its course, eat and live healthy and you will always be beautiful

[iloveyoutoo112]

Thanks :) You're lovely. I mean hey I'm pretty and skinny lol! Did I mention that I get a lot of male attention and people always say I'm pretty?

[PiuBelloAmante]

you mentioned the pretty part =)
And i am happy to hear you have no problem finding guys who like you =P

thanks for the compliment! i dont think i ever have been called lovely before!

[iloveyoutoo112]

Wait how did you know that I am pretty? Did you look at my other questions?

[PiuBelloAmante]

no lol i have a sixth sense!
i thought this was anonymous? lol
people usually ask these questions anonymously

[iloveyoutoo112]

Oh... okay. Whoa you're right on! How did you know?

[PiuBelloAmante]

i told you sixth sense, special powers!
=P

[iloveyoutoo112]

lol :)

[Frost_Byt3]

Sounds to me like you are slightly anorexic. 109 lbs is pretty far underweight for someone who is 5'5. The average weight for a girl 5'5 is around 125 or so. Yes you still see yourself as fat on certain areas of your body. 109 isn't dangerous to your health, but it is pretty far underweight. But it will become a problem unless you learn how to vurb your anorexia. I would talk to your parents about it.

[iloveyoutoo112]

Well... I think you are calculating on an adult scale, not a child/teen scale. I'm still growing so I can't count as an adult you know?

[Frost_Byt3]

I'm calculating according to the BMI scale. Its based on a hight to weight ratio and has absolutely nothing to do with age. And since you are 16 and 5'5 you are probably done growing. You are at the average height of grown women at this point.

[Anonymous]

5 5 at 109 is kind of chubby for a kid but kind of relatively thin for an adult so you're probably smaller than people around you bit used to being smaller as a kid. You haven't adjusted to adult size. in my opinion it'd not skinny it's just people are pretty chubby in general so it's skinny by comparison.

[iloveyoutoo112]

No, I'm not a kid. I'm 15 years old. Does that change your answer?

[PureBliss]

Nope you're not skinny. Happy?

[iloveyoutoo112]

@PureBliss That was sarcasm, right? I mean if you were serious, then I'm guessing you're just trying to be mean, but if you were being sarcastic, no problem.

[PureBliss]

I was being sarcastic. You're not far, many people have told you that. If you aren't going to believe it now, you never will.

[PureBliss]

fat* not far. My bad.

[iloveyoutoo112]

How come I NEVER see it when I look in the mirror?

[PureBliss]

Because you're really insecure. I'm not sure why. Have confidence, that's the most attractive thing to people.

[iloveyoutoo112]

I probably have Body Dysmorphic Disorder... do you know what that is?

[Anonymous]

Your skinny to average.. People used to say exactly the same thing and I'd always complain about my arms and legs so I just started playing a sport and i got toned and I feel great. If it bothers you do something but your perfectly fine if you don't

[iloveyoutoo112]

Well I'm a dancer. I dance every day... but I STILL feel like I'm not skinny! What do you mean by skinny to average? What does that mean?

[Opinion Owner]

well I should just say your petite.. It's hard to feel like your skinny when society says it's never enough. Maybe if you gain a little muscle you'll feel better

[iloveyoutoo112]

Um... I'm not petite, because usually petite means 5'4 and under. I'm taller than that... maybe I'm just skinny? Or am I skinny-average?

[Opinion Owner]

Oh I'm sorry I consider everyone below 5'7 petite.. Um sorry again your skinny I mean your largest size is 4 your skinny

[iloveyoutoo112]

Okay haha but how come when I look in the mirror I don't see a skinny person? Is it because I have BDD or is it because it's the mirror's fault?

[Opinion Owner]

It's all about confidence but I truly believe you are skinny and im sure beautiful too

[xPoison]

You're skinny. What's your body shape? You can always post pics. You don't necessarily have to show your face. You would have to take front shot and a side one

[iloveyoutoo112]

Um... I don't know what my body shape is. Hmmmm I mean how do you tell?

