Wrong way of handling this?

[Anonymous]

It has been about two months since my boyfriend of three years broke up with me. I admit the first few weeks were the worst. However, I have now accepted the break up, I really want him back but don't know if I'm handling this in the right way.

He wanted to stay friends and I told him I would try, but it seems that every time we touch base as "friends" its just that. Sometimes, I'll get I'm thinking of you texts or how are you doin? texts and to me that's not good enough and that's not about us being friends. I have been avoiding those texts and never respond unless it is a "friendly" text, i.e. updates on our favorite sports teams or shows, etc. when it comes down to thinking of you texts, if he isn't telling me he misses me, wants to see me, needs to talk to me, I don't see a point to put myself through all that wonder... Am I handling this all wrong if I still want him but don't know how else to act? Will this just push him further a way and force him to move on?

[AtomizerJr]

Not to pick on you, but when we truly accept something, it means we don't fight it any longer. I don't think you've accepted the breakup.

I think your best move is to cut off all contact with him. Not, I repeat, not to force him back into your life or make him realize what he lost. Instead, cut off all contact for the rest of your life. Forget him. He doesn't want to date you? That's his choice. But _you_ are torturing yourself, and you can ctop it today.

Good luck.