How to gain weight?

[Mollyxxx]

Tips for gaining weight?
I am a 5'8 girl who is 109 pounds. My mother is constantly telling me im anorexic and it really gets to my self-esteem. I love fruits and vegetables, so I know I could probably eat more fatty meats? I don't like anything greasy as it makes me feel sick easily. I DO eat tons of cookies/pastries already - but I seem to have a very high metabolism.

[redeyemindtricks]

Hey there!

The first order of business, here, is to make sure that YOU want to gain weight for reasons that are authentically YOURS, and not someone else's.

It sounds like yr mother is basically trying to bully you into getting fatter -- yep, the word I used is "bullying" -- and you're thinking about giving in. (Has yr mother gained weight herself recently? I know that SOME mothers have this weird sense of competition with their daughters -- and it's the UNhealthy kind of competition, where they try to drag the daughter down to *their* level rather than be inspired by the daughter's progress. That thought is unthinkable and unconscionable to me as a mother... but I know it's out there.)
You shouldn't give in to that kind of thing at *any* age, but especially not now that you're genuinely an adult.

In other words... Before you think about the HOW here... Think about the WHY and the WHETHER.

It's perfectly possible that you could be in optimal health right now, and that trying to gain weight would just be sacrificing your own health for the sake of getting a bully to stop bullying.
You're 18. When I was 18, I weighed about 120 lbs, and I'm just a tiny fraction under 6'2" -- so, my BMI was lower than yours is now -- and I was in perfect physical health. Like you, I LOVED vegetables (but not really fruits) and ate a shit-ton of them all the time. But I also ate plenty of my father's Mexican cuisine, and... still 120 lbs.

If you actually have an eating disorder, then, if you're being honest with yourself, you'll *know* you have an eating disorder (unless you are in denial... doesn't sound like that, from my brief impression).
**IF** you think it would actually help you get yr mother off yr case, then you could TRY going to the doctor for verification... but, honestly, if I were you I wouldn't bother, for 3 reasons. (1) If yr mother is basically bullying you, or feels like she's "losing" a "competition" with you, then a rational professional opinion isn't going to stop that. (2) Doctors don't usually spend more than 3-5 minutes with a healthy patient. When it comes to weight, a doctor MIGHT not do anything other than look up yr BMI and say "oh, underweight" -- without any actual consideration to yr health -- which would of course worsen the problem. (3) Doctor visits aren't free, in terms of either time or money.

In any case, from the sounds of it, I think you are probably OK.

But... if you actually DO want to put on weight, then the easiest

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way to do that is to eat as many meals as you can that contain BOTH carbohydrate AND fat calories in significant amounts. (The science behind this is that carbs spike insulin, which then tends to store fat readily as bodyfat.) If you're eating almost entirely carbs with very little fat -- or vice wersa -- then you won't put on weight as easily.

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Incidentally, there is no such thing as a "fast/high metabolism". If you aren't gaining weight, then that will ALWAYS be explainable by one or more of 4 factors:
(1) You don't have as much of an appetite (for foods with calories) as other people,
(2) You MOVE a lot as part of yr everyday life -- work, leisure, hobbies, etc,
(3) You're partitioning nutrients in a way that doesn't promote weight gain (see above about carbs/fat),
(4) You're overestimating yr food energy intake. (If you eat tons of vegetables, this is more likely. Most vegetables have VERY few calories -- you can eat an entire pound of most vegetables, except the

[redeyemindtricks]

starchy vegetables like carrots and corn, and still be WELL under 100 calories.)

Good luck. And if you have that kind of passive-aggressive mother who's trying to bring you down to her level... I'm sorry, but, stay strong and keep yr head up. From a mom who don't roll like that. <3

[Mollyxxx]

I wouldn't call my mom passive-aggressive. She is just straight up aggressive. 😅 And yeah, she has gained a lot of weight recently and constantly complained about her figure - so I think she compares with me. Thankyou for your input! This is my most helpful opinion so far. :)

[redeyemindtricks]

Glad I could help ya sweetheart. Feel free to hit me up with any other q's.

[redeyemindtricks]

Tx for the MH luv. <3

[Xfitchick]

Eat enough proteins (if you like vegetable ones like beans, pees, ...) and workout with heavy enough weights. Take carbs but only healthy ones (no sugar, only full rice, ...) Than you will buils muscle and only little fat and your muscle/fat ratio will be OK. Then you will end up with a very lean and toned body. I am 5'5" and 134 lbs and I don't look fat.

[Anonymous]

FIRST, STOP!

Better to be SKINNY than fat. Plus you look really great, people are just envy, because they can't look like you do and you can eat so much, but they can't.

I know nowadays it's popular to be super fat, because almost everyone is fat and it's ridicolous, especially in America. Where there are so many fat people, that I would raise taxes, just because of that!

People in America BEFORE 2000 they were SUPER fit and also skinny. But they could run, even kids. Look at kids nowadays they can run only if they see pokemon go. Their best friend is cellphone and their favorite food is big mac and coca cola.

Fat people (obesity) that's the big problem and what's even more shocking. It's getting popular trend, because many people can't lose weight, so they are like wow being fat is cool, be cool be fat. That's totall BULLSHIT! The slogan should be : BE FIT, BE HEALTHY!

So be skinny at least you can run :) Believe me I rather date a skinny girl than some fat girl.

But if you really want. Get a proper plan and you'll need to eat at least 3000 - 5000 calories a day (6 meals a day) you are ectomorph / high metabolism.

[Mollyxxx]

I completely understand what you're saying - and it makes me sad too that so many people are unhealthy.

[Josht13]

You are going to want to star weight training (you will not get big and muscly most women can't put muscle anything like men so don't worry) make sure you are eating lots of protein and are eating calories at a surplus of 500 from your maintenance calories. This guide goes over the basics and helps you know what macros you need and good exercises:
https://liamrosen.com/fitness.html

[abc3643]

You are not anorexic. Be yourself and don't listen to your mother. Nature will take over and you will eventually gain weight. Of all people, your mother should know that by her age.

[kelvinmed]

Try a plant based protein powder. I'm using one and people tell I'm being more energetic. Eat a bunch of avocados and bananas. They both got protein, they're good for the hair and bananas help your stomach and ease periods pain and cramps

[KittieCat]

@redeyemindtricks This seems like a you question lol

[redeyemindtricks]

Tx for the tag. (:

[archiz]

you need a dietitian to give you a diet to follow up

[John_Doesnt]

You need stuff that is high in protein like eggs and tuna.

[genericname85]

you just keep eating shit xD it´s not that hard. look for stuff with a very high calory density.

[Regulatus]

Buy a tub of protein powder. Or drink more milk.

[BellePepper]

Talk to your doctor.