[xPoison]

You would have to measure your bust, waist, and hips. Depending on those measurements I'll have a clear image on your body shape.

[iloveyoutoo112]

Okay

Bust: 29 in
Waist: 26 in
Hips: 35 in

[xPoison]

My body measurements are 34B-26-37 I'm 5'5 too and I weight 118-120ibs. You're skinnier than me and you're a pear shape like me. Your body fat however is distributed to your thighs and arms. Mines don't go to my arms. Mostly my hips, bums, and leg.

I can post a pic of my body if you like in my profile. Just imagine me about 8-10 pounds lighter

[xPoison]

I can tell you that you are skinny for sure

[iloveyoutoo112]

Well I haven't completely filled out yet, because I'm still growing and my boobs still need to grow in. Does that happen?

[iloveyoutoo112]

And yeah sure please upload a pic :)

[xPoison]

You're still developing and growing. Just don't get skinnier from there. Gaining a little weight wouldn't be bad but other than that you're fine.

I'll post a pic of my body in my profile. Since you're shot 8 pounds lighter than me, you're defi skinny. I'm more average.

[iloveyoutoo112]

Oh... I feel like 10 pounds isn't a big difference. 30 pounds, to me, is a big difference, not 10 pounds.

[xPoison]

Lol yea, but on skinny people like you and me weight difference is noticeable. by the way at your age i was weighing 105 and that was because my metabolism was super fast and b purple would tell me the same thing. That could be your case. But you're skinny :) healthy skinny

[iloveyoutoo112]

Okay I saw your picture. I really don't want to offend you by saying this. But I want THIN thighs. I probably already do, but if I'm only 10 pounds lighter than you, than I probably have thick thighs like yours... right? I'm sorry if I sounded like I was criticizing you :(

[iloveyoutoo112]

"i was weighing 105 and that was because my metabolism was super fast and b purple would tell me the same thing."
What does b purple mean?

[xPoison]

Lol you didn't offend me :p my thighs aren't really thick though, their average. You can't have skinny thighs unless you lose weight but you're already skinny, and missing more weight would be unhealthy. Guys love women with meat in their bone, in fact they love thighs, don't rid yourself of it.

[iloveyoutoo112]

haha okay are you saying about me specifically that I can't have skinny thighs unless I lose weight?

[xPoison]

When you lose weight you lose weight from every part of your body. Even if you lost weight, your thighs will look bigger than all your body part. Thats what pear shape are. Pear shapes are actually the healthiest shape you can be. You are a low risk of heart attack and et. You have a feminine shape, thsts already something to be proud of

[iloveyoutoo112]

Oh... well my shape isn't very defined yet lol...

[badger25]

you are skinny. never ever use the body mass index to for judgement.

ex I am 5'9" and 185 the BMI says I am overweight, however i am a fairly well built guy and there is no way I am overweight

[iloveyoutoo112]

That's because you have muscle. I am not very muscular... and skinny as in healthy skinny?

[badger25]

well at 5'5" and 109 you are at a healthy weight. most likely,

[iloveyoutoo112]

Yeah I know I'm at a healthy weight... and it also says I am at the 26th percentile for my weight.

[headstomper]

man you're skinny! I could easily lift you with one hand

[iloveyoutoo112]

You probably could :)

[headstomper]

just eat more and stay healthy. don't worry about it now since you're still young and your body is still developing. If you starve yourself now, this might affect your growth and you'll end up looking funny when you're 21 and that's not something you'd want now is it?

[iloveyoutoo112]

Nope haha :) Thanks for helping me out :) And don't worry, I eat like a horse! I literally eat so much, it's not even funny. I probably have a super fast metabolism though because I am always hungry. Seriously.

[Klaatu51]

your weight is too little for your height in my opinion

[iloveyoutoo112]

Which is probably true.

[Littlett25]

Your probably skinny, and your arms & thighs probably don't have much muscle in them.

[iloveyoutoo112]

So what difference does it make if my arms did have muscle?

