You can't be responsible for how someone is going to react to something. If you do, then you're going to beat yourself up for many things that will happen in life that have nothing to do with you. Sure, indirectly, you might have done something and it set him off, but what about a regular guy who wouldn't have had a heart attack? Sounds like anything in his life that would have stressed him out would have brought it on. You won't be the last. Some time down the road something else will get to him and it will trigger another episode.
I also don't encourage you to live your life in guilt worrying that you have to pussy-foot around his feelings in order to save his life. You owe it to yourself to live your life and do what makes you happy, and let him take responsibility for his reactions in his own life.
I know how you feel, because when I was 25 I broke up with my boyfriend of four years and he tried to commit suicide. He was holed up in the hospital for two weeks on watch and I blamed myself for making him feel so bad, putting him in that position. I soon realized that, no, he would have ended up there regardless of what I did, and if it wasn't me, it would have been another girl. He just handled things badly in life and I was one more person to add to it. We really have no power over people who end up where they are. They had weak systems (in your ex's case) and handled bad news very poorly. In my ex's case, it was about manipulation and wanting me to feel bad so I might stay.
I didn't live my life for someone like that, and I encourage you not to do this either. They will learn to go on and live without you and get some treatment or counselling on how to handle problems better.
If you like someone else, go for it. Your ex is an ex for a reason, and you deserve to be happy and move on to a better place in your life, a new chapter, without the drama. :)
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This is NOT your fault, so don't blame yourself. He might have a weak heart, or any number of inherent problems. Yes, breaking up is traumatic, but something entirely unconnected could trigger the same heart trouble.
So stop worrying!!
Scientifically yes.
You can die of "broken heart syndrome".
www.theguardian.com/.../broken-heart-stress-cardiomyopathy-takosubo
We are still trying to understand the workings behind it but it is a noted syndrome.
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I've had a similar feeling.
I was so upset over a girl once that I passed out in the kitchen floor. Felt like a lead block dropping from my head to my toes, and I fell like a sack of potatoes.
It wasn't her fault, and neither was it yours. I could just as easily have had a heart attack.Wow a heart attack at 20 years old? you sure he doesn't have a history of bad hearts in his family or something?
As for what to do, well there isn't really much you can do, except wait and hope for the best, I mean it wasn't your fault.He obviously is still hung up on you. You should have cut it off. Not stayed friends. No contact. You're just killing the man y'know?
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I had bad chest pains over a break up Its really hard core
It's not your fault at all. He had a heart condition and that is nothing to do with you breaking up with him. Stop blaming yourself and move on
no, it's not your fault.
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