[Littlett25]

They would look toned, not chubby. I guess I answered your question with kind of a different topic but... Oh well

[iloveyoutoo112]

Ohhhh well I thought skinny people don't have flabby arms. I think I have Body Dysmorphic Disorder where I think of myself as fatter than I really am. I probably do have thin arms.

[Littlett25]

Probably. I don't think they are fat. Probably just made of fat.

[iloveyoutoo112]

lol yeah I know... I should really try to lift weights or something.

[Littlett25]

Weight lifting is really benificial, you should definitely try it. Just make sure to eat well & have protein after you work out.

[iloveyoutoo112]

Yes I already do that :)

[MarissaNoelA]

Yeah for your age, and height, your definitly skimny.

[iloveyoutoo112]

Thanks haha I know

[Anonymous]

You have a poor body image problem. it's psychological. Only a therapist can help you with that

[iloveyoutoo112]

Do you mean that I see myself as fatter than I really am?

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah

[iloveyoutoo112]

You're probably right.

[martyfellow]

Solong as you can skp rope, you are ok

[iloveyoutoo112]

lol okay...

[iAwesome]

You sound far from fat

[iloveyoutoo112]

haha thanks :) Am I skinny though?

[iAwesome]

I don't know because I haven't seen you but you're at a healthy weight for your height so you're surely not overweight.

[iloveyoutoo112]

I know lol :) It says I'm in the 26th percentile for my age and weight...

[NExPats12]

Skinny lol you're good.

[iloveyoutoo112]

Do you think I may be anorexic skinny or healthy skinny?

[NExPats12]

Healthy!

[iloveyoutoo112]

What weight would anorexic skinny be?

[NExPats12]

I'm guessing you want to be anorexic Huh?

[iloveyoutoo112]

Well I don't know... I just want to look skinny, like skinnier than usual. But I think I'm already skinnier than usual...

[NExPats12]

So then stop if you feel that before you end up with an eating disorder.

[iloveyoutoo112]

Well I don't FEEL that at all, I don't even think I look skinny but my weight shows that I am. Maybe I have BDD?

[puncakegirl]

Sounds like a case of body dysmorphic disorder

[iloveyoutoo112]

Yes indeed! It's annoying!!

[puncakegirl]

You're defiantly over thinking

[iloveyoutoo112]

I know! How should I stop?

[puncakegirl]

Tell your self that you're ok.
Because you are

[iloveyoutoo112]

Well I know I am lol

[jakecali2]

can't really judge without a pic

[iloveyoutoo112]

Oh I know you can't. But you're not getting one.

[iloveyoutoo112]

What about this: my measurements are 30-26-35. Happy? What do you say?

[jakecali2]

I have no Idea what those numbers mean lmao

[iloveyoutoo112]

Bust: 30 in
Waist: 26 in
Hips: 35 in

[iloveyoutoo112]

Get it now?

[jakecali2]

no not really

[Shubham_22]

Well we obviously need a photo to tell you.

[iloveyoutoo112]

Sorry I'm skipping that :) But here are my measurements:

Bust: 30 in
Waist: 26 in
Hips: 35 in

Does that help?

[Shubham_22]

Your waist is pretty good, but I have no idea how to judge your bust and hips.
well I must say if you are willing to tell your size you might as well send or upload a photo. Coz I really dont know how to judge the other two things

[iloveyoutoo112]

What do you mean my waist is pretty good? Pretty normal or pretty small?

[Shubham_22]

Pretty normal. Girls usually have 28. But 26 is normal too. I've seen many girls having 26. But really. Do not know about the other two things

[iloveyoutoo112]

Hmm... what if I said my waist was 25? The last time I measured, it was 25 inches.

[Shubham_22]

Well I have 30 inch waist, and I am not skinny. So I would like a girl who jas 25-26 inch waist. won't hurt, you're not skinny, but not healthy too, which is a good thing I guess.

[iloveyoutoo112]

lol you said I'm not skinny but not healthy either. What in the world does that mean?

[Shubham_22]

Well you do not have to worry of being healthy. You may call yourself a bit skinny, but how do you really expect me to tell you exactly? Without seeing your photo? If you do not want to upload ot here, message me or something. But really you have a little skinny waist

[iloveyoutoo112]

No I don't think I want to. But yeah you already helped me and I know I'm skinny so yeah. I'm skinnier than most girls my height and age.

[Shubham_22]

By the looks of it, you want to ne skinny. Whats your height?

[iloveyoutoo112]

Well I already told you in the post. I'm 5'5. READ. Use your eyes.

And I don't WANT to be skinny, I AM skinny.

[Shubham_22]

I read what mattered. Easy girl. I just dint read a thing, did not hit anyone with my car, not a big deal.
and well if you know you are skinny, then why this question?

[iloveyoutoo112]

Because I don't see it when I look in the mirror. But people in real life tell me I'm skinny and I'm a size 2. And my BMI is in the 26th percentile. Soooooo uh yeah I AM skinny.

[Shubham_22]

We teens have a tendency to undermine oursleves, so you maybe skinny, but think you are healthy, it's ok, many teens think like that

[iloveyoutoo112]

haha alright thanks :) You're a teen too?

[Shubham_22]

Just turned 18, but I yea I would like to call myself a teen.

[iloveyoutoo112]

oh haha okay

[Shubham_22]

People have different kinds of responsibilities when they turn 18, people expect big things from them.
anyway, you in high school?

[iloveyoutoo112]

Yah I'm a freshman

[Shubham_22]

Oh, that's cool, always exciting to enter High school.
What subjects have you taken up?

[iloveyoutoo112]

Well I'm a very performing arts-oriented person. I'm an actor, dancer, and I do a bit of singing, but not a lot. And I play instruments. And I'm a runner.

[Shubham_22]

Well that's one hell of a personality, i'm sure you have loads of career opportunities, and by the way you talk, you look a bit intellectual too.
The entire package then maybe ;)
Only confidence i guess, that too just an assumption, maybe a problem. But that is normal amongst us, teens.

[iloveyoutoo112]

Yeah lol and I guess that's something other girls will be jealous of. I mean I make very good grades and I go to one of the top 20 private school in America. And on top of that, I'm pretty. And I have a great personality.

[Shubham_22]

That's pretty impressive, going to a top Private school in the States, getting straight A's, great personality, pretty, yeah girls would be pretty jealous, but you must be popular among guys too, so are you dating any of those guys, or have a crush on someone?

[iloveyoutoo112]

No, I am not dating anyone, but the guys I like all like me back AND other guys like me as well. However, they never actually ask me out and I don't know why! It's really crazy, with all these rumors zooming around about guys who like me... but hey, I have never had a boyfriend, neither have I hooked up with anyone before. There were rumors that this guy and I hooked up... UGH it's crazy!

[Shubham_22]

Well rumours will be generated if one is popular, so we have to deal with it. But that's pretty weird, no one asking you out, even if you both like each other, seriously, maybe you don't like each other then. Well it's their loss, you seem like a pretty wonderful girl, i would really like to know more of you.

[iloveyoutoo112]

Oh hell no they don't ask me out because they're intimidated. Come on, you haven't had that experience before? Where you liked a girl (however you two aren't really great friends) but you were afraid you would be rejected or felt like you weren't good enough for her so you didn't ask her?

[Shubham_22]

Well i did, but she was a senior, and was a good friend, i din't want to ruin the friendship, other than that, i dont think so, i've asked out 2 girls, they both accepted, i usually don't fall for a girl really quick.

[iloveyoutoo112]

Were you two good friends? Did you guys talk a lot? And was she super pretty? Or was she kinda pretty?

[Shubham_22]

We did talk a lot, can't say very god friends, but we would sit and talk for long, and yeah she was super pretty.

[Shubham_22]

But how does that make a difference?

[iloveyoutoo112]

Because the guys that like me don't know me very well, or really, at all. Maybe we have had a few conversations but nothing like what you had. It's sad... it's all based on looks.

[Shubham_22]

How can a person fall based on looks, it has to be everything, at least more than looks, like you, if a person falls for you, it would be acceptable, you obviously have more than looks.

[iloveyoutoo112]

I know, but the guys don't know that, since we don't talk very much so they wouldn't know much about my personality or my interests. They only know that I am pretty.

[Shubham_22]

Oh, lol, well it's opposite with me.
But since you said you are pretty, i believe you :)

[iloveyoutoo112]

lol... what, you didn't think I was pretty, or you doubted me when I said it before?

[Shubham_22]

lol, i never thought that you were not pretty, and i never doubted it, but i would like to see a pretty and a fun girl like you.

[iloveyoutoo112]

Nope, don't want to show you, sorry. I'm a really cautious person on the internet, so I don't give out photos or anything.

[Shubham_22]

I'm not saying to post your photo, you can message (inbox) me your id or something, but if you don't want to, that's a different case altogether.

[iloveyoutoo112]

No I mean I don't want to at all...

[Shubham_22]

Ok well, good day then.

[Izzex3]

I'd say average.

[iloveyoutoo112]

You were being sarcastic, right? Please tell me that was a joke

[Izzex3]

I wasn't.
I was around that weight and height in high school. Everyone called me "skinny" but I was healthy. For me I was "average".
Why even ask? Did you just want everyone to confirm your thought of being skinny or?

[iloveyoutoo112]

Well I kind of know I'm skinny, cuz you know everyone said I was and my size is like a size 0-2. Was that your size as well?

[iloveyoutoo112]

Sorry I meant everyone says I AM skinny.

[Izzex3]

Then why ask? Lol.
I was 102 and a size 5. All my friends were much bigger than me, but were size 0's and 1's and no one believed my size.
Just height weight and pant size doesn't say how skinny someone is.
I'm 114 now and I'm a size 1 and 2. If you go to mybodygallery. com and type in your weight and height you'll see how much people differ from each other even though they're around the same size. Some look skinny. Some look to me, average.
I weigh more than some people, but I look a lot more slimmer than them.

[iloveyoutoo112]

I guess you'd have to see a picture to know anyway

[Izzex3]

Yupp.

[Katy16]

I'd say skinny

[iloveyoutoo112]

I don't know.. no matter how much people say to me that I'm skinny, I don't feel that way when I look in the mirror. I always see arms that are too fat, thighs that are too fat, etc. You know? It's so weird!!! I just want to know if I'm actually skinny or not :(

[iloveyoutoo112]

Is it possible to be skinny but have fat arms and thighs?

[Katy16]

Maybe they just aren't toned, but I highly doubt they look fat. I'm your height and if I was that weight I'd be super skinny

[iloveyoutoo112]

Really? Hmmm... what difference does it make if they are toned?

[Katy16]

They would have more muscle so it might make them appear smaller or they might just get more defined

[iloveyoutoo112]

Does it mean I have flabby arms? I'm a dancer so I don't exactly lift weights or anything, and I don't do push ups...

[Katy16]

I wouldn't put it that way, but if you don't do any toning they probably aren't as toned as they could be, but honestly there isn't anything wrong with that

[iloveyoutoo112]

What do toned arms look like?

[Katy16]

I don't know, I guess that depends on how toned there would be different levels

[iloveyoutoo112]

I thought skinny people don't even need to tone their arms because they already look like sticks.

[Katy16]

Well even being skinny you can be more toned but I really don't think it's necessary

[iloveyoutoo112]

Okay haha :) Thanks!

[Katy16]

You're welcome :)

[Anonymous]

you sound skinny.

[iloveyoutoo112]

I know I do sound skinny. Would you like a picture?

[MarissaNoelA]

Yes picture would be better

[iloveyoutoo112]

How do I message you if you're anon? If you don't go off anon, you're not getting a picture.